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In my experience we don’t ask or care tbh
The drama around pronouns seems to be imported American culture war crap
you don't care or ask lol.
something tells me you and your social circle isn't reflective of the queer people living in Australia. may be the fact that you consider respecting people to be "culture war crap". grow up
I don't ever ask someone's pronouns, but I'm part of a community that happens to attract a fair few enbies and trans people. Without explicitly asking, I and my fellow longer-term members of the community make a very careful effort to get people's pronouns right. Usually I make a judgment call based on how they present, and if I'm unsure I'll use "they" until/unless corrected.
I think the important thing to remember is that the "culture war" we see exported from America is not people asking for or trying to use others' preferred pronouns. The culture war is the idea that doing the aforementioned (which is really just one specific example of "treat others with kindness"...it's not a big deal) is something to get angry about or to specifically avoid doing to make a political point. In other words, the culture war is not created by the left or by trans or gender nonconforming people; it's a war invented by the bigoted right.
Queer people exist in every culture and have since before human society existed.
The least you can do is be nice to them when you encounter them.
In most of the world that doesn't require asking pronouns, though.
Hell, my wife gets confused over them because her native language doesn't have gendered ones. We're both enby, the only thing that bothers us is wierdos thinking we're in the "wrong" toilet
In a good chunk of the world, yes. But Australia is an english-speaking country, so - last I checked - it still uses gendered pronouns.
Yes, and the person you replied to said that it doesn't happen there ... if something is absent it doesn't necessarily make it worse, it just means it's handled in a different way.
Like where I live - most people use feminine words for me simply because that's the toilet I use most of the time. If I wanted to correct them I could do so gently without making a big deal of it
They also complained that it was culture war crap so not sure anyone should trust that they’re coming from a place of honesty and respect on this topic.
Oh look, the American found a way to be offended and manufacture hostility where there is none.
What a shocker
Oh look, the cis person found a way to be dismissive of trans people.
What a shocker
Priscilla, Queen of the Desert was a documentary you fucking bigot
What a coincidence. Until yesterday I had never heard of that movie. My boss and I were talking about Memento which led to Guy Pierce. My boss then showed me the trailer for Princess. I immediately saw a similarity to the movie ‘To Wong fu thanks for everything…’ and we watched that trailer too.
Now the next day I come across a mention of Princess in the wild.
Wacky fun.