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On one of my very first posts here (previous account) someone called me a MILF. And I just wanted to say...
How fucking dare you? I'm TWENTY years old, that's supposed to be young 😭

I mean, I do have MILF genes (sorry mom) and my female cousin has called my mother a MILF on several occasions...which is just plain weird, but I think that bodes well for me, lol 😂
My mom is fucking gorgeous tho. She's goals...which is a good thing, since I'm literally her child, I have her genes :3

My body, my face, my biological age...it's getting up there. I feel ancient already 🥲

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[–] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Totally understand. Looking in the mirror at 19 and telling myself "You're aging...like a man" was what finally pushed me to get off my ass and get HRT.

Awww, girlie 🫂
You're so pretty tho! And you're NOT telling me you're past your 20s, I don't believe that at all. You're beautiful and super early on HRT! It'll only get better for you. You can "reasonably achieve" great beauty! 🩷

[–] azalea_flower@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Aw thanks 💜

And yeah, I'm not even in my twenties yet, so I have no right to say it's already over, but it's hard sometimes, especially with other curly haired girlies, I had the same gender envy literally yesterday lol because a girl from a TV show I was watching both did my their better and had really good makeup!

But yeah, thank you though, I do believe I'll see a girl in the mirror one day.

[–] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

I'm so bad at guessing people's ages, omfg 🤦‍♀️

Gender envy is totally real. Sometimes it's slightly painful, but sometimes it's an inspiration! At least...I think?

I do believe I'll see a girl in the mirror one day

You will. I already do (it's you!)

[–] N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Why do you see other people in your mirror? 🤨 /joke

[–] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 21 hours ago

Aha. I haven't taken my schizophrenia meds 🙂

[–] azalea_flower@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 22 hours ago

I'm so bad at guessing people's ages

me too don't worry, and to be fair I do tend to look older than I am

You will. I already do (It's you!)

omfg Miisha that made me really happy thank you 💜!!! I almost made a noise, I had to stop myself it's literally midnight lol