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Most of the time when people say they have an unpopular opinion, it turns out it's actually pretty popular.

Do you have some that's really unpopular and most likely will get you downvoted?

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[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org 34 points 2 years ago (16 children)

Fuck ALL advertisements. Yes, even "unobtrusive" ones, especially yours. If I want your shit, I will find you. If I appreciate your shit, I'll pay you for your time. If you want to connect, I'm all ears. Otherwise, fuck off capitalists, fuck off advertisers, and fuck off useful idiots who want to waste my finite lifespan in this miserable universe showing me ads.

[–] Granixo@feddit.cl 7 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I literally just came from another post that was talking about this.

[–] e_mc2@feddit.nl 4 points 2 years ago

Basically what happened to the Internet as a whole.

[–] Shdwdrgn@mander.xyz 6 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Unfortunately there's a lot of products that most people don't even know exist. Hell I keep finding new tools and wondering why I've been doing things the hard way for so long.

OTOH, fuck all the advertisers who use shady tactics to make sales, and especially fuck all the people who pray on the naivety of others to steal their money. I was just showing a customer an email I got the other day stating her domain hosting was past due and required immediate payment, and she asked how I knew it was a scam. Uh, hello, because ---I--- am hosting your domain and website (and this is exactly why I share this kind of stuff with people, to make them think before they blindly write a check).

Unfortunately there's a lot of products that most people don't even know exist. Hell I keep finding new tools and wondering why I've been doing things the hard way for so long.

For sure. I'm not against promotion in the large, but the constant and intrusive advertisements within other tasks, such as web ads that take up valuable screen real estate, or TV/YouTube commercials that keep me from the programs I want to watch.

Like my username is literally PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S. I have no problem getting PM'ed or emailed stuff. For example, I'm subscribed to a number of mailing lists from sites I ordered from. Guitar Center can send me all the emails they want [1], sell me all the crap they want, because I can opt out at any time, and I have a work email so I can put them aside for later.

[1] To the specific email I gave them, which I do check.

[–] Landrin201@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I would argue that if there's a product that nobody knows exist that's not necessarily because we need to allow constant intrusive ads, and more indicative that people don't actually need the product.

I want to say that in any given day, 60% of the ads I see are from big, well known companies who don't need me to see them to know they exist. Shit like Liberty Mutual (I swear I see more of their ads than anyone else and THEY ARE ALREADY MY INSURANCE PROVIDER), Coke, Pepsi, etc. 39.9% of the remaining 40% are advertisements for shit that I just don't care about. I don't care about the newest tech toys. I don't care about the newest car mods, or random shit I can put on my desk, or stupid extra kitchen gadgets. Fully 40% of the ads I see are trying to convince me that I should buy a product that I straight up don't need because the ad looked cool. Why should those ads be allowed to exist? Why should I be constantly bombarded with ads for services that I either already know plenty about or for things that are trying to manufacture a reason for their existence?

Only about 0.5% of the ads I see are actually for things I did know know about and that seem useful to me, or like something I would like. Probably even less than that, I'm drunk rn and estimating.

[–] Shdwdrgn@mander.xyz 3 points 2 years ago

I keep throwing away ads from Comcast trying to sell me on the virtues of their business internet packages. Guys, I left you because your lame-ass shit was expensive as hell, slow as hell, and you couldn't even be counted on to meet a single appointment in 6 months to bury your damn line you left laying across my yard.

I agree with you, there's a lot of companies that just need to be silenced. You're allowed to send me ONE ad, and you better make it good because I don't ever want to hear from you again.

I'm down voting you because I agree lol

[–] Catsrules@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago (4 children)

I hate ads as much as the next guy, but without ads get ready to start paying for things. You go to a news website, sorry you need to login and hand over your credit card to access anything. Youtube? Sorry you need to login and pay up to watch anything. You want to Google,Bing, Duckduckgo something sorry you better pay up can't sell you data to advertisers anymore.

Not saying this is necessarily a bad thing but it will fundamentally change how the internet works and it potentially could limit informational access to poor people.

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[–] frozen@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz 14 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children)

Being fat is a choice the vast majority of the time, and I have a huge bias against big people.

I used to be fat (250ish lbs (110ish kg) at 5'8"ish (172ish cm)), and as much as I would like to blame my shit on anything else, the person feeding me, the person sitting at the computer for hours, the person actively avoiding all physical activity was me and no one else. After I got diagnosed with some weight related shit, I turned my entire life upside down, am at a much healthier 150 lbs (68ish kg), and feel so much better, both physically and mentally.

I'm aware of my bias, and I make every active effort to counter it in my actual dealings with bigger people. Especially because there are certain circumstances, however rarely, where it may not actually be their fault. But I'd be lying if I said my initial impression was anything except "God, what a lazy, fat fuck."

Edit: Added metric units

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[–] Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz 14 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (5 children)

We don't need more pronouns. We need less of them.

In my native language there is no even he/she pronouns. The word is β€œhΓ€n” and it’s gender neutral. You can be male, female, FTM, MTF, non-binary or what ever and you’re still called β€œhΓ€n”. You can identify as anything you like and "hΓ€n" already includes you.

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[–] CheeseBread@lemmy.ml 12 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (15 children)

Pansexual, polysexual, and omnisexual are all microlabels and are all subsets of bisexual. You don't need more labels than gay, straight, and bi.

Edit: I forgot about asexuals. But I specifically only care about bi subsets. They're dumb, and you only need bi

[–] Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 months ago

As a pansexual I feel that Bi and Pan have enough differences to both be justified while the others are micro labels (not invalid, just less useful as labels).

But I recognize I'm drawing that line very conveniently for myself.

[–] CeruleanRuin@lemmings.world 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Here's an unpopular opinion: you don't need any labels at all. You love who you live, you fuck who you fuck, you can advertise what you're looking for if you want to but all this identity business obscures the reality that humans are far more diverse and interesting than the boxes we build for ourselves.

Most people who call themselves straight would fuck someone from their own gender if there weren't cultural expectations against it hammered into them from and early age. Most people who call themselves gay would wander if they found someone they connected with. Very few of us rest at one end of any spectrum or matrix. Most of us are somewhere in the middle, and far more mobile than we might realize.

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[–] jsveiga@sh.itjust.works 10 points 2 years ago (6 children)

Dogs were hardwired by selective breeding to worship their owners. Not long ago they at least were loyal companions. You got one off the streets, fed it leftovers, washed it with a hose, it lived in the yard, and it was VERY happy and proud of doing its job. Some breeds now were bred into painful disabling deformities just to look "cute", and they became hysterical neurotic yapping fashion accessories. Useless high maintenance toys people store in small cages ("oh, but my child loves his cage") when they don't need hardwired unconditional lopsided "love" to feed their narcissism.

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[–] Sombyr@lemmy.one 10 points 2 years ago (5 children)

Most conservatives, however deeply red, are not intentionally hateful and are usually open to rational discussion. People just don't know how to have rational discussions nowadays and the few times they do, they don't know how to think like somebody else and put things in a way they can understand.

People nowadays think because a point convinced them, it should convince everybody else and anybody who's not convinced by it is just being willfully ignorant. The truth is we all process things differently and some people need to hear totally different arguments to understand, often put in ways that wouldn't convince you if you heard it.

It's hard to understand other people and I feel like the majority of people have given up trying in favor of assuming everybody who disagrees with you knows their wrong and refuses to admit it.

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[–] Ringmasterincestuous@aussie.zone 10 points 2 years ago (5 children)

After an entity reaches an annual cap (say $5m profit), 95c of every dollar should be taxed

[–] GreenMario@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago

Give em a "you won capitalism!" Participation trophy πŸ† too.

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[–] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 9 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Most people shouldn't be parents.

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[–] eddy@infosec.pub 8 points 2 years ago

Religion is nothing more then social engineering on a grand scale.

[–] Lettuceeatlettuce@lemmy.ml 7 points 2 years ago

People who are strongly against nuclear power are ignorant of the actual safety statistics and are harming our ability to sustainably transition off fossil fuels and into renewables.

[–] shrugal@lemm.ee 6 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children)

We have blown the concept of ownership way out of proportion. No one should be able to own things they have absolutely no connection to, like investment firms owning companies they don't work for, houses they don't live in or land they've never been to.

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[–] loudWaterEnjoyer@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 2 years ago (3 children)
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[–] loffiz@feddit.nl 4 points 2 years ago

USA is an oligarchy. I can imagine americans disagree. But perhaps not lemmies.

[–] Lauchs@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

Generally, social justice is at best, a distraction from real issues, albeit with very good intentions.

(We talk about human dignity, representation in film etc but not say, the fact most of our stuff is made by children who occasionally burn to death making it. If I were one of the billionaires running things, I would be overjoyed that people were so distracted about what a comedian said versus how our entire economic model is structured.)

[–] Blaze@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 2 years ago

Lemmy.world holding such a prevalent place in the Lemmy/Kbin part of the Fediverse makes it a major single point of failure.

They should still be the newcomers instance, but communities and users should migrate to other instances to increase the resilience of the Fediverse.

[–] Wilshire@beehaw.org 4 points 2 years ago

Owning a second home should be illegal.

[–] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago (4 children)

Eugenics sounds really cool. Not the mandatory sterilisation style, but breeding superhumans? Don't pretend that wouldn't be cool.

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[–] BynaD@lemm.ee 3 points 2 years ago

I find it insane that the same people who are anti-fossil fuel and want only green energy is also anti-nuclear power. I also want fossil fuels gone, but nuclear is the only way we are able to get to where we need to.

[–] joystick@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Got removed on reddit for this, but I think the mentally ill homeless should be placed in state institutions where they can get professional help.

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[–] macrocarpa@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (8 children)

The rise of feminism has seen the steady devaluation of the contribution of men in those areas of society where they should be most active. Rather than celebrate and recognise what's right, the focus is on attacking what's wrong.

The majority of men are lonely, isolated and uncared for. Many feel unvalued, unsafe and vulnerable. There is less community support for men than there has been in the past, less institutional support, and a continued decline in the tolerance of men being in shared places. The minimisation of value in societal roles is yet another way that men are cut off.

This seems to escape the vision of feminism. There is always claim of ideological alignment, where the empowerment of women directly benefits men, but when it comes to any form of concrete action that helps men that need help, or celebrates men that contribute - it's nowhere to be seen.

Men kill themselves. They kill themselves. In their thousands. Leaving cratered families, trauma, guilt from the survivors, many of whom are female. Because they feel valueless, helpless and can't see a purpose to going on.

Accountability goes both ways. In demanding support from men, feminism must support men.

The majority of men are lonely, isolated and uncared for

Suicide rates are down amongst the youngest, the highest suicide rates are from people over 50 and specifically, white people over 50

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[–] El_guapazo@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago

Jesus won't come for his followers until after the great tribulation. So all these people believing in the rapture and post apocalyptic world are wrong. That's why evangelical Christians don't believe in global climate change because it won't affect them if Jesus scoops them up before they face consequences.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 2 years ago

I don't want mass-adoption of Lemmy by more Reddit users (said a former Reddit lurker who likes it here and actually participates because it's awesome at this stage).

[–] TheButtonJustSpins@infosec.pub 2 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Corporations should only be allowed to exist as long as they're doing more good for society than the damage they do. Businesses should either be a net positive or run by people who are individually and jointly liable.

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[–] Nonameuser678@aussie.zone 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Everyone should try and reduce the amount of meat they eat as much as they can. Same goes for flying and driving.

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[–] coffee_poops@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago

The COVID pandemic never ended.

[–] Lifecoach5000@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

The Beatles were overrated.

[–] tweeks@feddit.nl 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Euthanasia should be available for anyone at any age. You don't choose to be born, life has no inherent value, suffering is strictly personal. Suicide is a terrible option with lots of drama, an extremely high failure rate and lifelong treatments or medication that are seen as the solution by society is a conservative convulsion of keeping people alive under any circumstances.

We could set up three sessions with a therapist, to keep people from losing loved ones too fast. But honestly, to me that would feel patronizing. That other people find it important someone stays alive is their problem. If it hurts them too much they can do the same.

There is joy in life and that's beautiful, but on a scale suffering has the possibility to be more intense. Let people die without drama, let them say goodbye if they want with a ceremony, let them choose.

That's the next step in the mentality of a modern civilization. It will fix the drama of wars, hunger and pain as you always have a simple painless solution if the suffering gets too heavy. Just end it, peacefully, whenever you want.

[–] reverendsteveii@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago

the military is a cult that tricks children into dying for the wealth of the owner class. they tell you you're defending "freedom" but you're defending the gravest enemies of freedom that currently exist.

[–] theragu40@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

A lot of things around the world were better before the Internet. And they were definitely better before smart phones reached ubiquity.

[–] Erasmus@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (14 children)

Both parties - Democrat and Republican - here in the US - are part of the β€˜problem’ and need to go. We desperately need a third or multi party system and an end to this bullshit of geriatrics ruling our government and making decisions.

I would make comments about the first line all the time on Reddit and immediately get downvoted to hell because people would start arguing or making comparisons to the old β€˜two sides of the same coin’ bit. That’s fine if that’s how you want to see it.

I get it, we all have certain things we fight for that the other party shits on, women’s rights (abortion), equal rights, labor, gun control, taxes, etc.

But both parties still serve their corporate masters and still do their damndest to turn people here in the US against each other using ever scare tactic imaginable and thru the media sources (Fox, CNN).

They just keep playing the Game to turn people against each other and create more decisiveness and more power for them.

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[–] LongPigFlavor@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago

We've been living in a dystopia for a very long time now, we're just becoming more aware to it.

[–] CeruleanRuin@lemmings.world 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Nobody should own dogs. They were bred as slave animals in a time before we understood that they were just as sentient as any other being, with pain receptors and emotions just as real as our own. And we have bred them to be miserable when we are not there giving them attention. Their apparent affection is an illusion, a food-gathering instinct honed by countless generations of selective and cruel in-breeding directed by humans who want to pretend that these animals actually love them, when they're really just pretending because they are rewarded for it.

Also, if you own a dog and let it bark for any length of time, ever, or let it wander unrestrained where it might bite or harass a stranger, or let it take shits and don't immediately clean that up, you deserve to be put in a cage.

[–] toomanypancakes@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

There's no ethical way to kill someone who doesn't want to die. This applies to more than just humans.

[–] takoman@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago (5 children)

I don't believe in prison for punitive justice. Prions should be used to keep society safe from dangerous people, not punishing them imo.

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