Don't be crap. This means you.
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I don't get it
I think it's pretty simple. In any given situation, don't be crap. This means you.
When I got my first car my grandmother told me "don't do anything to it that makes it stand out to the police."
If you’re in a group and talking about someone who isn’t there, imagine they are. That way, you’ll never say something you might regret later.
if the whole world smells like shit, check your shoe.
Tell me who your friends are, and I'll tell you who you are. I thought it was stupid when I heard it as a kid, but it's the damned truth and I turned my life for the better after cutting loose some people I should not have called my friends.
Lefty loosey righty tighty
I always said it righty tighty, lefty loosey.
I also said feed a fever starve a cold, which was apparently wrong, so I don't trust myself.
I thought it was, "feed a fever, starve a flu", because you probably shouldn't eat much when you can't keep anything down.
So it's apparently feed a cold starve a fever, but I thought the Fs going together sounded better.
Emotional and ready to quit your job/break up with someone/confront someone?
Write down what you want to say/write. WRITE IT ALL DOWN.
Wait 24 hours. Read it again.
Do you still think you should send it? Then send it.
80% of the time my issue was stupid and my reaction inappropriate, but because I kept my mouth shut, all I had to do was tear up a piece of paper.
Thanks dad. That’s served me well.
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Your job is not your family. You owe them nothing. Do your job well and leave the work at the door when you leave at the end of the day. Unless you're an owner, every bit of extra work you do is you being robbed.
Agreed but this can be difficult to parse when you’re union organizer
Or you work for the olive garden.
Lately i talked to a lot of elderly people or people who just retired because work. They don't know each other, they don't even live close to each other, but the thing they have in common is the need to talk to me about young people who don't want to work anymore. Telling me stories that "young people" just leave work when their shift is over, not caring about the company at all.
Ask them if their employer paid for their retirement (pension). Ask if they were repeatedly laid off because the work can be done [poorly] cheaper in another country. Ask if they were union.
Many companies used to be loyal to their employees and vice versa. That is all but gone now and the companies cry that nobody is loyal.
Having just been made redundant this week after 15 years this is so true.
I managed it very well, very rarely having committed more than my allotted hours each week but I know for many they would have to have been very disciplined to achieve this.
I leave with no malice or ill feeling as a result. I'd hate to think how I'd feel otherwise
They're upset the McDonald's employee isn't the happiest person ever, catering to their every whim. Thats really it. They want us to be little happy bootlickers who work our asses off for nothing.
I complain about young people too but this isnt why. Dont work shitty jobs for shitty pay. If you must work a shitty job, they better fuckng pay up. Isnt that the whole "invisible hand" capitalists love so much? If you can't find workers , you're either an asshole, or not paying enough.
This one may sound a bit silly, but it's worked for me quite a few times:
"Whatever happened before or might happen later, right now, just for this moment, everything's fine."
(of course, if something bad is actually happening at a given moment you're probably not going to be spending time remembering that little tidbit. It's for when you're feeling depressed or anxious).
Professionally, the question that needs to get answered isn't the question being asked. Always get context.
This was specific to calculus homework but it has turned out to be very good advice, "when you don't know what to do, do something". Often decisions can be paralyzing or problems can feel insurmountable but doing nothing is a choice. Very rarely is it the best one.
Me: this seems like sound reasoning, I should follow it and be more decisive
My ADHD:
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Good Critical Thinking Skills are the only education you need. With Critical Thinking Skills, you can learn anything you need to know, and recognize and avoid those who will try to interrupt your life journey and take advantage of you.
It was advice I have myself in college... Don't focus on getting good grades, focus on learning. Judge your success on how much you learned.
The only time my grades actually mattered was interviewing for jobs right out of college. After that, every other job is based on your previous job and non no one ever asked again.
I'm in engineering and it this doesn't necessarily translate to other fields. But I'm currently the cto for a mid sized tech company.
Don't be the first one to leave a party, but don't be the last one either. - my grandmother.
Admitting a mistake is NOT the same as admitting weakness or stupidity.
When admitting to a mistake be sure to address how you plan to fix it. Especially if it's a mistake at work.
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Never make fun of someone's job. No matter how "beneath you" it is, somebody has to do it, and we should all appreciate that they do it.
What about looksmaxing influencers? I can make fun of their job right?
That's not a job.
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Only break one law at a time.
Thank you pops. It probably did keep me from fucking my life up (worse).
My father put it a slightly different way:
If you’re going to do something dumb, be smart about it
I knew an older guy that would always tell me, "Be good. If you can't be good be careful". He also phrased the OP statement as, "One crime at a time".
Don't Panic
Might not ever be the best piece of advice, but it's always the second best piece of advice in any situation
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Ask yourself the three things before you say anything.
- Does this need to be said?
- Does this need to be said by me?
- Does this need to be said by me now?
Craig Ferguson
This has been helpful for me in meetings since I have a tendency to talk more than I probably should.
The three least heard words in the universe will serve you well, and often catch people off guard - don't be afraid to use them.
"I was wrong."
Admit your mistakes when they happen, then when something goes wrong no one will accuse you.
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Never compare yourself to others but only to yourself from the past.
Be grateful for what you have.
An okay plan applied immediately and vigorously is INFINTELY better than a perfect plan ten minutes too late.
You guys should be going at it. Whenever you want, all the time. Enjoy it
"Shut the fuck up."
Never talk to cops. Wait for a lawyer.
" You gotta be true to who you really are, cause no one's gotta wear the shoes you got "
Given to me by a former friend, high as a rocket to Venus, upon my stumbling attempt to come out to him twenty years ago
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