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Porn sites Pornhub, XVideos, and Stripchat face stricter requirements to verify the ages of their users after being officially designated as “Very Large Online Platforms” (VLOPs) under the European Union’s Digital Services Act (DSA).

I personally have mixed feelings, as the information collection could be used to link individuals and profile them. Possibly leading to discrimination if abused.

But I also feel that any random kid shouldn't be able to just go to these sites and see porn freely.
Ofc, there's always going to be those who mange to circumvent any protection put in place but it'd be much harder then just clicking a link or typing in the address.

I also feel that parents should actively monitor their kids online activities and step up a Blocklist to pro-actively prevent kids from reaching these sites to begin with.

What are your thoughts on this?

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[–] BrikoX@lemmy.zip 87 points 11 months ago (2 children)

But I also feel that any random kid shouldn’t be able to just go to these sites and see porn freely.

So they will just go to another site that doesn't have age verification and doesn't implement any security measures instead. Big sites are required to age check people before they are allowed to upload anything, that is not the case for most of the internet.

All age verification does is aggregate personal information and make it easy target for bad actors to steal. Instead of needing to go thought 100 sites, now that information & identities will be tied to a single database.

It's also a slippery slope, since the same adult content is available not just on dedicated adult sites, but mainstream social media. Lemmy, Mastodon, Twitter, TikTok, Twitch (just recently wanted to allow nudity). Do you really want to have your identity tied to your online activity?

[–] curiousaur@reddthat.com 47 points 11 months ago (9 children)

Governments should not be taking on parental duties.

[–] VolunTerry@monero.town 6 points 11 months ago

+1 here, friend. Spread the word.

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[–] DaDragon@kbin.social 4 points 11 months ago

Yep. I spent a couple years as a child in a country with country-wide blocks on some internet content. However, google images wasn’t blocked (duh.) Reddit wasn’t blocked (not that I knew the site at the time).

Only thing it changed from a user-perspective was using either shitty and seedy VPN’s or simply going to more questionable sites the authority blocklist didn’t know of yet. And I’ll be honest, I doubt that sites like xnxx (back then) are much better for a developing child than the somewhat controlled sites. There’s so many niche porn sites out there that they can’t all be blocked. You only end up blocking access to sites that are the flattest for access by minors, ironically. (To be clear, I’m not saying that it’s great that minors access that content, either)

[–] HMH@lemmy.ml 65 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

The good old "Think of the children" argument again... This is an attack on online privacy, again. I hate it.

It is the parents responsibility to keep their kids safe. We don't ban knives either just because a child could accidentally get hurt by one. And apart from that the regulations are not even well thought out, they will not stop a determined teenager with a lot of time on their hands.

[–] Facebones@reddthat.com 21 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Funny how the venn diagram of "it's the govts job to protect my kids at all costs" and "the govt shouldn't come near my children with a 10 foot pole because they're brainwashers" is a perfect circle.

[–] VolunTerry@monero.town 8 points 11 months ago

👍 Yep, it's sad. I can protect them along with the help of my family, friends and community. If not, I will admit failure and live with the consequences. But it's up to me to grow up and build skills and learn patience and responsibility, not the job of others.

Parents need to get back to parenting instead of absolving themselves of what they see as a pesky responsibility of raising the children they produce and putting their lives and impressionable minds in the hands of others, then wondering what went wrong 20-some years on and blaming everyone but themselves.

[–] eager_eagle@lemmy.world 52 points 11 months ago (1 children)

In the worst case a privacy nightmare, and in the best case useless.

[–] RGB3x3@lemmy.world 29 points 11 months ago (1 children)

"Please enter your age:"

Me, 15 years old: "Yes, I was born in 1973."

[–] eager_eagle@lemmy.world 16 points 11 months ago

"use this rotary phone to enter your year of birth"

[–] Mango@lemmy.world 32 points 11 months ago

I don't want any company putting my identity into a database along with my sexual interests. Just consider what's been done to the gay++ community.

[–] ShortN0te@lemmy.ml 26 points 11 months ago (9 children)

Electronic ids can provide the age verification without giving out any personal information. This is a solved problem at least for a lot of ids in the EU.

But no i still find it a stupid idea. It is the parents job to parent them.

[–] harry_balzac@lemmy.world 16 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Exactly - it's the parents' responsibility.

Imagine any government telling car manufacturers that they have to verify that everyone who starts their vehicles has a valid drivers license.

[–] RandoCalrandian@kbin.social 7 points 11 months ago

Don’t give them ideas, this is exactly the type of shit they want to enact

[–] ares35@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

give it time. the government (us) wants to put interlock gadgets into every new car to prevent drunks from driving. driving under the influence is illegal and those that do are more likely to kill someone. so is driving without a license, and so are those drivers.

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[–] digdilem@lemmy.ml 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I suspect you haven't worked with governments before.

Just because something is technically possible, it's no guarantee that it will be the chosen mechanism for something. More likely the contract will be awarded to either the lowest possible bidder, or to a friend of a friend. Cronyism is depressingly common at all levels.

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[–] sir_reginald@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago (2 children)

isn't the id unique? which means that sites can trace every visit you make and what videos you watch every time?

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[–] turkalino@lemmy.yachts 19 points 11 months ago (4 children)

Might be a stupid question but is there any peer reviewed research that shows that porn is harmful to minors? Early humans didn't have clothes so minors were seeing nudity for centuries. Of course, there's the issue that porn gives men unrealistic expectations about women & sex, but that's an issue regardless of age.

[–] CaptainSpaceman@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago

Probably not, its just religious pearl clutching for the most part that has been passed down unnecessarily

Free the bodies, let everyone be naked and we will all stop giving a shit

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[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 19 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Let's be real, teens, especially males, will actively search for porn. Blocklists can be pointless, because even if you can blacklist 160k pornhub clones, they can just join a discord or telegram server instead.

Frankly, I think parents should just make them aware that just like cinema, those videos are for show, not for "trying at home". Parents should tell them that if they ever expect sex to be like in the porn they consume, they'll be sorely disappointed. Most of it is faker than reality tv. Oh, it can also make boys get really fucking insecure, especially about their own size.

[–] Microw@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago

That's not a problem in my opinion. Obviously teens are a big demographic for big sites like pornhub. And they will consume porn in one way or another. I would love it if they used more ethical porn platforms, but whatever it is it is.

The issue with these sites has always been that they will blast videos into your face as soon as you open the website, without the usual barrier to register first. And that makes it a problem for any child between 5 and 11 years old who might stumble onto that page because someone is pulling a prank or whatever. The un-natural, violent kind of porn promoted by sites like Pornhub should not be broadcasted into the minds of actually small children.

[–] mindbleach@sh.itjust.works 15 points 11 months ago (2 children)

But I also feel that any random kid shouldn’t be able to just go to these sites and see porn freely.

At some point, you have to ask - why?

If that's the alternative to spying on everyone, I'm still opposed to spying on everyone. Unsupervised internet access leading kids to pornography certainly would not be new. It's not the end of the world.

Just throw your warnings and have a click-through. It'll be just as effective, much cheaper, and not leave bastard politicians salivating about their social control fetish.

[–] VolunTerry@monero.town 6 points 11 months ago

Raise thoughtful, moral children. They are going to see porn in our modern society. How they process it has to do a lot with the tools they have to do that. That's the parents job. Not to pretend a 100% prohibition or firewall can be erected, but to raise resilient children who can thrive and not become irreparably damaged by the things they are exposed to in the world they grow into.

Recognition that they will come into contact with it also does not mean you have to endorse it or present them with it. It's not a binary thing. Choose how you want to parent and observe the results of different approaches. YMMV.

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[–] pipariturbiini@sopuli.xyz 14 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Kids are smart. Horny teenagers even more so. They will find loopholes or ways to circumvent these kind of things - speaking from experience. At age 13 I installed a keylogger on my PC to get the password for a parental control software my parents installed. Roughly one year later I also exploited a vulnerability in iOS 4 that allowed me to see the parental controls password in plaintext so I could re-enable Safari.

[–] Steamymoomilk@sh.itjust.works 6 points 11 months ago

Mr.hacker man? Lol Yeah adding restrictions is like the alchol prohibition in the US. Restricing it is going to make it more prevlent and easily acessible. There may be more sites that pop up that boot leg it. Kinda like schools with cool math games being blocked so you have unblocked games websites.

[–] rbesfe@lemmy.ca 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

My first exposure to porn was through sprays in TF2. Kids are gonna see this shit regardless of how much you invade everyone else's privacy

[–] brygphilomena@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

I'm getting flashbacks to Counter Strike. It's been a long time since I've thought of sprays in games.

[–] Anonymouse@lemmy.world 12 points 11 months ago

Is it the responibility of any government to enforce a parental policy? What if I, as a parent, support my kid to view this stuff?

At home, I was allowed to have alcohol with supper at family meals from about 13.

I feel like the regulations should be to give parents control over their child's activities if they so choose. While we're at it, make it illegal to collect information about a person, parent or child, without their express concent. I don't know how, but there are many smart people in the world that can probably figure it out.

[–] tacosanonymous@lemm.ee 9 points 11 months ago

I think there are a host of problems including equity, efficacy, privacy, etc.

We don’t need morality police, we need education and better health care. If parents have an issue, they need to parent better.

[–] Gutless2615@ttrpg.network 9 points 11 months ago

Any so called privacy law that enriches and ensures that age verification data brokers make bank is fundamentally and irrevocably broken.

[–] admiralteal@kbin.social 8 points 11 months ago

It is an absolute privacy nightmare. Nothing should be asking for your identity that doesn't have a DAMN good reason to be asking for your identity.

Age verification is not a damn good reason. Especially since any number of free VPNs can circumventing it with just a few clicks.

[–] kbal@fedia.io 5 points 11 months ago

Snake oil salesmen never had it so good. Without the layers of abstraction provided by computers, nobody would've believed their magic elixirs would protect children from getting interested in sex until their parents approved of it.

[–] devfuuu@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

Just open another site.

[–] fruitycoder@sh.itjust.works 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Sites should empower parents to control that. Have a sign in by default and an option to ask the site to block ips associated with you to be able to sign up for more accounts.

Are there ways around it? Sure. It's a just a lock to keep honest kids out. If your kid doesn't feel comfortable about asking about stuff like this or feel like they have to around you, you aren't going to win, they'll find it, and it'll be a blast for them. If you talk about it, at least acknowledge the issues with it, say when it is and isn't appropriate, etc it'll do leagues better then all bans and censorship attempts in the world.

[–] ridethisbike@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago (3 children)

The IP thing backfires when you inevitably get assigned a new IP and the guy down the street now can't look at his porn anymore because the website blocked the IP

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[–] Squid@leminal.space 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (5 children)

Another reason to pirate

Also if the government do feel the need to "help" parents and the larger social fabric then why not put money into civil dutys classes in schools. Teach kid how to grow into normal adults, the trickle down would be much greater than these half baked ducktape tactics

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