i'm more of a just do it kinda guy. But that shit only worked once I found the antidepressants that worked
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And just like that, you've invented agile software dev
Needs more meeting to be agile.
This got the guy who I've been training in a bind while I was off on holiday last week - I got a phone call saying he didn't know what to do with a big complex task that had been asked for by management early ... he does know it, it's just overwhelming.
They ended up delaying the thing it's needed for, tomorrow I'll be going through it with him again :-/
I'm a big fan of divide / cry a bit because it's still overwhelming / conquer.
The real way to handle this? The main task has 27 sub steps ok... Look at sub step 1 and ignore the other 26. Let's say this is getting required materials for a project. This may have 10 sub sub steps, pick the first ignore the other 9. This first one is making a list of what you need. Keep this generic, say you're building a shelf, add screws to your material list, don't worry about exact size or type, that's later just screws. And you need wood and you need wood stain. Now you completed the first task. Second task is determine wood type, oak? Maple? Mdf? Plywood? That was easy number 2 done. Now you have 2 tasks done and are on a roll so it's easier to start working on step 3(say determining length of shelf).
Doing small steps increases confidence and encourages further progress. It's not the total number of steps, it's showing yourself you did some so you can likely do the next small task.
Like washing dishes, an overflowing sink is intimidating but if you wash a bowl a plate shouldn't be much more work and then you see a fork well that's easy and a spoon also easy... Now the sink is half empty and wouldn't it be nice to just have an empty sink?
Keep this generic, say you're building a shelf, add screws to your material list, don't worry about exact size or type, that's later just screws.
[Tone: light hearted joke, not a personal attack or seriously questioning you.]
Are you even autistic, bro?
[ This reminds me of getting yelled at while at work because I get stuck on the details 🥲 ]
Also be careful how much you break stuff into steps... I said make a list. I didn't say ok now you need to get a pen. Ok to get a pen you need stand up. We'll to stand up you push against your chair and extend your legs etc.
When you have chronic fatigue, oftentimes pushing against your chair and extending your legs to get up is the most difficult step. I think in general you should stop breaking things down into steps as soon as the first one seems doable.
Yeah that's probably a good rule of thumb. My point was with the number of sub tasks op stated they had were probably either broken up to much or the task was way too big. Like if you have chronic fatigue and standing up is a struggle your goal should not be build a colony on venus. Maybe set a goal for running a marathon. Hell maybe just set a goal to take a shower every day this week.
But I like your idea of when you think you can reasonably complete that goal stop breaking it up into further steps.
ADHD side What? You lost me 5 steps ago.
Is each blink considered a subtask?
Yes, left side has sixteen steps and right side has nineteen.
imperial system ahh numbers