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How did people treat you after losing weight? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by Zeon@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Currently down about 120lbs after 8 years of going up and down. Net loss is 200lbs, given I had some regains over the years. Now, I'm down from 300lbs to 178lbs and ever since I passed 185lbs, I've had a lot more oppurtunities with women.

It feels weird, not gonna lie, it just sorta happened out of nowhere. A lot more women smile at me, talk to me, and look at me more. The attention I started getting just feels like a glimpse really. Not massive amounts, but noticably more. I'm still 10lbs away from being done entirely, as I do still look a bit husky at 178lbs.

Though, it's not just women, but people in general have been treating me better, even strangers. I will finally reach normal weight for the first time ever in the next couple weeks (173lbs according to my BMI) and I can't be more excited to finally see it!

For those who lost weight, what was it like for you? Did people start treating you differently?

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[–] EncryptKeeper@lemmy.world 7 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (1 children)

I had the opposite experience. When I was younger and a very muscular 170 I did ok with women. When I got older and COVID closed my gym I put on a lot of weight, about 240 at my highest, but being older and having figured myself out a lot more I have fewer women turning heads on the street but women I actually talk to were FAR more interested in me.

People have their preferences and I’m sure more people prefer fit partners over not, but often the biggest factor in this change you’ve experienced might not be the weight loss itself, but the confidence it gave you.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 0 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

yeah 170 and 240 are like a few tens of pounds away from typical. OP is talking about being way higher than typical to getting close to ideal bmi which is atypically fit.

[–] EncryptKeeper@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

For somebody who’s an average height, 170 and very lean/muscular is atypically fit and 240 is obesity.

We’re talking about the difference between six pack abs and regular trips to your cardiologist lol

OP also mentioned not seeing the increase in attention until he was below 185lbs which 55 lbs lower than 240