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I stopped listening to it because I made the "mistake" of dedicating it to my then girlfriend. I had always wanted to dedicate the song to someone, it never crossed my mind that things would not end well. When we broke up I deleted the song from my playlist and regretfully stopped listening to it, the memories it was associated with were too painful.

Recently I am trying to reconnect with the song. The memories are still there, but now they are warm and bearable, melancholic but sweet.

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[–] MoreFPSmorebetter@lemmy.zip 5 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I wouldn't say I loved the weekend but I can't listen to any of his music anymore because it's all associated with my worst ex in my head. I bought her his first album. We went to a concert of his together.

Hard to vibe with music when all it does is bring up memories of verbal, physical and psychological abuse. She hit me with her car once because I was begging her not to drive off drunk and angry. She started physically assaulting me and when I pinned her down and called the cops they threw ME in handcuffs the moment they got there (thankfully my landlord at the time backed me up that she was the aggressor). She falsely accused me of rape and would have ruined my entire life had her friend not sent me the evidence that she was just making it all up to get back at me.

Sarah I hope you're sober now and doing better, but fuck you for everything you put me through.

[–] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 2 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Shit dude, too bad you went through all that, luckily it's in the past. I hope you are in a better situation now and maybe you have found or will find someone who really treats you as you deserve.

[–] MoreFPSmorebetter@lemmy.zip 1 points 17 hours ago

Eh. Not really. I haven't been able to trust anyone since. I've been in and out of FWB situations, but I make it clear with the women that I am not able to give them anything more from the start and eventually they all start falling for me and I have to end things. Just happened again for the umpteenth time a few weeks ago.

I've done therapy and meditation and drugs and whatever else you can think of. I already had very limited trust with people before her, but after that relationship I just cannot give anyone the emotional depth and/or trust they deserve in a loving relationship so I've just kinda accepted that I'm gonna die alone. I'll probably get a dog or three one day when I live somewhere that allows them. It is what it is.

[–] skulblaka@sh.itjust.works 3 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Mac Miller - Donald Trump

This was written back in the days that Trump was used as a synonym for "rich" without further context.

It, uh.... it hits a little different now.

R.I.P. Mac, I'm glad you didn't have to defend this later in life.

[–] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 2 points 18 hours ago

The kind of song that age like milk under the afternoon sun 😬

[–] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

Midnight Rider - Allman Brothers Band.

It's a fantastic song, the first time. Then I kept hearing it on Spotify and got sick of it. It has a repeating riff that's just too much too often. I tried listening to it again just now, and, no not ready yet.

The funny thing is the same thing happened with The Staunton Lick - Lemon Jelly a few years ago, in the same way. And it has a similar but distinct repetitive riff.

More similar to you, there are a few songs I associate with old girlfriends, even if I liked them before bringing them into the relationship, they're not the same any more.

But on the other hand, my favorite songs from high school or college aren't my favorite songs anymore either. Everything eventually changes.

I have one friend who only listened to his favorite album a few times, because he never wanted to experience listening to it and not liking it any more. In some ways, I have to respect that. It's kind of romantic and also very low stakes. But that's not my style. Songs come and go. Music is still my favorite.

[–] dryfter@lemm.ee 2 points 18 hours ago

Song; Hunger Strike by Temple Of The Dog

Bands: Linkin Park and Soundgarden

Kurt Cobain was the first death that really freaking hit me as a teenager, but I am not bothered by Nirvana.

When Dime got killed it took me a while to be able to listen to Pantera again. That was a damn gut punch.

Chris Cornell and Chester Bennington still haunt me to this day because I felt like I was seen when I listened to their music — especially Chester. I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety my whole life and have attempted 3 times (along with being an alcoholic). Those two bands just remind me of the dark times and I never want to go back.

Hunger Strike just because Cornell was part of that band and I loved the hell out of that song.

Bonus song: Bother by Stone Sour

Take everything I said above and multiply it by 100 with this song. Every word feels like a mirror on my soul and things get ugly

[–] yesman@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I once set the hook to "Freddie the freeloader" as the ringtone on my flip-phone. Big mistake; for years I associate that amazing song with the annoyance of answering the phone.

[–] Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago

The main one that comes to mind isn't a song but a band. I LOVED In Flames. Now it just reminds me of a really shitty time in my life involving heartbreak and the end of my first band.

puff

i remember listening to it as a kid. makes for a really good lullaby/ relaxing song.

when you're not a kid anymore, you see the lyrics are somewhat a downer. that, or you got more real stuff to think and worry about.

maybe there's more covers of this now, i dunno. lp version sounds real great though.

[–] sntx@lemm.ee 1 points 22 hours ago

Here's mine.

And for the same reason. This was The Ex and my song. It was a toxic, on again off again, 4 years long thing from when I was 16 til I was 20. It used to be every time it came on I scrambled to skip it, especially if my wife was in the room. Now, I can listen to it if it comes on I just feel a little uncomfortable.

[–] TabbsTheBat@pawb.social 2 points 1 day ago

There's quite a few I stopped listening to simply due to changing music tastes, but that's not really that interesting x3

[–] sxan@midwest.social 1 points 1 day ago

This happens to me all the time. I listen to something and it gets stuck in my head, sometimes for weeks. It's worst when it's not just a single song, but an album: one song gets stuck, and I listen to the album, then a different song from the album gets stuck so I listen to the album, then another. I haven't figured out how to break the chain; if I don't listen to the song, it just stays in my head. Rarely if I listen to other music, something else will replace it, but as often as not the original worm is what I wake up to.

What triggers it, often, is just randomly listening to my library, and one of the old songs becomes a brain worm. For instance, I just could not get rid of BLACKPINK songs - I am certainly not a K-Pop fan, I think a couple of BLACKPINK songs are the only K-Pop in my library. But for the past 3 weeks it's been Tegan and Sara's The Con. Just one damned song from the album after another, and I wake up with a random line running through my head. This has been the worst one in a long time. A couple of months ago, it was all three songs from the Buster Scruggs segment of The Ballad of Buster Scruggs. Those cycle around a couple of times every year, but I can usually listen then out after a few times.

So: every song I like, is probably the short answer. I stop listening because I've heard it enough, then out pops into my head months or years later and I listen to it a bunch.

This is everyone, isn't it?