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[–] rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 63 points 3 days ago (1 children)

God damn it, who told the people?

[–] Gyrcas@piefed.zip 38 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Personal experience and also I remember seeing a meme that was like "You can just go to a sub, call them cute and they are all yours" and it's pretty accurate from what I saw :3

[–] Banana@sh.itjust.works 2 points 19 hours ago

Very true. Even more effective if you make them look you in the eye while you give them earnest compliments

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

Damn, I had to go make a move to get my Domme (ok, she had actually hit on me a few weeks prior, but I was blitzed off my gourd on subspace at the time and totally forgot)

[–] thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 2 days ago (3 children)

as a sub, yes, accurate :3

need someone to fluster me then claim me and make me their pet :3

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[–] Banana@sh.itjust.works 3 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

I much prefer the push, pull, and unpredictable nature of switches like myself, but I love a good sub, as a treat

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 days ago

hey! Nicole the fediverse chick doesn't count!

[–] ShadowOfMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Gyrcas@piefed.zip 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hi Miisha, nice to see you here :3

[–] xkbx@startrek.website 82 points 3 days ago (9 children)

I would love a sub. Can I get a 12” veggie with no cheese, and a light vinigraitte? All dressed

[–] VoteNixon2016@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 3 days ago

Me just looking for good sandwich suggestions:

[–] thestrike@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 3 days ago

🌟 good comment. Should have been undressed though

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[–] YourMomsTrashman@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago
[–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 26 points 3 days ago (5 children)

Lemmy DMs are not private, just saying

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[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

they're called communities on here

[–] Gyrcas@piefed.zip 7 points 2 days ago

I got three communities in my dms that I topped, happy? /j

[–] kerrigan778@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Gyrcas@piefed.zip 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

OwO, notices you're a cutie :3

[–] kerrigan778@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Gyrcas@piefed.zip 2 points 1 day ago

I'll make you blush so much you'll become my precious lil tomato~

[–] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 31 points 3 days ago

So you get to be disappointed 3x as much when you tell them to drink water?

[–] BlueLagoon@lemmy.ca 14 points 3 days ago (3 children)
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[–] cadmiumsandbox@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 3 days ago (2 children)

do u have any idea how sad not being able to travel to them feels afterwards 😭😭

[–] Gyrcas@piefed.zip 17 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I know, we recently added someone in our polycule, but she lives in the south of the USA while we are in Quebec, I want to hug and cuddle her so much but can't

[–] cadmiumsandbox@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 3 days ago (1 children)

its why i dont do long distance its so heart-stabbing yearning to not be able to teleport

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yeah I can't do long distance. Even something like 2 hrs apart feels like a huge gulf :(

[–] Filetternavn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

My gf lives 40 miles (abt an hour drive) away and that already feels like too much. I stay up there for days when I visit. But we're also considering moving in together soon :3

[–] cobalt32@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago

My partner and I lived about 60 miles apart for over 2 years before moving in together recently. It can be done!

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[–] general_kitten@sopuli.xyz 12 points 3 days ago (3 children)
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[–] you_are_dust@lemmy.world 15 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Well now you're just being greedy. Save some for everyone else.

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