30 miles in distance, which doesn't seem like much. But very different culturally. Where I grew up often didn't feel like home even when I lived there. It definitely doesn't now.
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I'm about 8036.68 miles , 12933.78 kilometers from where I was born and where I am isn't my home but now it's been so long since I've gone back that I'm not sure it will feel like home if I go back either
4300km. I’ll go back for a few more funerals and maybe because downtown Boston has fantastic food.
I live around 40 miles from where I was born.
My home is where I am and who I'm with now. My spawn point is somewhere I managed to survive long enough to stage my successful escape.
About 12km. I hope to make it further in the near future, though.
Several thousand miles and no.
74 miles/119km.
I don't consider that specific place home. While it's not particularly far, I have no memories of it and it is different culturally. The state in general though I do consider home.
Weirdly I’m only 17 kms as I’m staying with friends while I’m away from home working. I actually live 90 kms away now, though I lived all over the world growing up. The furthest away was 12k kms.
I'm about 500 meters from the place where the hospital I was born stood (the building still exists, but it's something else now).
I grew up in this city since my parents moved here before I was born. I also lived here half of my adult life and I'm thinking of leaving.
I have no emotional connection with this city. My family is from a different region of the country and we have a very different culture. My heart is with my parents hometown and I always identify myself with the region autonym.
I saw an article 20 years ago that claimed the median distance of birthplace to death?place? is 50 miles for men in the US. I was determined to beat that number, and I'm almost double that now but goddamn was it hard.
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Maybe 250 miles. While I have “rose colored glasses” about that being a wonderful place to grow up, now it’s all grey monochrome dystopia. The major tech employer left and the town never recovered. Many years later it’s exactly the same, but decayed.
At this point I’ve lived in my current town almost as long, my current region longer. It’s home
Like 10 kilometers? The hospital I was born in was torn down but I still live in the same town and I don't plan on leaving.
Half a world away. It hasn’t been my home for more than 2 decades now.
In functional reality, I've lived in the same place all my life. In technical terms I'm less than 5 miles from the hospital where I was born.
I'm determined to be the short side of the 50 mile average.
About 6 miles from the hospital I was born in. I guess I technically don’t see that city as my home. I’m from Salford which is a city inside Manchester which is the city I call home.
Less than 200 miles. But I grew up about 400 miles farther. And no.
Thousands of miles and no.
About 30 miles. I guess I'd consider it local, but I've never considered that specific town home.
285 miles, 459 km. But no, absolutely not. My home town is where I grew up, not where I was born.
I'm more than a thousand miles away and it never felt like home. The few times I've been back reinforced my decision to leave.
16 miles right now.
480km away. Not much
And no
5 miles away from spawn point, the furthest I've lived is 300 miles away but in the same nation, my spawn city is absolutely home to me, even if not ethnically from here, I am very privileged to be born here
I live 2.2 miles/3,5 km from my childhood home but have lived as far away as 4,383 miles/7.053 km away. Yes, I would consider my hometown as my current home.
About 1000.
About 1000.
Lightyears? 👽
2307.9 miles. Don't remember Northern California at all.
~230 kilometers. I'm home now. That's not home. Left there at age 13.
About 120 miles. I am still familiar with the town, I've been back several times, but it's not my home. I've lived in the city I live in now for a little over 30 years.
A bit over 1200 miles. Haven't been to Texas since before i could read, once got close enough in Oklahoma to seat the GIANT WALL OF HEAT to the south and promptly said fuck that. No desire to ever be there.
Looks like 1126 miles. I had to guess the hospital, though. It was never home. Probably left within days never to return.
Other than that, lived my whole life within a 12 mile diameter except when I was in the Army and a 5 year stint in DC.
Right now I’m 9.8 miles away. Looking up how far away from it I live…looks like 10 miles. So now I’m wondering if I just spend my life rotating in a 10 miles away radius from my spawn point.
I live about 100km from my hometown. It's where I was born and I lived there on and off for about half my life but I no longer think of it as home.
About 6k km, vertically. Basically went from the middle of the planet to the tip.
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Hard to say, as my "spawn point," was decommissioned a few years ago, and is currently being dismantled. I suspect the medical deck is long gone from the ship.
"Home" has, for me, always referred to where I currently live.
A few hours. For me home is always a few things: my current residence, the place I grew up, and any place I slept last night that I'll sleep again tonight.
They don't all mean the same thing, but let's go home could mean any of those.
~2250 miles
Visiting the area feels like going home. I don't belong in my current location and i hate it here.
Home is where the close ones are.
Beside that, birth place is 151 km away.
About 30 miles, couple towns over. We moved away when I was 5, and back to roughly where I live now when I was 9. I consider my current city to be much more my home than my spawn point. Spawn point is in a pretty boring red county.
Over 10,000km. This is home, it's where my kids were born and are growing up. But there's also "back home", where I spent more than half of my life, where I met my wife, and where both our families are other than the two of us and our children.
About 1600km, and fuck no. Hit the ground running when I was 16 and never called anywhere home again.
2000ish km
I live about an hour from my spawn point. I don't consider it home as I left it 15 years ago after realizing it was dead end city full of terrible people.
20 km, and yes, definitely my home, i'd say :D