Autism

Just have to make it until after work and I can have a break

Just have to make it until the end of the week and I can rest for a couple of days

Just have to make it until the next holiday

Just have to make it

Depression sucks.

If it just unmotivated, make yourself go out. Set that as a goal. Just to get out of the house. Then work on doing something outside. A short walk , then look for some longer ones and try those.

My wife makes me take the dog on walks once a week and that helps

If it’s more, you might need therapy. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Beyond walking the dog, I hate leaving the house. I can spike a panic attack doing the shopping.

Ymmv

I just girlrot til it's over. Can't force motivation. Best thing is to learn what stuff over depleted it and plan around that for the future.

Connect with the natural world. Go find some woods where there aren’t a lot of people and just be alive in them.

Sometimes I find myself on my phone too much. I’ve found it useful to try to remember something I saw online a week ago. Frequently I cannot. This makes me upset at the time I am wasting.

I started disc golfing again last year and I play every weekend and it’s keeping me sane. It’s like walking in the woods with a purpose. I like to go before anyone else is playing in the morning. It must work because my wife encourages it and it means her watching our toddler alone for a couple hours.

Burnout is a bitch. If I knew the solution I would share it.

Light depression can be caused by a lot of things, and doesn't mean you have clinical depression. Things that work for me:

1. Be more active. No, I dont mean you have to go kill yourself working out. Just go for a short walk.
2. Disconnect from media and technology. If you use social media, get away from it for 24 hours. People don't talk about it enough but it's literally engineered to give you constant dopamine so you get addicted to it. Overall if you're in front of a computer all day, just get away from it and go make a trip. Even just to get groceries.
3. Sleep. The one everyone loves making memes about. Truthfully though if your sleep schedule is super fucked, it can be a big problem causer. Not sure that's a word. You get me though.

Good luck friend. I've been there several times. Nothing sucks more than not knowing what to do to make yourself happy.

Often, I loop some music such that it becomes slightly annoying for me, and tell myself that I can’t turn it off until I do the task. I’ve heard of something called “Autistic Inertia”, which states that we have a lot of difficulty starting to do something, but can easily keep doing it once we started.

Another thing I sometimes do is set micro deadlines. Eg: If I finish getting ready before 8:30, I can have a short break, otherwise I go directly to the next task which I must complete by 9:30. (Though I might adjust the time if I am running behind)

Something I remember hearing is “Don’t wait to be motivated to do stuff, or you won’t get anything done.”

Edit: Added some YouTube links for some videos I remembered. Not sure if they’re the best references, but I guess they should be helpful.

These may be depressive symptoms. It may be a good idea to find someone close to you to talk to, and keep them up-to-date about the situation. Make sure it's someone you trust and can open up to. It may also help to seek professional help if you feel it is getting worse or if you experience physical symptoms as well. We all have a need for genuine human connection, and talking to someone can help. It may make it easier for you to get back in touch with your more positive emotions, to 'snap' back into that positive or happier state of mind where things make sense like they usually do. Hope this helps. Much love from the Netherlands. ❤️

Lately I’ve started forcing myself to do nothing during those moments, like literally nothing. I set a timer for an hour and then turn off my phone and computer and lay down or just sit and kind of stare at a wall.

The boredom is horrible but the good news is that by the end of the hour, usually my mind has come up with a few things it would rather do than nothing.

Also, sometimes I can’t make it the full hour doing nothing but I only let myself do productive/healthy things like reading or doing dishes. It’s not really enjoyable but by the end of the hour it does feel slightly good that I was slightly productive.

Idk if it’ll work for you and idk if I’ll be able to keep doing it, but maybe it’s worth a shot. Tell me how it goes if you try it lol.

I got nothing to add to the comments already written but wanted to say "thanks for sharing", 'cause I'm in this mood now for weeks. It's like I'm waiting for something to happen without knowing what this something is. Luckily I'm going on holidays a few weeks from now. So: Thank you for sharing.

I found this condition while trying to understand how I often feel. Anhedonia wikipedia link

Separate all of your problems into small finite categories and deal with them in order of importance: Health > Food > Shelter > Money > Companionship > Fulfillment

I actually used to struggle to find energy to do anything before I found out I was allergic to grass, trees, dogs, cats, horses, some insects, etc. Now I take a prescription antihistamine and I feel fine, like maybe benchpressing the sofa might be cool. Problem is, most people have a hard time finding the problems with health, the part that's wrong with themselves, first and foremost.

I have those moments all the time.

Yes.

Poorly.

Is somebody ever completely demotivated with everything?

Yep, that's called depression.

How do you deal with it?

Medication. Time. Continued effort. IMO, success in life isn't measured by completion. It's measured by getting back up after you fall. Amount of progress isn't the most important thing. Any progress, at all, is infinitely better than none.

Occasionally I have these days where I don’t feel like doing work or chores. So I’m thinking, why not just enjoy myself, do something that interests me?

Yep, have those all the time. I wait for them to pass and then when my energy comes back, I do all the things. It's frustrating because I'm waiting on some unknown energy to decide to make my brain work today.

Typically I would then waste time browsing or watching videos, but that seems to make it worse. How to snap out of this?

Yep. Same feeling. I like a few videos here and there, mostly sciency ones, but when I start mindless scrolling, it makes me feel worse and I stop. I usually do something light activity, small task, to get the ball rolling. Clean for 5 minutes. Only 5. Set a timer. I can stop after that. If I want, I can keep going, but stopping is fine.

Write stuff down, write down why you should do things or not do them. When you need to regroup, read what you wrote. It helps me, but ymmv

Look up autistic burnout.

Um yeah, dat me. My tendency to do that is born of low self-worth, poor diet, exhaustion from capitalism-related horrors, frustration at my lot in life as a trans autist, and indignance towards the billionaires and the bigots enabling them.

How to snap out of it? No god damned idea. I'm so close to being able to pick up and move from Texas to Portland (if I can just get offered any one of the two dozen teaching jobs for which I have applied) where I hope that my mood spikes up a bit because of the locals and the locale. Apart from uprooting my entire life, I genuinely don't think there is a way for me in particular to escape this rut.

Good luck to you.

Yeah. I call it being tired when anyone asks how I'm doing.

Since it usually stops within a week, I fully engage in the routine for that time

I have days like this.

I’ve discovered that I have an easy time doing things I kinda enjoy but not very much (video games, reddit), but I avoid things I really love (playing music, traveling, cooking).

This is not a healthy coping mechanism but I bribe myself with cookies like I'm a dog. If I get up and put the laundry in the dryer I get a cookie. If I send that email I get a cookie. It usually works. It won't really make me enjoy life but it does get me through it, if you know what I mean.

Hi! Late to the party sorry.

I have gone through this, and similarly to what others say, I was able to pin point it to autism burnout. It's a very steep climb out of the hole, and I wish you the best of luck.

Some things that have helped me in my journey:

• Whenever I am having a moment, using this site to figure out why and what I need: https://youfeellikeshit.com/index.html
• Therapy, specifically someone who is knowledgeable about autism and autism burnout
• Reading as much as I can about autism burnout and how it manifests (it can take months to years to dig yourself out)
• A good book, specifically around keeping house and chores, that has helped me a lot: How to Keep House While Drowning
• If you have the financial means, hiring help to take care of the things taking up space in your brain such as cleaning, food prep, and maybe even taking a leave for a while

I have those periods. I think of them as autistic shutdowns. For me, they happen when I've been overwhelmed by too much stress, interruptions, demands, or sensory overload.