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While I was in the process of disentangling myself from religion, the woman I lived with for nearly 10 years went off the deep end. Prosperity gospel. She became insufferable.
I made a much-needed escape, and met my wife a year later. She, like me, believes religion to be a social construct, intended to keep the masses docile and obedient.
My wife was a freeform muslim when we met and we learned a lot from each other, then again she's a very flexible and tolerant being. I was and still am pretty much agnostic I guess. No strong opinion... no horse in the cosmic race
There's already several comments saying "depends on the beliefs and how important they are," and obviously there's that.
I'll add that there are beliefs people don't immediately think of when talking about religion. There's religious humanism, which is a secular religion based around behaving ethically which also has a bunch of traditions similar to spiritually-based religions, minus the spirituality. Adherents (can) attend church and hear sermons on ways to be a better person, etc.
I'm not a religious humanist but they sound like they're probably decent enough people. They're quite different to my generic fediverse atheist/irreligious views, in the sense that I don't have any desire to attend congregations of people who identify as religiously ethical, but I don't harbor any strong objections to their beliefs.
Personally, I understand it more as something that might be nice for people who have left spiritual religion but still want the trappings of a place to go and be with a community of like-minded people, but that's not my experience. Ultimately, that's probably about as far as I'd be comfortable, where we have roughly equivalent spiritual views but highly divergent religious views.
During the pandemic, I dated/isolated with a Unitarian. I grew up catholic and I love rituals, so it was a nice service to take part in online. They also organized a regular lunch program for people in the area who had recently been kicked out of the shelter due to the pandemic. I made about 200 lunches a week and they delivered in total about 1500 weekly, along with homemade masks (early pandemic) and bottles of hand sanitizer.
It was a really lovely and non theistic way to take part in the good about religion. Religious humanism sounds similar.
Thank you for this insight! I had no idea myself
Nope
Depends. Do they love and respect me? Are they trying to convert me every chance they get?
As a former Christian, I would have a hard time dating anyone who is Evangelical, Protestant, or mainstream Catholic. Other than that, it's not so much the religious views that are the issue for me.
For what I am ... it depends on which end of the elephant you want to look at. For this crowd, let's say pantheist with pagan and Buddhist leanings.
No
Probably not, but that entirely depends on what Religion is for Them. If Religion is only something that they themselves belief in and practice I dont really have a problem with it. If they however use their religious views to suppress others (e.g. trying to talk someone out of having an abortion because "pro life") that's an absolute no go for myself.
It depends. Probably, as long as they didn't think I was going to hell, or believe something I found awful, or were evangelistic, needing me to believe what they did.
My mom's family was Methodist, my dad's family was Catholic, my mom stayed Methodist, Dad became just open-minded general Theist but not specifically Christian, I am not religious but not capital A Atheist.
Atheist here, married to another atheiest. If I were to date, beliefs would be fine as long as we were somewhat compatible. Open mindedness is a big thing here. Observing certain rituals would be no problem as long as I would not have to participate. However, if you are overly dogmatic or bigoted towards other people based on color, religion or sexuality, you can fuck off right away.
I could maybe see myself with a pagan, but it depends on how much woo they believe in.
Luckily, a wonderful atheist woman found me and we've been married going on 10 years now.
Hard to say for sure really.
I can respect someone's religious views as long as they aren't trying to push them on me. That's to say; not trying to make me believe the same or insist that I have to follow the rules of their chosen religion.
As far as my own views go; I don't follow any particular religion. I don't necessarily believe there isn't some form of god, but I don't follow/believe in any specific deity either. Maybe there is, maybe there isn't; but there have been hundreds of thousands of gods/goddesses/deities/religious figures throughout human history. Who's to say you've chosen the correct one, along with the correct set of (sometimes oddly specific) rules and regulations to go along with it?
You want commandments to follow? Here's one:
"Don't be an asshole"
Everything else kind of just falls into place around that. As long as we can respect each other and our differences; yeah, romance is certainly possible.
It depends on how passionate about their religion and how the aspects of that passion affects people around them.
I'm a former/non-practicing Christian, and I consider myself agnostic or atheist now.
I married someone with a religion from an entirely different family of religions than Christianity, originating in an entirely different part of the world. The way their religion really affects me day-to-day is that there are certain ingredients we don't keep in the home for cooking. Really not a big deal.
But I can see dating a zealot (from a different religion or not) could pose problems
Yes, if their core beliefs are the same. Kindness, compassion, generosity, etc.
I don't date/wed a religion, or a god. Only a person.
That being said, there would still be the obvious limit that I would have to like (and be liked by) the person which, as far as I'm concerned, would most probably exclude some of the more... extreme religious beliefs.
Muslim here and nope. Setting aside that it's forbidden in Islam, I'd have to get them on board with so many things they might as well convert.
Do you live in a country where Muslim religion is assumed or do you have to ask their religion right off? That seems rough
I'm an immigrant in a country where save for a small foreign diaspora Muslims basically don't exist, so while I'm choosing to leave this stuff for future me to figure out, if I ever do choose to find someone it'll be rough going.
Ouch. That does seem complicated. I wish you luck!
Don't be a dick.
That basically my only requirement.
It depends. My religious affiliation is likely therianthropy. I don't follow a traditional religion, and see it more as a spiritual practice, much in the same way that a trans person may deeply explore their gender identity--I am also trans.
My requirements are simple; Code of conduct, not a code of "facts". I will not engage with creation theories and such. It is an insult to science, and often resists fundamentally good change.
I also will not engage with a "Reddit atheist". I think this requires no further explanation--I was one.
What is a “Reddit atheist”? Are those the people who decry all religion as being inherrently evil and announce their atheism unprompted everywhere they go like Arch-using crossfit vegans?
While I am not the previous poster, that's certainly how I'd describe it. The "I am euphoric" types who care only about the circlejerk.
Aye. I'm not proud of it. If you think about it, it's kind of just conservatism, just not in an expected way.
I've seen a few around here.
Growing and bettering ones self is what matters. Good on you for breaking the cycle. Not everyone can do that.
I've made it a goal in life to put more thought into things. It is indeed a major turnaround. Thank you for the kind words!
Not anyone who is actively/strongly religious of any kind. Philosophical/spiritual beliefs is fine with me but anyone who is drinking the Kool-Aid is either delusional or dumb (and probably stubborn/hard to reason with). I was raised Catholic (even went to Catholic school from elementary up to finishing HS) but would consider myself somewhere between agnostic and atheist now
99% no
I find the nutty prosletysing religious folks marginally more bearable than the militant positivists and atheists who can't stop from bringing up their belief that free will is an illusion and we should all be hedonists, or that transcindentalism is an illogical lie (maybe bitter memories here).
Both infinitely more bearable than the exclusionary and persecutionary religious extremists.
As long as they don't try to convert me, yes.
I'm laic.
What beliefs a person holds to themselves is indiferent to me. And it should not matter to anyone. Relationships are a negotiated endeavour, from both parts, where everyone gives a little to reach a mutual understanding.
Unless a person subscribes views capable of leading to individual, personal and socially harmful and regressive thought and action, it does not matter.
Removing the religious view from your question: would you date a vegan, not being one? Would you date a non vegan, being yourself one?
Zealotry goes both ways. Both the believer and the non believer can entrench themselves in their views so deeply they become fanatics.
As a former evangelical Christian, who also dabbled in atheism, antitheism, etc, I settled into something that's probably closest to Zen Buddhism mixed with atheism. I've been on dates with people, many of them I probably never knew their religion, but the gung-ho Christians and the Mormons showed their incompatibility very quickly. Funnily enough, ex-catholics dig me and I like them. :-)
I don't see myself dating someone who is theocratic, doesn't believe abortion should be allowed, or wants me to go to their church with them. I sometimes tell the story of the time I was figuring myself out and ended up going on a date with a girl who didn't believe in dinosaurs. I call her dinosaur girl. I wish her well, but man did I dodge a bullet!
