mjsaber

joined 1 year ago
[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yeah, no. Fuck my hate filled, transphobic parents and Kool aid drinking ultra conservative siblings. They knew exactly who they were voting for, and they can get fucked.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 week ago

I studied politics, and even then I never wanted to run. I just wanted to be a staffer and work on policy and tactics.

I left politics because I felt I couldn't help people, and inter party politics were not something I was interested in. I went back to school so I could help people more directly as a nurse.

I don't think I'm a great candidate, but I feel like I have to do something. No one is coming to save us, we have to so it ourselves.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I signed up on the first website, still haven't heard anything. Anyone know who I should contact to follow up?

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

I'm a nurse with 2 degrees- I'll be an asset anywhere I go. Or I can go back to bartending - I make a mean Hot Toddy.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 week ago

Seems a lot harder to get across the ocean than into Canada, but I will take any viable option at this point.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 week ago

I'm in Minnesota, if you can make it up here I'll take you with me.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 55 points 1 week ago (16 children)

How do I request asylum in a country that doesn't want to erase trans people?

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago

Sealab was such a good show. A Star Trek remake (with Shatner as Kirk) would be so good.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 2 weeks ago

It's very difficult, and in the end, it comes down to finding things that work for you, but in my experience, doing it "on my own" is virtually impossible. Humans need social interaction and often help, especially when battling with mental illness. That being said, there are some things that help most people.

  1. Exercise - you don't need to run a marathon or lift free weights, but any kind of exercise, including walking, can have a big boost on mental health. If you can, working up a sweat can help release more endorphins (and also helps motivate me to take a shower when I'm struggling with hygiene).

  2. Sleep - prioritize getting good sleep. This has a huge effect on your mental health, and lack of sleep makes intrusive thoughts more difficult to ignore. If you suffer from suicidal ideation, this can be very beneficial. It can also help set up a routine for exercise, hygiene, etc. if you have more consistent bed and awake times.

  3. Eating healthy- this is hard, because often when depressed we go for unhealthy foods, which make us feel bad, so we eat more of them and it perpetuates the cycle. If you really struggle with this start by making small changes - find a fruit or vegetable you genuinely enjoy and start incorporating more into your diet. Learning some basic cooking skills can also make healthy eating more enjoyable.

  4. reduce drug and alcohol use (if any) - these can be excellent short term solutions, but will often make you feel worse in the long run

  5. find someone to talk to - online resources help, but there's no substitute for genuine in person (or over the phone) interaction. This can be harder said than done if you're older or in an area where it's hard to meet people. Support groups are also excellent- there's something very empowering about being surrounded by folks experiencing the same challenges you do every day.

  6. practice gratitude- take some time every day to thing of things you are genuinely thankful for. Supposedly, the brain can't think or negative things while you are thinking of positive ones. Even if that's not true, taking time to appreciate the good things in your life (even if it's something small like your morning coffee) can help redirect your thought process.

Lastly, understand you can do all the "right" things to battle depression and still be depressed. No amount of exercise or vegetables will suddenly make you better - you will likely still have bad days. That's why, for me, it's important to have people I know I can call and talk to (my brother being a big one right now). We don't even really talk, I just call him and cry talk for a bit and eventually it doesn't hit so hard.

Give yourself some credit for all the bad days you've been through- if you weren't strong, you wouldn't have made it this far. Good luck! I'm rooting for you!

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 weeks ago

My recommendation is either The Grand Budapest Hotel or Moonrise Kingdom. Both by Wes Anderson, and probably his two best films. Excellent director with a very distinct visual style.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I use the term Atheistic Christian, which essentially means I believe in a lot of the teachings of Jesus, but I don't believe he was any kind of divinity.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago

The episode of Portlandia he cameos in is amazing.

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