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[–] wraekscadu@vargar.org 8 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Can we please use NB instead of "enby"? When I was like 12, I thought enby = ebony = black people. So for quite some time, I thought that black people were just NB naturally (I was in a country where I had zero exposure whatsoever to black folk).

Also, happy non binary people's day <333

[–] Goodlucksil@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Enby is a pronunciation of NB

[–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago

There's a builder of shitty, overpriced mcmansions where I live named "NV Homes". It took me a while to figure out what the name meant, and then it depressed me even more. Imagine going a million fucking dollars into debt to buy a giant cardboard box because you think it will make people jealous of you.

[–] atopi@piefed.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

But enby is such a cool world

Easily the best shortening of a gender

[–] wraekscadu@vargar.org 1 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

Honestly? Nyeeeeh. It's smooth, sure. But cool? Ehhh. When you say it out loud, it still sounds like "NB". I'm not non binary, but if I was, I wouldn't want my identity associated with just two letters.

Here's a proposal. "Themian".

"I'm Themian. I exist everywhere but nowhere. My existence is not confined to any realm. I can transcend realms at will."

[–] atopi@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 13 hours ago

If someone doesnt like the word for their gender sound like 2 letters, would they be ok with their gender named literally being derived from gender neutral pronouns?

Would someone who prefers per/pers be called Persian?

[–] nonfuinoncuro@lemmy.zip 2 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

sounds like a dr who episode featuring theremins

[–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago

EX TER MIN ATE

[–] DesertCreosote@piefed.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

“Enby” is commonly used instead of “NB,” because “NB” has a long history of being shorthand for “non-Black.” It’s not wrong to use NB as shorthand for nonbinary, but it has the potential to cause confusion so people often avoid it. 🙂

[–] wraekscadu@vargar.org 2 points 22 hours ago

Oof... Hah I guess we should just say "thems" or the "themians", eh? Way cool sounding and smoother than "non binary" or "NB". "Enby" is smooth, but doesn't sound that cool.

"Themians". Oooh, now that sounds other worldly. I ought to propose this name change to the Themian council now, huh.

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 day ago

Oh thank you! Wishing my enby and alla y'all enbies a great day!

(Also Bastille Day)

[–] alapakala@quokk.au 17 points 1 day ago

Happy They Day!
They Day
🫶💛🤍💜

[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago

TIL of enby day. This is awesome 😄

[–] grammaticerror@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

My other They is a Them.