Being mature for your age is a marker of childhood trauma.
this post was submitted on 29 Sep 2025
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Yup, when you don't have a functional parent or adult around you learn to do a lot on your own.
Then when you're actually an adult you appear weird to everyone because you're so independent it's off-putting to people who grew up with social support.
You also get to develop some trust issues because the people who are typically there to rely on as a child were unreliable.
But everyone comes out the other end different and you realize how important those formative years are.
My old manager: You have to say something when you need help. I'm not a mind-reader.
My mom, when all I did was mention that I can't find an affordable place to live: Sorry, can't help.
I didn't ask for help and had zero intentions of asking for it (because I know her), just keeping her in the loop (which she claims to want), and she pre-emptively makes sure I know I can't rely on her.
These are two very different people who would both claim to want to "support" me, coming at it from the perspective of someone who thinks everyone has a supportive environment (manager) and the perspective of the person who gave me trust issues in the first place (mom.)
It must be nice to feel like there's always someone out there who will help you solve your problems. I've had to solve everything myself, or else suffer (and then be called "lazy" or "irresponsible" for being unable to do a particular thing, as if the millions of other things I manage to do alone count for nothing.)
I think we must have had the same mother.
I think it can also be an autism thing too. My SO is on the spectrum, and I'm definitely ADHD but possibly auDHD, and we were both mature for our age. We've always gotten along better with people older than us, especially adults when we were kids.
The biggest trauma I had was my parents getting divorced, but I was always mature for my age.
I commented above before I saw this. I was always told I was very mature for my age. I though knew if anyone complained about me. My parents would take turns breaking a belt on me when we got home.
I'm not sure that's much of a surprise
Thats be me!
Though mine wasn't bad compared to others. Also I just love old thing so thats how I've always been .
Although I find old things offer an escape. So thats why I like them.
Or, you are the product of ongoing abuse who would rather not do anything to get a beating when you get home.
My Physical Age: 36
My Soul Age: 98 and about 2 days away from a fatal aneurysm.
Cue lifetime of self medication.
When it was said to me I always felt like it meant, "wow, you've already identified that [this thing adults do] is a bunch of bullshit"
Serotonin is created in the gut. No guts no glory
Sure it wasn’t because you already had to deal with too much abuse and shit?
Why do you think my serotonin receptors died?
I think it means that too many adults believe debunked pseudo-science.
Really? I always clocked it as grooming bullshit.
What's Serotonin?
Neurotransmitter people think makes you happy but it's way more complex than that
people think makes you happy
without evidence.
Also
Or dopamine, or norepinephrine lol. I'm trying to fix mine but I think all 3 were almost on E
It's yet another psychiatric/pharmaceutical grift.
The thing i have to take a pill to have enough of, literally taking fucking happy pills because i grew wise to the world at the age of 6..
It was a drug people did in the 90s.
Old soul just means you've had to come back more than most. Not a compliment.
Remedial soul
Old Curmudgeon Soul