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[–] shawn1122@sh.itjust.works 67 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (3 children)

Is the purpose of human intimacy procreation?

If no, then why can't we have intimacy without the unnecessary outcome of the propagation of our species?

If yes, should we require that every relationship between man and woman result in offspring? But we don't, do we?

So, if we have the personal freedom to choose whether our relationships result in progeny and if there is more to intimacy than procreation, why are you so afraid of non-heterosexual relationships?

[–] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 40 points 5 days ago (2 children)

If yes, should we require every relationship between man and woman to result in offspring?

The people that care about this will answer yes.

[–] joyjoy@lemmy.zip 10 points 5 days ago (2 children)

The people that care about this will get divorced if one of them is infertile.

not before bankrupting the other with unnecessary and unwanted medical procedures

[–] pachrist@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

Historically, you'd just add another wife and keep chugging along.

[–] shawn1122@sh.itjust.works 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Two people that have a fully transmissable genetic conditon (which has caused them immense suffering) choose to share sexual intimacy without procreating (so as to not propogate that suffering). Should they be deprived of that intimacy (which acts as a reprieve from their suffering) simply because they choose not to create a new person who will also inevitably have to suffer?

[–] dabaldeagul@feddit.nl 2 points 4 days ago

Those people are unfit for life, so whatever. Just kill them at birth or if it's too late for that, ASAP.

-- those ppl, probably

[–] Holytimes@sh.itjust.works 15 points 5 days ago (3 children)

If a random ass crow can have a gay life partner and other crows see no problem with it. Then what's humanities excuse?

ARE THE CROWS JUST BETTER THEN US? I mean probably but THEY SHOULDN'T BE. We should be AT LEAST on par with crows!

[–] Grimy@lemmy.world 13 points 5 days ago

ARE THE CROWS JUST BETTER THEN US?

Actually, yes

I will fight you over the superiority of crows. I might be a species traitor but crows are incredible creatures and I’ll tolerate no slander, or there might be a murder.

[–] Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 4 days ago

Crows are genuinely fucking awesome though.

[–] Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 4 days ago

The assholes don't want us to have personal freedom, though.