Nope not my 20th birthday yet that's in July! Dummy!
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I do this sometimes when people ask me how old I am.
People born between july and december:
There is ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS an xkcd: https://xkcd.com/2248/
Now I finally have something to commemorate on december 31 and not feel detached!
I am low batt years old 😎
Instructions unclear, my age is now: 132√3 ÷ (√5 + π)
That can't be right
whao
I am confused, my age is negative 19196?
Depends on the culture. Some countries wait a year before they start calculating.
so they start at -1?
makes as much sense as taking your birth date as the end of the birth process rather than the start - or even conception.
The end of the birth process rather than the start? What does this mean?
When you’re born, you’re not 1. You turn 1 at the end of the year. When you are born, you are 0 years old. Birth marks age, but birth itself can extend between two dates - labour can start on a Monday, but end on a Tuesday. Then there’s also the fact that there’s a common mistake people make - the difference is not the same as counting something.
Let’s say you’ve collected some volumes of a book series. You’ve collected volumes 17 through 21. How many volumes did you collect?
If you do 21-17, you get 4. However, that’s the difference between 21 and 17.
If you list it out and count it, you have FIVE volumes, not four.
17 18 19 20 21
It’s really about how you calculate values and mark it. If you are born on Jan 1st, 2010, you don’t turn 1 until you reach Jan 1st, 2011. However, if you’re born in August 1st, 2010, you haven’t turned 1 on Jan 1st, 2011.
When you’re born, you’re not 1. You turn 1 at the end of the year. When you are born, you are 0 years old
Like the other user says, it depends on culture. Traditionally in Korea, when you were born you were 1, and then you add one to your year on the 1st of January. So yes, you could end up being 2 years old when you are less than one full week old. One way of thinking about it is as though the question "how old are you?" was actually asking "how many calendar years have you been in?"
3 years ago today (by coincidence), the government officially forbade the use of this traditional system for almost all official purposes, favouring the international system of being 0 at birth, increasing by 1 each birthday.
Sorry yeah I was trying to make that point but forgot what I was talking about as I typed it out
Oh boy, that is so relatable 😅
First time mothers can spend more than 24 hours in labor, and the longest ever labor recorded is 75 days.
And do you count the first true contraction as the start? the first signs of dilation? or 6cm dilation? or water breaking?
If the baby doesn't change much in the last few days or weeks of pregnancy, is it that different from the baby the moment of birth?
for these rare cases id count birth time/date as the time the baby finally became separate. but maybe that's naive of me...
sure but I'm saying that's the cultural part - just because we do that in our culture doesn't mean it's any more correct than another method of counting .
sure thats true. culture could count the age infinite possible ways, or even refuse the notion.
quick maths