maryXann

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Suggestions for permanent full time work? in c/autismplace@lemmy.autism.place
[–] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 1 points 1 day ago

Here is what works for me. If it doesn't for you then that's understandable.

At some point it gets easier to live with less than to work more. Jobs that pay a lot always either:

  • are painfully hard
  • require rare degrees of certification
  • require a lack of morality Many combine several of those items.

Personally I live with way less than what would be considered "low" in my country: it pays for my home, food (as long as I cook myself most of the time) and I am even able to keep some around in case of need. Now with that said I have no idea how it is in your country so my advice are probably off.

Who pursues foreign languages here? in c/specialinterests@lemmy.autism.place
[–] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

French. I know a bit of Spanish too but not much.

Who pursues foreign languages here? in c/specialinterests@lemmy.autism.place
[–] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 3 points 6 days ago (3 children)

I speak English. That's a foreign language for me... Does that count?

Looking for a specific psychological test in c/autismplace@lemmy.autism.place
[–] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 1 points 1 week ago

Those cubes do ring a bell although I suspect it may be fabricated memories. It being an IQ test makes sense with what was told to me, thanks!

Looking for a specific psychological test in c/autismplace@lemmy.autism.place
[–] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The pictures question wasn't about "comparing two pictures": pictures were presented only one by one and I was supposed to find "what was wrong".

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Looking for a specific psychological test (lemmy.autism.place)
 

This is about a test I took as a child, about 20 years ago (not sure if it was IQ, but it was this kind of test). I'd like to find what it was but I (obvioulsy) dont remember everything about it. However some specific details are still pretty vivid so perhaps one of you had a similar test and could have a reference.

I remember a section about assembling jigsaw puzzles. Not very complicated one but I was timed. There were also trivia questions (like "what does the U.N. acronym mean?"). More specifically, there were questions where I was shown pictures and I had to point out "what was missing". Stuff like a chest of drawers (like this one but as a simplified drawing) with one handle missing.

Thanks for your attention!

First appointment on Monday in c/autismplace@lemmy.autism.place
[–] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 1 points 1 week ago

My dad coming should be just a one-time thing, he lives hundreds of kilometers away and wouldn't make the trip just for fun. But yeah, writing it down is definitely something I'm doing (thanks for reminding me, I would have forgotten...)

First appointment on Monday in c/autismplace@lemmy.autism.place
[–] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 2 points 1 week ago

Thank you! I guess I'll still mask anyway because, well, I can't picture myself not masking at all when interacting with a stranger, and even less if my father is present. Also this shouldn't be my last appointment so hopefully I'll have other occasions.

First appointment on Monday in c/autismplace@lemmy.autism.place
[–] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 2 points 1 week ago

Thanks for your account! Mine won't be remote, and I don't have any animal at home (except some spiders but they are too cute to eat my cords).

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First appointment on Monday (lemmy.autism.place)
 

So, I am (finally) having the first appointment for my diagnosis. I would be lying if I said I wasn't stressed at all... Any tips?

For context, I'll be with my father (they asked for a parent to come), with whom I have a complicated relationship (no hostility, but still he is stressful to be around).

Comic books or manga? in c/specialinterests@lemmy.autism.place
[–] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Here in France (American) comics aren't common. Findable if you look for them, but you won't see it in your supermarket. Meanwhile mangas are almost as popular as our own kind of comics (bandes dessinées) which is its own thing.

I'm a huge fan of bandes dessinées but also read my fair share of mangas. Meanwhile I must have read perhaps one or two comics in total unless you count "Picsou magazine" (Picsou is the french translation for Scrooge McDuck)

Anyone listen to metal music? in c/specialinterests@lemmy.autism.place
[–] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 1 points 2 weeks ago

Had a Therion phase. Also Ultra Vomit but it doesn't have the same appeal now that they have become bigger.

Favorite video game? in c/specialinterests@lemmy.autism.place
[–] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I'd say Modded Minecraft, Factorio, Céleste and one I can't advertise because it's NSFW.

How to build a good support group? in c/askautisticpeople@lemmy.autism.place
[–] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 0 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

A few of those items are only redflags if done in a specific way. For example about "non-reciprocal": if you are in a wheelchair and your partner is arachnophobic, it makes sense that you are the only one who takes care about dealing with spiders while your partner is the only one who helps you move around. I recommend that you start consulting this kind of list only when something starts to "not feel right", otherwise you'll poison all your relations before they even start (because there is no such thing as a perfect relationship). Still I'm no relationship expert, so take my advice for what it's worth.

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Just wanted to share today's little success (lemmy.autism.place)
 

I know it would sound stupid for most people, but not here (I hope?)

So I am in my early thirties and I have a long history of not going enough to the doctor. When I was a child my mother was my referent doctor and she always have been in the "no need to take medecine if it's going to heal by itself" school of thinking (I don't mean that in a bad way: I still got my vaccines, etc, just that she would directly send me to specialists when there was a serious issue). After I left the house I never cared about changing my referent doctor (although of course my mom who lived hundreds of kilometers away couldn't fill this role anymore) so I just stopped seeing any health professional.

As it appeared to me more and more obviously that I was autistic, I wanted to get a diagnostic (it is needed here in France if I want to have accomodations at work and such, also I would get some money that wouldn't hurt). Among all of the steps I needed to consult a doctor. I asked some people I know if they knew doctors who would take new patients, looked all over the internet, made way more calls than it was comfortable... but I couldn't find any. The only appointment I could get had a 6 months delay, plus it was with a substitute, and I was so stressed about it that I messed up the date and came the previous day... In the end I managed to get some papers I needed but nothing more.

About a month ago I was feeling a bit sick and I decided it was enough and I needed something to be done. All the doctors were full, as always, or didn't take new patients, but some were noted as on vacation but with a substitute (and said substitute didn't specify if they took new patients or not). Rather than calling to check, I decided to just get the appointment. At worst they would send me a mail to tell me my appointment had been cancelled or whatever. Still it was very stressfull.

Anyway, my appointment went very well and this substitute doctor was very nice. She told me she would open her cabinet next year and would be able to be my refferent at that point, but also that before that she could work as a "temporary refferent" for most stuff. She looks like a great doctor.

That's all! I hope it wasn't too boring to read through my ramblings.

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