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[–] UnGlasierteGurke@feddit.org 31 points 2 hours ago (1 children)
[–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 12 minutes ago

Even simple gripper pads work pretty well.

[–] Bombastic@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Am I missing something? He opened the lid and placed it down? That's feels good? What does that entail? Am I old?

[–] Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 59 minutes ago* (last edited 58 minutes ago)

I'm assuming they are a trans girl, so the mom saying she needs "a man's help" was misgendering her. OP basically affirmed that because they are not a man they cannot help and gave back the jar unopened. Given the pettyness one can assume that the mom misgendering OP is a frequent occurrence.

[–] renzhexiangjiao@piefed.blahaj.zone 166 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

most people think opening a jar requires installing JRE. but this is actually false, as jars are simply zip files in disguise, so you can open them using a file archiver of your choice, such as 7zip or winrar

[–] Hawke@lemmy.world 25 points 6 hours ago

Not necessarily, it could be the old JAR format which was supposed to be a successor to ARJ.

I learned this while trying to mess with Minecraft's jar file

[–] Kellenved@sh.itjust.works 20 points 6 hours ago

“Let me call my transmasc friend then”

[–] Oka@sopuli.xyz 41 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

Im using this

Im Agender AMAB, getting called a man feels like being stabbed with a fork

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 30 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

Honestly there's no reason why we need gender in our language anymore other than to describe someone's appearance for the sake of recognition (say if someone goes missing or is wanted for a crime).

Let's normalize describing people by their attributes and qualities.

"I need help from someone strong here." That's really what they needed.

Assigning typical qualities to genders is just stupid.

[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 27 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

"I need help from someone strong here." That's really what they needed.

Offtopic-ish, but a couple of years ago, I couldn't open a jar, so it said "ugh, I'm going to need a tool for this". Then my then-boyfriemd walks by, opens it and goes "you're welcome". I had to explain why I was laughing so hard.

I still tease my now-husband with that every time I need a hand.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 5 points 5 hours ago

lmao that was a good one

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 3 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Could be something like hand size as well, since it can be harder to grip large lids.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 5 points 5 hours ago

I need someone who can open this jar

if you wanna get really specific I guess 😄

[–] Kowowow@lemmy.ca 7 points 5 hours ago

I would not have understood this without reading the comments

[–] panda_abyss@lemmy.ca 12 points 7 hours ago (3 children)

If you twist the lid with your left hand, body in right, you get a bit more leverage

[–] KryptoSynth@ani.social 3 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

will this work if im left handed? thanks.

[–] EtherWhack@lemmy.world 5 points 2 hours ago

It actually works better as there is more available strength in the arm to twist something counterclockwise with the left hand.

I swear this is one of the factors of why left-handed people tend to gravitate toward mechanics or engineering. As you could take things apart a lot easier and therefore lower the threshold to learn how something was made

[–] Elting@piefed.social 4 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

Just wack the edge a couple times with the back of a butter knife and the lid will come right off

[–] morbidcactus@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 hour ago

If it's really bad (sometimes you just can't get a good grip), you can break the seal by pushing the lid up or prying a bit, there's tools that do just that, I'm totally guilty of leveraging it a bit with a crappy butter knife.

[–] Zannsolo@lemmy.world 3 points 2 hours ago

Smacking the bottom works better and you don't need to get a knife out

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 5 points 6 hours ago

Yep, pulling elbows apart muscles are stronger than pressing palms together muscles. 👍

[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 7 points 6 hours ago
[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 6 hours ago

I tried that with jar opening. Can't do it anymore :(