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[–] yesman@lemmy.world 117 points 2 days ago (3 children)

A girl canceled a date once because I'm not on Facebook or anything else. (I asked her out in person).

She combed through socials as a kind of background check and interpreted my absence as suspicious. Modern problems.

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 68 points 2 days ago (2 children)

What's interesting is that both perspectives are valid. Of course she could have asked why you don't have social media, and when you spout off about privacy and big tech then she would cancel for a different reason.

[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah this is legit a thing cheaters do apparently. I just don't want patients finding my favorite cafe in my likes ok 😭 honestly sometimes my husband pisses me tf off but at least I'm not rummaging in the mystery grab bag anymore.

[–] cinoreus@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Internet is a hostile enough place that not having a social media presence is a valid lifestyle. Like, I don't want to be assumed as a cheater just cause I'm trying to preserve my sanity😭.

[–] skooma_king@piefed.social 33 points 2 days ago

Or you’d spend a nice weekend configuring a new Gentoo system

[–] Loce@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago

You dodged a bullet.

She works for the DHS?