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Fuck you Tom! That's how you react to your brat violating the bodily autonomy of another human beeing!? Hearing you say that means he feels it's normal, he's got permission and that it's good masculine behavior. You're teaching your son to be an asshole instead of a functioning human being. Boys will behave better if we teach them to, so you better pick up the slack and join the rest of us in raising your fucking child!
When talking politics:
"It's plain as day" "Common sense" "I don't know about that" "We all know" "It's just natural" "Normal" "Everybody (verbs) (x)"
Like that kind of stuff irks me in normal conversations but when we are talking about something that is part of common debate, obviously it's fucking not already known "common sense", and dismissing evidence that clearly contradicted it by saying "I don't about that" or similar just sends me.
It's a problem with trolls, strangers, and even loved ones for me. It's just wild
I dont know about that.. :p
“Most people think ___.” No, unless you’re citing a statistic or roughly quantifying how many anecdotes you’ve heard agreeing with you to support that statement (both of which rarely happen), that’s just your opinion wrapped up in language to avoid actually justifying it.
Additionally, even if most people think something, I don’t care what most people think. In my experience what most people think vs what the best thing to think is are often not aligned.
"Give something 110%"
Fuck no! 100% is the max. Even that is often too much to ask. Also, what's in it for me? Your appreciation huh? Well fuck you.
"I have a challenge for you".
No you don't. You have a problem and want to make it mine. Piss off.
I am going through peoples replies sorta laughing to myself but what you have is the closest thing to something that irritates me. honestly 110 is like all the think out of the box bussiness speak to actualize externalities and such.
Eh...
“I call it as I see it.”
“I’m just very straightforward and honest.”
No, you’re a prick. That’s what you are.
People who champion "brutal honesty" generally seem much more excited about the brutality than the honesty.
Yeah, being truthful is generally good but that's independent of being an ass about it.
"No offence, but ..." followed by an insult.
Or starting off with an insult, then ending it with "Just saying ..."
As if these phrases nullify being a dick. If you're going to be an asshole, own it. Don't make excuses up.
In writing: "A Masterclass in X" to describe some sort of exemplary behavior. Hate hate hate seeing it.
I'm more forgiving with spoken language, but agree with the use of "literally" to mean "figuratively", it bothers me.
And in niche hairstyling lingo I hate when people use the word "micro-plopping" to describe scrunching or blotting with a cloth, because that technique precedes the word by at least 25 years, it wasn't invented recently and didn't need a new word. Plopping is tying your wet hair up in a cloth in a accordioned arrangement for awhile, and scrunching is just scrunching. What they are describing is better explained by saying they blotted with a cloth and/or scrunched with a cloth.
People who add periods to their acronyms (which is unnecessary to begin with), and then omit the last period.
R.I.P
M.A.S.H
"Literally" meaning figuratively. I'm fine with most words changing with use; but we need that word! It's how you indicate you're not exaggerating or speaking dramatically! Especially these days, that clarification is important!
I'm also seeing a lot of corporate buzzwords in job descriptions. I get that these are essentially technical terms, but they're not being used for accuracy or clarity here. You just don't like how short your description is.
Instead of “et cetera”, the speaker says something akin to “dut da da”. Drives me crazy!
You "hold the fort". It's a military position.
Only a fort molester would "hold down" the fort.
wait what
a) can forts be molested b) does holding something down meaning it's being molested? think paper weights c)
"I have nothing to hide" -Man wearing pants
"What I think she was trying to say is that- 🤓☝️" Stop trying to put words in my mouth or speak on my behalf when I am right here to put my point across to everyone.
That followed by those public event speakers that brush off the first round of goodmornings and then say "SAy iT lOuDeR! wHeRes yOuR eNeRgY! DIdNt yOu aLl eAt bReAkfAst?! 🤪" Idk what it is about hearing this sentence early in the morning that inspires so much hatred in me. You could have the most riveting, inspiring and thought provoking presentation in the world and have done lots of commendable deeds but if that string of words exits mouth before showing all of it, I automatically dislike you and whatever you have to say next.
I think what youre trying to say is that you want to communicate your own ideas in the way you wish to and not funneled through another mind.
Also yes anyone in public speaking wanting more of a response is annoying.
How do I leave a 50/50 downvote and upvote for this lol. The downvote is for that banger of an opening sentence and the upvote is in agreement to those kinds of public speakers being annoying.
"It is what it is" when describing a bad situation.
No, that's defeatist as hell, it will be whatever it will be when I've given it everything I can to make it better.
I’ve read that one differently all this time. I thought It is what it is when it’s handed to me a mess. I can’t change what made it a mess. I can only clean it up. Coming to terms with the fact none of us can change the past and finding blame is pointless if i still have to clean it up.
EG: when faced with cleaning up a hoarders house. We might not have caused it but it still needs to be cleaned up. That’s when it is what it is so we don’t keep blaming what is usually the dead person found in it who can’t do anything about it anyways.
There's a reason you dislike it so, I wager
It's not that deep." – dismisses attempts to expose faulty logic by asserting that logic is not necessary in this particular case.[8]
"Lies of the Devil." – used as a response to any fact that threatens the integrity of an individual or group.[9] "Stop thinking too much." – redirects attention from the topic, idea, or argument at hand to the alleged overuse of thought itself.[10]
"You clearly care way too much about this topic." – implies that one's level of concern or interest in a particular topic or situation is excessive and thus invalidates any further conversation or exploration[2]
"There are worse things in life to worry about." – implies that less significant issues are not worth addressing since they are not as significant as other issues and implies that a person's situation is not significant enough to even warrant discussion or action[11]
"It's all good." – nullifies, without evidence, any possible debate by asserting the issue is already settled.[12][user-generated source?]
"Here we go again." – implies that the redundant, cyclical nature of a given disagreement means it will never be resolved.[13]
"So what? What effect does my action have?" – used to dismiss an individual's involvement in a larger cause on the grounds that one person is too insignificant to ever have a meaningful impact.[2]
"Let's agree to disagree." – used to stop discussion of an issue rather than attempt to resolve it;[14] may, however, instantiate a dialectic.
"It is what it is." – implies that things are unchangeable, therefore there is no point in further discussion.[15]
"Let people enjoy things." – purports that criticisms to consumable media are attempts to prevent consumers from enjoying said media.[
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thought-terminating_clich%C3%A9
Oh god; where to start?
And now there's one more:
Oh there's one I hate to no end.
To make a superlative, in Spain there's this sentence that it has become popular:
[whatever adjective]? not, the next thing
Tall? Not, the next thing
Difficult? Not, the next thing
Expensive? Not, the next thing
Blue? Not, the next thing
What the fuck is the next thing?
It was uninspired 15 years ago, now is just infuriating when you hear it five times in the same conversation.
I'll be honest, I'll be honest
"no offense" then proceeds to offend said person, or people using the word "YALL" how did it become popular when 15-20years ago and was considered unintelligent. Also people saying "entitled to thier own opinions" but end up saying thier own opinions matter more.
I dont let my emotions control me like that, but I know what you mean. :)
“It is what it is.”
If you don’t have anything valuable to add, say nothing. Like, silence is okay.
That phrase has always had a Buddhist-type quality of acceptance for me, even before I knew what Buddhism was. But I think it is favored by people who fail to recognize the difference between "seeing reality as it is" and "believing that reality can't be challenged or changed".
