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Small talk is an essential skill (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 months ago by The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world to c/whitepeopletwitter@sh.itjust.works

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[–] eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 months ago (2 children)

It's funny cause to me it's always meant a third entirely different thing! To me small talk is just starting from a basic place to feel each other out a bit, bringing up mundane things and simple questions to find topics we could drill further into.

"How was your day" to a partner would be small talk, even though I care about what they're saying - I'm just asking so they can bring up something to talk about. "Weather's been shit lately" to a stranger is small talk, but the ensuing story about how they had to rush to work late in the rain would not be.

Given it means three different things to three random people, it's almost like "small talk" actually covers a broad set of social purposes and people who "aren't into it" might actually be missing a lot 😝

[–] vonbaronhans@midwest.social 5 points 2 months ago

I think I actually agree with you overall.

My comment above was more trying to express what I think "small talk" means to the people who always complain about small talk, maybe. Unsure. Slightly elevated atm.

[–] Subtracty@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

This is how I feel as well. Small talk at it's best is a way to transition into more detailed topics without plunging into them headfirst.

With friends and partners, I think small talk like "How was your day?" Provide a jumping off point for what they want to talk about or, in the worst case, will result in them not wanting to talk. If someone had a terrible day and is exhausted, it doesn't help to start a conversation about the meaning of life when they probably just want to relax.