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What are some lesser known developmental milestones no one really ever talks about?
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this post was submitted on 12 Jul 2026
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I don't remember the term for this but I came to a realization a few years ago that almost all of the people I know do not value me. I had to force my way into the group things that we did and inviting me was always an afterthought for them. If they were doing things as a group I had to invite myself. I would call myself a B-list friend but I really wasn't even that; however, if they needed something then I got a call or a text. You know what? I would jump at it and be there.
A few years ago a fiend of mine died suddenly. Covid got him and he never really recovered because he stupidly did not get the vaccine. When He died I reevaluated a lot of long time friendships and because the long journey of realizing most people are not really your friend even the ones who were in your life long term.
To add. About 15 years ago I got divorced. Come to find out she was fucking a whole coven of witches. Anyway, I moved out and have been on my own all this time. I have grown into doing all things by myself and truthfully now that I am in my 60s I would not have it any other way.
I just wish I would have learned this in my 20s but it seems that I thought that if I was just there enough and helpful enough that they would see my worth. I was wrong. A lot of this same group is wanting me to come ton the 45 year high school reunion. Ten years ago I might have gone but not now.
I'm sincerely sorry about your friend and all you have been through. Would you change it? As in, do you feel that you acted admirably throughout your experience? If so, fuck it. Be proud of yourself and know that you do your best. Valuing yourself projects and results in others valuing you as well. Go to your reunion; the majority of those people have been through what you've been through and you have shared formative experience. You'll likely be pleasantly surprised. Wishing you the best. Cheers, b.
I went to the one right after Covid. I was on Facebook then and was begged to come and was ignored the whole time I was there. I chatted with a few people but slowed realized I did not know these people and it was clear they did not care to know me. I left after an hour. I don't know man. You can never go home I suppose. Or maybe I am just an asshole.
Nah. If you were an asshole you wouldn't be thinking about it. Again, best of luck. I'm rooting for ya.
-edit- If you were begged to attend you were wanted there.