- I wish I'd never been born.
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Agreed. Then none of this would be experienced by those who wish they didn't have to.
Maybe how you dies matters but I wasn’t thinking about anything when I had my NDE like I’m busy dying I don’t have thoughts
I regret not being born rich, got everything else. Haha. /moneybuysmorethanhappiness /fuckcapitalism
When one of my coworkers was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer, his first words were, "Damn, I wish I had drank more beer."
Well I'm at the halfway point of my life and only the last two apply to me, so I guess I'm doing better than I thought. Yay for me, I suppose? IDK I'm still broke and miserable like the rest of the working class, which is why #1 doesn't count. That one is completely out of my control so long as we have billionaires.
The last one is plainly disingenious. Like, implying that yourself are the one that didn't let yourself be happier, and not whatever shitty circumstance in your enviroment, it's a take that a self-help writer would be happy to hear, because they only want you to feel totally responsible and guilty for everything bad that happens to you (Rhonda Byrne, I'm talking to you).
I wish I had spent more time at the bank.
Makes sense.
Making a bold prediction here: in 30-40 years' time, one of those will be replaced with something to the effect of "Waste less time on the internet"
I've noticed this with videogames, and tbh I'm kinda surprised more people haven't connected it to there yet. Videogames can be a hobby, but if it's all someone does at home for mental stimulation, I don't forecast it's living to the fullest. When going through a new experience, it can be memorable, yet the grind-heavy nature of most modern games doesn't produce much for memorable moments, and often is forgotten in a month's time save for the knowledge of how much time was spent on that.
Social media is rather similar, in that it mirrors the addictive nature of locking your attention and supplying unmemorable mental stimulation, at the cost of substantial time.
In my completely nonbiased and objective opinion that's factual in every way: This is not healthy. I dont feel anyone will look back and say, "I wish I spent more time getting upvotes," or "I wish I got that cool skin in the game I dont play anymore."
I know I'm absorbed in the internet during most of my waking hours, but my real life is a hellish, traumatizing wasteland. (The experience of being trans in a car-dependant desolated city in an advanced state of capitalist alienation + severe trauma that I cannot realistically get the mental healthcare for or support here to deal with.)
I remember very little of my life. It's like waking up from surgeries for short periods of time and experiencing little melancholic vignettes before going back under for unknown amounts of time. Laughing at stupid comments online in places like this is one of my only sources of joy.
Facing reality isn't the solution to my situation, yet. I need sedation, and maybe then I can recover from my injuries enough to survive going through that process.
I always say it depends on the videogame. Strategy games can even be stimulating as it makes you think more.
Absolutely agree, great to see it written out so well. Took me a long time to come to this realization and part of it was playing even more assuming that the feeling was coming from not being able to spend the time on them I wanted.
Extra devious as the research for engagement and dopamine hooks only keeps improving, most games are just gambling games or choose your own adventure. I've found my quality of life skyrocketing switching to books and puzzles/puzzle games.
Tldr Play Tametsi, experience the joy of gaming again.
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Sounds like I should be skipping work to have more gay sex
Im off all day, be here in thirty?
I don't think that's what they're saying, but I am completely onboard with this.
They missed out "I wish I spent more time arguing online with strangers"
Bro get the fuck out of here with that shit!
Clearly you waste your time on stupid things like "friends" and "empl*yment", instead of productive things like spending 12 hours a day complaining about video games online
Oh you wanna piece of me??? Just because I'm 38 and live with my mother doesn't mean I'm gonna take any shit from a scumbag like you! She works hard for our living and one day I'm gonna make her proud because I finally kissed a girl! Then you'll be sorry you messed with me!
No you! You leave first! Fuck you!
Whoa, can you both please just calm down a bit. Have a think about what you've just said to each other. THEN GET THE FUCK OFF OF MY INTERNET.
My dad invented the internet and he says you cunts better get lost or he'll send over the cyber police!!
Damn, lots of people dying without having truly lived.
Transition took a big bite out of 1,3,5 for me.
I wish I had played more Rimworld. My colony needed me.
I think the dying are maybe not a reliable source of life advice or possible future regrets. Maybe find some healthy 60 year olds or something
I think many people feel that there is a special emotional or even spiritual weight to dying, and that how you feel about your life at that time matters extra. Is that sensible compared to experiencing feelings for longer while you're still alive? Maybe not. But I think there's something to the idea that how it ends it how it finally is forever after that, even if you aren't around to know about it anymore.
Very well said. It doesn't really make sense, but that's how it feels
You should aim to have these regrets because it's the people who lived long enough to be interviewed on their death bed that have them. The people who died suddenly probably have regrets like "I wish I hadn't been texting while driving."
"I wish I had more bullet holes on my wingtips and the central section of the fuselage, and maybe some on the elevator."
"I wish I hadn't been pulled into the ore crushing machine by my sleeve while on the 15th hour of my shift because it's the only way in this town to make enough money to pay for the medicine my son needs to fight the disease this town and refinery caused in him"
But I guess maybe that counts as "I wish I didn't work so much"
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Apparently one common thought of people that survived jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge is not "in glad it's all over now", but "I could have solved all those problems except for having just done this".
I'm not sure I buy that in cases of really bad depression, but in more situational situations, yeah, I'm sure realising you have the power to even just walk away or stop caring about some big stressor is probably really powerful.
Ofc in the regular world most people would rather die than, say, walk out on their family or their job.
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I wish I paid more attention to where I was walking and hadn’t fallen off that cli
I mean I feel like he’s been done a historical disservice because in fairness they didn’t hit any elephants.
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