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It is weird and unhealthy full stop. Porn normalizes all kinds of bullshit and this is no different. Giving your partner brain damage is not sexy, it is stupid.
I've choked a lot of partners, and many of the women who have asked me to do it were middle aged women with kids who didn't watch porn at all. They like the power dynamic, the feeling of being controlled, the (somewhat) restricted breathing, and the impression that their partner (me) is strong and dominant. Most of the time, I'm not even really choking them- I generally hook my hand under her jaw, lock my fingers in a c-shape, and press up, rather than in. It looks and sort of feels like you're being choked, but isn't.
I've done consensual non-consent, I've whipped, flogged, and paddled women, I've pushed them into walls and dragged them to the bed by their hair. I've slapped them in the face, breasts, and groin. All because I was asked. It is often an incredible, intense, and pleasurable experience for the women I'm with. And because I find their pleasure arousing and deeply satisfying, it's pleasurable and intense for me.
Very few of them watched a lot of porn, and when they did, it was often the elegant and romantic sort of videos, rather than the brutal BDSM that you're imagining.
You're judging people for their sexual proclivities and suggesting that they've been brainwashed by porn, but you very clearly don't understand the people you're looking down on.
And spanking can lead to a broken back and permanent paralysis if applied with extreme force such as beginning the blow by jumping off the second floor landing.
What about the top rope? I already put a deposit on the ring but I don't want to ruin valentine's day with a hospital visit.
I hope you didn't let it slip that there will be a ring on Valentine's. There could be a misunderstanding.
It's an elaborate proposal involving a play on words and luchador masks.
This would be a perfect question for Yahoo Answers.
Suspiciously specific
I blame booktok
Why would anyone do that?
Cuz horny. It's fun with the right partner
Oh is it ever. Both my partner and myself love it… but we’re safe about it. Only blood chokes, no windpipe. Only medium/gentle, and never for extended periods of time.
It takes minutes to actually choke someone to death. You’re not going to die if you’re choked for ten seconds.
A proper carotid choke leading into and through an orgasm leads to a powerful experience.
There is a reason so many people die during autoerotic asphyxiation.
Never use a device to construct your neck, like a rope, only use your or a trusted and experienced partner's hand so pressure can be removed before losing consciousness. You can't remove a noose around your own neck when you pass out, which leads to you having the best orgasm you will ever have.
Huh, I always assumed it was a con/noncon thing. Some people like to role play helpless and attacked, but in a safe situation with someone they want . I assumed it was just holding by the neck, and was freaked out by that idea
There can be a degree of power play involved, but that is contextual and intent matters.
You can grab your partner by the neck firmly to infer domination or gain physical leverage with or without the intent to compress the trachea to restrict airflow, but applying pressure to the arteries of the neck for the purpose of reducing blood flow to the brain for enhancing an orgasm is a different grip.
The majority of neck grabbing, as often seen in porn, is the absolute wrong way to apply pressure to the arteries in the neck to enhance an orgasm; so it is just a domination or leverage thing. You can seriously injure a partner trying to grab their whole neck to achieve a hypoxic orgasm and even doing it properly with too much force can damage an artery. It takes almost no force to achieve the desired results, under 5lbs total, and you will see guys death gripping a partner. It only takes 15psi to damage a trachea and that is easy for most guys to do. So guys, a firm grip is fine, but don't choke them and keep pressure off of their windpipe ffs.
It is honestly hard to do a carotid choke properly and with the right timing without experience with your partner along with experience in doing it. Just shifting position, being off by a few seconds, swallowing, or moving your head can totally spoil the chances of having what could be an earth shattering convulsive extended orgasm for any gender.
Oh, ok, thanks for the explanation
can’t remove a noose around your own neck when you pass out, which leads to you having the ~~best~~ last orgasm you will ever have.
That's the joke.
People serious like to tease the reaper and cum as they are literally about to die with a rope or belt around their neck because cuming and going is supposedly the best. It is basically suicidal to do that solo and just stupid with a partner to provide some sort of rescue.
Probably because it feels incredible. I love the feeling of my spouse's hand gently restricting my airway during sex. It's worth noting that she's never ever cut off my air supply or caused bruising - and that we communicate really well - but I can easily imagine how someone would get carried away.
Yeah, exactly. It's perfectly possible to do it safely.
If I had to guess, they're probably copying what they see in easy to access for all ages online porn.