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[–] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 27 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

Is this about people that are pro/con HRT fighting? Im dumb plz no bully.

[–] missingno@fedia.io 68 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

They turned into each other.

[–] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 18 points 14 hours ago

OOoh damn i guess i am fuckin blind. ty

[–] xkbx@startrek.website 19 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I also don’t get it but I’m gunna bully you anyway

[–] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 12 points 14 hours ago

Oh nyooooo, you evil goomba

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 13 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Surely some pokemon can change your gender somehow.

[–] swab148@startrek.website 7 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Bulbasaur! Vine Whip their nuts off!

[–] FrowingFostek@lemmy.world 5 points 6 hours ago

Now Bayleef! Use Orchiectomy! 🍃

[–] horse_battery_staple@lemmy.world 14 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Completely unrelated

Can someone tell me if this is a known good resource to share?

https://transaware.net/becoming-her-gender-transition-guide/

[–] JustAnotherKay@lemmy.world 9 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

From a quick glance, my only issue with this is that it keeps telling me to be introspective and if I'm introspective enough I have to actually acknowledge my gender identity and that sounds awful.

On a more serious note, I skimmed this link and it does seem to be a relatively good "guide" on transitioning. Transitioning is a very individual thing, it's gonna be vastly different for each and everyone. I noticed lots of general advice about "knowing yourself" and "using support groups around you" and whatnot, which is basically exactly the advice I've given and heard a lot. You're gonna need to figure out who you are, what you want, and why. You don't ever need to tell anyone the why. In fact, if someone asks for the why, be suspicious of them. But you should know why you are the way you are just for the sake of maintaining your ability to grow.

[–] horse_battery_staple@lemmy.world 3 points 11 hours ago

Thank you so much for your perspective on this.

[–] Ziglin@lemmy.world 5 points 13 hours ago

Is there an agooab (assigned great old one at birth) willing to try that with me? :3