There is no perfect in photography (debatably any art). All you’re doing is capturing the world around you in a way appealing to you.
Worrying so much about “perfect” aperture, speeds, filters, lenses, etc can get in the way. But if you know how these fundamentals (f-stop, speed, focus, ISO) work and work together, you can discover your own style.
Lighting is only a fraction of the battle, you also have the composure itself which is what most non-photographers will notice before thinking about imperfect lighting or focus. Just keep shooting and figuring out what you like, don’t worry so much