Asklemmy

"Good" or "trust my life with"? The two can be mutually exclusive. If I was in the wrong, would a good person defend me?

I've met a few people with genuinely good morals in my life. They do exist and are almost incorruptible. Most people are flexible in that we can make justifications for almost anything.

just a few and that's ok. people will make good and bad things and there are a few with whom you'll really get along with. keep them close.

Zero. Become partially disabled for over a decade and you might understand. Sometimes surviving is worse than dying. You might become a different person you might not, but you will likely discover how everyone in your life is largely there in relative orbits. If you get knocked out of the stellar system, what you thought of as the planets that grounded your social world will not leave the star to chase after you no matter how much you need them to.

I have trusted humans in the past. They have always failed me. Humans are not to be trusted. Just look at the state of the terrarium we live in.

Good? Many The other is completely different thing independent of being 'a good person'

I think the number is a lot higher and the barrier of trust a lot lower than people think.

If you come across a vehicle accident and you are able to help someone generally people don’t even think and just take action to save another persons life.

In reactionary scenarios where direct intervention saves someone’s life, people help a lot more than you’d think.

As a species we generally have a bypass in our brains that makes us want to help others in desperate need.

There are a lot of people who would rush me to the hospital but also voted to take away my rights and worse. I don't know if I believe in good people these days.

Having lived here for over half a century now, and having met a ton of people and having get to know a solid portion of them better, I could safely say:

My wife and myself. The rest I would not bet a TicTac on. Homo homini lupus est. People are nice to you, even seem like "good people", but, as another comment or already said, people are contextual.

Be a tiny bit different from the mass and you'd notice why. People are nice to you as long as you provide some kind of benefit to them. Now or in the future. Even worse if you have money and they know it.

Yet, Despite me being misanthropic as hell, I still do care about my fellow species-members (everything living actually) and do voluntary work for disabled people and stuff like that. And yes, I know that most of them would probably sell me to one of Dante's circles of hell to get rid of their disability. But there are always some pearls somewhere in the ocean. It's worth finding them. Tiresome and frustrating, but worth it.

Im 58, I've et 4 people in my life I'd classify as "good". Im with one and I'm not one.

All 4 are women, which gives me pause as a guy.

Zero, but I've heard rumors they exist.

The answer is contextual, just like people are contextual. Sometimes, my circles are all busy or stressed out and we can’t really be there for each other. Other times, strangers have saved me, like the couple that took me in when lockdowns started and I was far from home.

Have you heard of the Stanford Prison Experiment? Or the Princeton Seminarian experiment? Or the Milgram Experiment? All of them confirm that people are contextual. That’s lesson 1 in psychology, but we humans easily forget it. We focus on the person and forget the context. That folly of ours even has a name: Fundamental Attribution Error.

There is a big difference between a good person that will not intentionally do you harm and is happy to help vs one that would enter risk to save you in life or death.

I know lots of people I am confident would do me no harm and treat me well. I know a few that do not care / can’t be trusted.

As for my life that is fairly limited to select family and a few friends.

Having actually been rushed to hospital when I was a kid by my friends after a big accident on my bike I would say the number is higher than you might think. They even walked by bike back home, which considering it was miles from home was pretty mad for teenagers.

I would say at least 20 people I know who are close to me either have done something I would consider above and beyond for me already or I know for sure would do so. Thats not counting any relatives.

I know way more people who would at least attempt to save my life in an emergency than I think are genuinely good people. But I do actually think that's part of identifying a decent person. Empathizing with someone suffering in front of you and wanting to help is such a low standard for empathy that even untrained animals sometimes pass this bar. Empathizing with living things more broadly and outside of your personal bubble is a task that's apparently too much to ask of most people I've met. Good way to gauge this is to get someone talking for a bit about the unhoused population of their hometown.

I would say the vast majority of people are good, however people are flawed so a lot of people are bad at being good.

Maybe 15 to 25% tops.

Until recently I would have said 0%, but probably 95% of my current friends would rush me to a hospital (if it was physically possible) the other 5% are perpetually busy and would probably find someone who could.

0%

I don't think it's wise to ever trust another person 100%. You should be aware that anyone could turn on you in the correct situation with the correct pressures.