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Yes, especially since I'm an asshole and there's no option to disable inbox replies for comments on Lemmy (so I can't just hit and run). Nearly gives me an anxiety attack every time.
You like to play it dangerous, it seems. Keep things spicy? In this thread I've bumped into more than a few people who do the same and ignore all notifications too. To them, it's just a huge meaningless number that grows all the time. These people are essentially the drive-by shooter of the online world.
Nope!
Who cares what people on lemmy think about you or your opinions? I'd rather hear your honest opinion I disagree with than hear you agree with everybody else
Agreed. I prefer this place to be a spot where you can disagree. I learn a lot from disagreements.
It's true that the opinions and comments don't matter. At the end of the day, they're just meaningless internet points and text that will be lost when the disk of my instance eventually gets formatted or when bit rot gradually eats them away.
However, that's not how my social monkey brain feels about it. Some primitive part of me that ignores all logic and reason clings to the notion of social acceptance and shivers at the mere thought of rejection. Can't disable that sort of thinking. Seems to be a hard-coded part of a function or something.
I haven't gotten to a point where I couldn't read all the messages I got yet
Not worried exactly - but aware that I probably said something factually incorrect and now dozens of helpful people are lined up to set me straight.
Or dozemz to rip you a new one for defending a non (f)oss way of computong.
How dare you.
(and yet the same will use something like Plex, lol)
Sometimes I'll be super active commenting and posting on lemmy and it actually gains traction and the next day I'm like "what have I done?!"
Why the fuck would you post this? It's wrong and you're wrong and you're a bad person and you should feel bad! Fuck! Fucking fuckety fuck!
I say relatively controversial shit(not to troll--things I actually believe in) quite often. I've gone since gotten used to lists of disparaging comments. It's better to take it as an interaction dopamine hit
Coming from reddit where I used to post on big current affairs subs there isn't really anything comparable here.
I comment to put my opinion across and also to be challenged. It takes me a long time to change my mind on something but it's only by hearing opposing views that it ever happens. In the meantime I generally enjoy defending my position and that's what I'm here for. It's a different perspective from yours but if a bunch of people disagree with me I don't think that I'm "being corrected" I think "my correct opinion is in the minority here."
Sometimes I do get a feeling of "here we go again", that's all
Lemmy needs the "disable inbox replies" feature for comments imo. Although lately I see mostly polite disagreement.
I politely disagree.
That's really interesting, because a surprising number of people here ignore the number or just mark all as read every month. It's like treating comment replies as spam. I guess that's what you have to do if you're a drive-by shooter and never wish to face any consequences, but I'm not that kind of a psychopath.
BTW that could be a great post for !unpopularopinion@lemmy.world. If you end up posting it there, I'm really curious to see why people disagree with that... or more importantly, how many actually agree. Based on the small sample here, I think the latter group is not a tiny minority.
Of course if someone never wants to read comments they can just do that, but I think that's a bit of a different thing because it seems that would indicate disinterest in back and forth engagement here overall instead of just a specific kind.
I wonder though why you feel that you should "face consequences" for expressing an opinion you expect will be unpopular, while at the same time expressing anxiety about the possibility of it happening (when you have conviction you're right even), because that's honestly confusing to me. Why would it necessarily mean you 'screwed up' just because what you have to say triggered hostility? Wouldn't it be better just to be able to worry about it less, and express yourself more freely without chilling effects? People might say this could be abused, but I guess the way I see it is that letting others have the last word is what it amounts to externally, and what you choose to read or feel yourself is private and something you have broad license to make your own choices about.
For me the most common situation on Reddit where I use this feature is if I have something to say in disagreement with someone who is already talking aggressively about something. Where I have good reason to think they're likely to leave a nasty response, and that there likely won't be anything productive left to say, I'll probably have to hold myself back from responding further anyway, so there's no point feeling anxious in the meantime worrying about getting the inbox notification.
I also disable vote scores, though fortunately that's something Lemmy does have now afaik.
Hell no.
The reason I post here is to discuss things with people like things.
Yeah, I sometimes get that feeling "uh oh, what did I do?"
We may be a minority. Turns out, lots of people don’t get that feeling.
Humblebrag.
lol naaaah :)
Hi, I just wanted to make your inbox go bling. You didn't mess up and I hope you have a nice day.
Thanks. The number is already a bit overwhelming. Hopefully, I’ll get better at handling that feeling.
👁️🗨️👀👁️
I've never even looked, I use Boost.
I never got big numbers there. Maybe because I don't write posts much and only comment.
Depends on what instance or post I have commented on recently!
Was it .ml and there's many notifications? sigh
Some meme I commented something I felt was witty? weeee
No
No, it means I said something impactful enough for someone to respond. Even if they disagree with me it opens the door for a discussion. Maybe I'm wrong and I'm about to learn something, maybe I'll be able to explain something to someone else, maybe I'll get to argue with a moron, so many possibilities in those notifications.
Yup. Usually don't get much replies between checking, so if it's more than 2, I worry. Probably doesn't help that I have done the thing where I accidentally say something that a reasonable person would interpret quite differently than my intended message and reasonably got dogpiled because of it.
I get the same feeling sometimes, but only when I posted something that I know could be going against the general opinion. Otherwise I'm happy to see the number go up
Just to mess with you, I’m tempted to write a dozen comments with no real content… but other than that: i think it’s quite normal. Floods of negative reactions are more likely than positive ones, and more feared. In the other hand, Lemmy is a pretty chill place and, even when I got negative reactions, they were still cordial.
All in all, we are social monkey, and we care a lot about our social capital. That used to be the difference between survival by and death in nature, and we are still rooted that way. Even if we are accruing social capital with anonymous internet users we will likely never meet in person
