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It doesn't make sense, either. There's no rational reason to delete a thread after the question has been answered.
Even if it wasn't actually a person but was an AI agent asking questions so it can scrape the data from the answers, there's no real utility in deleting the posts after receiving responses. It just seems so weird.
Could they be astroturfing, looking for a specific solution to fill search engines with their own product placement, then deleting because most of the comments are other FOSS solutions?
Companies already do it with Reddit, so it's not surprising, their error is to think that the niche open source federated alternative to reddit would make their bs work
It might be to stop the damn notifications you keep getting whenever anyone posts to a thread you started. Also it's reasonable to think discussion forums are in some sense ephemeral. If you want a persistent store of knowledge, try Wikipedia. Lemmy could also host wikis if it's worthwhile, like reddit does.
This is 100% wrong. This isn't Discord or chat. People expect forums to appear in online search results, i.e. be persistent.
Uncheck "Send notifications to Email" in your settings. Or get a 3rd party app with a notifications setting.
I don't get email notifications, but that number next to the icon changing is annoying. I have a few old responses that I've left "unread" on purpose, so I'm reminded to get around to dealing with them (look at some url or whatever). When the number changes, that means there are actual new responses, which after a day or two tend to be useless depending on the topic. So I'd rather shut them off.
If it's easier to delete the post guess what people will do.
How is it easier to delete a post every time than to set preferences to not be emailed just once, then you never have to again?
How do I do that for just that post? And how do I ignore replies for that post so I didn't get any other notices?
if you don't want replies, just don't post. everyone will be better off than if you are deleting posts. actually it's the easiest thing to do.
that being said. are you guilty of deleting your posts after they had discussions? because if so, I'll just block you because you are taking away value from the community, not adding to it
Somebody may want an answer and once they get it don't want the other replies to keep notifying them.
No I don't do this. But it's remarkable that all the lemmykins arguing with me and down-voting me simply can't see things from another person's pov.
I'm sure we can see that point of view, we just refuse it because it's such a mean pov
I mean... I don't disagree but you're arguing against somebody who is not here. I honestly don't know what you expect in response. If you want people to behave a certain way you can either:
a) Say they're stupid and change nothing and continue to bitch about the problem or
b) Understand why they're doing what they do and try to address it.
I thought it was obvious. I was arguing with you, because it seemed you were sympathizing with the user that regularly deletes their post. I was arguing that the reasons given are not good reasons. also this is not a DM, others are reading it too. evidence is you got a downvote on this comment, and it was not me. and most people lurking rarely vote.
why, what can I change?
apparently it was already fixed a year or two ago in a yet unreleased version of lemmy. so it seems a software change will not help in a reasonable amount of time.
tried, and it makes not much sense to me. nobody is receiving live notifications from lemmy, or if they do, that's because they use a niche client where they didn't turn them off.
but also.. starting a discussion and then not wanting to participate, so dropping a bomb.. that makes no sense.
Why don't you like getting replies? That's the fun part!
I see you've opted to just redefine somebody's requirements rather than solve their problem.
Honestly, it's my favorite argument tactic.
Do something once? Ew.
Do something infinitely? 🥵💦
sounds logical, the biggest logical, even
Ive never heard anything more logical in my life, and I am a cold unthinking machine running on pure logic
Checkmate
Your comment isn't popular, but we all know the rule: "the best thing needs to be the easy thing", since people will often choose what's easy and fast vs what's ultimately better. We see this in security all the time (hello-oo NPM).
I don't think most people think of this to be ephemeral. First of all, this replaces reddit and we all know how valuable reddit was when searching for issues. Second of all, this is also kind of like forum, and not many people would think of a forum to be ephemeral. Not everything save-worthy has to be wikipedia kind of stuff.
I have no idea what you are using to browse Lemmy because the only notification I get is a number next to my profile icon in web browser or Thunder. And that's often delayed by several days so I frequently look through my own old posts to find replies because don't get reliable notifications.
no. everything shpuld be petsisted, which is why i donate to the internet archive.
Even misinformation? CSAM?
i had to lookup what the acronym csam meant..... c'mon - you know what i mean. i am talking about words, the context of the conversation. but to your first point, if a post had misinformation, backing that up so historians can see and have evidence of the behavior of this time. You can flag it but i think there is a lot of history that is washed away.
but no - i dont mean illegal pictures of children - this post was about deleting help posts.
Holy bad faith Batman.
Sure, that's why Google made an exclusivity deal with wikipedia instead of reddit to train their ai for any organic user level reviews/discussions on anything.
Somebody pointed out that the person might be afraid they gave so much info that their post gets de-anonymized - but IMO people afraid of that shouldn't post on public forums to begin with.
It's not that complicated. New user gets an answer, feels like the post isn't relevant anymore, and deletes it without thinking.
Still a massive dick move, but still.