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[–] MrShankles@reddthat.com 6 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Cocaine laced with fentanyl. OD'd in the bathtub. Wasn't even (remotely) a regular user; just having a little extra fun on New Years. Was about to finalize the adoption of his and his wife's baby girl too

Another one from alcohol, fell asleep in the bath

Another one from an undiagnosed heart condition

Another from a peritoneal infection from peritoneal dialysis (they had sickle cell)

My sister from benzos and falling asleep in the bath

All of them in their 30's. Been a difficult few years of losing friends/family for me, ngl

[–] Thavron@lemmy.ca 1 points 27 minutes ago

Good lord what a hand you've been dealt. My sympathies.

[–] Skunk@jlai.lu 10 points 2 hours ago

He became a Qanon ass licking dumbfuck and a pro Trump cum sandwich.

Also, we are French so his savior isn’t able to place us on a map.

[–] rautapekoni@sopuli.xyz 5 points 2 hours ago

One where I was dumb was when I sold my then one of best friends a laptop and took his word for him going to pay a week later even though I knew he was a small time grifter. We were tight so I thougt he wouldn't screw me over but alas, believing in people is dumb.

The second was an online friend of many years and good emotional support one way and the other, but then out of the blue the dude starts spewing hate and straight up tells me he's a nazi. Fuck that guy. Well fuck the first guy too, but at least I knew the devil back then.

I bought tickets for a concert for us both provided she drive. She never showed up and didn't answer her phone or anything but was somehow mad at me a few days later.

[–] The_Che_Banana@beehaw.org 11 points 3 hours ago

Dude became an outspoken anti vaxxer, tin foil hat wearing plandemic twat.

The final nail was when he shows up at our business out of the blue one day (literally had not spoken with him in almost a year) where he had left some oil paintings & other artwork to pick them up, then sent a shitty passive aggressive text the next day about how they were not kept in perfect condition.

My dude, you left them without a word otherwise over 4 years ago, we have shit to do besides take care of discarded art.

[–] Clbull@lemmy.world 3 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

A mutual friend of ours got into an argument with him because he made some new friends at his local pub and was buying pints for them left, right and centre. He took serious offence to the suggestion that they were using him for his money (he got about Β£120k in inheritance after his mum died) and cut both of us off, even though I never said anything to him.

I don't want to elaborate on his backstory but he had a lot of mental health problems and past trauma. After a lot of bad things happened a few years ago, he decided that he was done with life and vowed not to outlive his cats. Have tried to talk him out of it but he's set on ending his own life after his cats pass away.

I presume he's still alive, but I can't get in touch with him as he nuked his phone number and blocked me on all socials.

Lost all my friends every couple years growing up thanks to the US military moving us around. Do not recommend.

Got a great dad out of the situation though so I’m not bitter. Much.

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

I used to have an online friend who never really texts me first unless I do. Since they're a leftie, I wished them on Happy Left-handers Day and they replied that I don't need to wish them, which I only did to spark some conversation. This put me off and I went "Alr I won't bother texting you ever" and they went "Ok".

Haven't texted them in 3 months, neither did they (as they don't ever). Idk who is the idiot here, me, she or both.

I don't really like ending friendships from my side, so I might text them on her birthday and see how it goes.

[–] ch00f@lemmy.world 11 points 4 hours ago

I canceled on the biweekly DnD session because it was scheduled for Halloween and I had plans. Told him a little last minute (day before when I realized).

Dude torpedoed our 10 year friendship over that.

[–] SexualPolytope@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

He had an argument with my then girlfriend, and stopped talking to me for whatever reason. We never had any issues or arguments, but he simply won't reply to me or return my calls. After a while, I gave up. We had been friends for about 7 years at that point.

[–] Wutchilli@feddit.org 6 points 3 hours ago

I relfected my own insecurities about my sexuality onto my partner, sadly i didnt realised that they where nonbinary :(

It certainly wasnt the final nail in the coffin but something i still feel guilty about.

[–] EvilBit@lemmy.world 23 points 5 hours ago

My best friend and I suggested online that maybe this friend of ours stop using β€œgay” as an insult (this was around 2009 or so) and he and his girlfriend became adamantly defensive and mean. When they implied that my best friend was molesting his beloved dog just to be assholes, I just cut the cord and walked away. They were idiots anyway.

Fun fact: the girlfriend was, and is, a huge β€œdo good” volunteer advocacy leader. So, you know, help each other out, but don’t get in the way of my homophonic slurs.

[–] BlueSquid0741@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 3 hours ago

Back in primary school (end of 1997), my best friend went to a different high school the next year and we never spoke again.

[–] Psychogasm@lemmy.world 50 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Friends; plural. I quit drinking.

[–] LodeMike@lemmy.today 19 points 5 hours ago

Sounds like a smart way.

[–] Vaggumon@lemm.ee 14 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

Brother: Lets just say we had a major disagreement in early November.

[–] thetreesaysbark@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Couldn't agree what stash you'd each gorw for Movember? :D /s

[–] BeigeAgenda@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 hours ago

Or they couldn't agree if almonds or pistachios were the best nut.

[–] bloubz@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 4 hours ago

No nut November can really split families apart

[–] Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 25 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

This is ages ago, invited me to an MLM event without telling me it's MLM. I've experienced cult that night.

[–] pastermil@sh.itjust.works 10 points 6 hours ago

This hits close to home...

[–] Today@lemmy.world 25 points 7 hours ago

Lost (sent away) two who tried to 'date' my husband.

[–] pr06lefs@lemmy.ml 21 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Mad she didn't get invited to a concert my GF bought tickets to. Welp

[–] 13esq@lemmy.world -1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I mean, if my friends knew I was a huge fan of the band, were going and weren't like, tickets are Β£50, do you want one? It would sting.

[–] shapesandstuff@feddit.org 8 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Thats a specific situation you're imagining and isnt necessarily what happened

[–] 13esq@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

I did realise that it's a specific situation but as the original post didn't have more context, I didn't see why I shouldn't be allowed to suggest some.

If OP wants to expand on the situation, they're welcome to.

Whenever I wanted to hang out she was at volleyball practice

[–] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Hop yo remem!

[–] yool_ooloo@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago