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[–] TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

The video of Zaid on the website. He blinks a lot while pausing before saying he's ok. That is a sign people in cults do when they are not ok.

Also, when a group make a video of a member in which they state they are ok to prove nothing is wrong, it's a sign something is wrong.

When they state a member leaving as "defected", it's a sign of a cult.

When they use the word "breeding" for adding children to their group is totally not a red flag lol.

[–] espurr@sopuli.xyz 1 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

H...E....L....P.....M...E.....E...................H....E...L...P......M....E............

[–] yetAnotherUser@lemmy.ca 4 points 17 hours ago

I still can't understand if this is a joke or not. Some parts feel like a joke.

[–] GreenBeanMachine@lemmy.world 7 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

It sounded fun at first, until I started reading the rules. Now it sounds like a chore. I feel like I'd rather go to a job interview than a polycule interview. Nothing against them though, happy they found love!

[–] MithranArkanere@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago

"You can't click on this link because it is on printed paper, you will need to type it into your browser".

That got me chuckling, because I have actually tried to do that multiple times, but only succeeded twice.

[–] ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

They lost me when they asked for a LinkedIn account

[–] pruwybn@discuss.tchncs.de 47 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Come on, "polyrule" was right there

[–] Maven@piefed.zip 13 points 1 day ago
[–] GooseGang@beehaw.org 6 points 23 hours ago

Ominous shadow puppets in Zaid’s video. A+ to them for logistics and teamwork. I hope they find their match.

If serious: The breeding thing and this being SF suggests some strange subgroup from lesswrong/rationalism/TESCREAL or whatever they go by now.

[–] Avicenna@programming.dev 27 points 1 day ago (2 children)

"We are considering having Melissa breed with Norman or Zaid, and/or Mackenzie with Douglas, as we believe these would be the genetically-optimal combinations. This would likely take place in the next 1-2 years."

Wow, I think this just found the field of microeugenics

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[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm happy with my monocule. Every couch feels like an XL couch when you're by yourself

[–] Aralakh@lemmy.ca 2 points 22 hours ago
[–] SlippiHUD@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

I love how they don't rule out people who can't figure out a printed url. I certainly couldnt partner with someone who needs instructions on how to use a link.

Why wouldnt you just use a qr code?

[–] TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 171 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (7 children)

Wanted: Roommate, must fuck every other housemate

Edit: wow this is a cult lmao

[–] favoredponcho@lemmy.zip 33 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It seems like a big commitment just to save a few bucks on rent

[–] Anivia@feddit.org 31 points 1 day ago (1 children)

How expensive is rent in the US if that listed rent is saving money????

[–] favoredponcho@lemmy.zip 16 points 1 day ago (2 children)

In SF if you rent your own place it’s like $3000-4000.

[–] bridgeburner@lemmy.world 1 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Do jobs at least usually pay 10 grand or more per month there?

[–] favoredponcho@lemmy.zip 2 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

Yeah, tech jobs easily pay $200k-600k. A bad, low level tech job will still probably pay $120k. Some people are making $1M+, especially couples where both have tech jobs. This is why many people choose to live in California despite the cost of living. That said, if you aren’t in tech, it can be a struggle and that’s where you get people trying to cling to rent-controlled apartments and split rent 6-ways. This polycule is probably in part driven by housing costs and as most of them are young, they haven’t yet come to feel that living with 6 other people fucking sucks.

[–] fun_times@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Jesus christ! That's around the median monthly income in my country. And I come from a rich country.

My rent is around a fifth of that. Please tell me the $3000-4000 range is at least for a family apartment.

[–] Holytimes@sh.itjust.works 20 points 1 day ago (3 children)

The majority of America its physically impossible to live by yourself with in an hours drive one way of any reasonable job.

You either have roommates, work two jobs, work remote and live so far out in bumfuck nowhere your basically a hermit.

Or you live in glorified squaller.

[–] Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The average rent in the US is about 1600/mo, and the median household income is 83k/yr. Obviously these averages/medians will change dramatically when looking at individual places, but if you live in a major coastal city that's infamous for being unaffordable you will absolutely need roommates to afford rent.

However there's also plenty of major cities which are not unaffordable so while you can have your eyes pop out of your sockets looking at LA, SF, NYC, etc. Toledo OH or Milwaukee WI are just quietly going on about their day being relatively affordable places to live with plenty healthy local economies

[–] hraegsvelmir@ani.social 2 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

I've looked at those sorts of cities, and honestly, it has yet to wind up proving practical once I run the numbers. Yeah, I could move to Indianapolis and have a much nicer apartment for the same money or less, but between wages generally being substantially lower and needing to purchase at least two cars to be able to get around in most of these places, it's always wound up where I would be tossing the roughly the same percentage of my income away between those two factors.

Like, I would be perfectly fine with moving away to a city where I took a paycut, but could afford a comparable apartment with a lower rent and rely on public transit or bike infrastructure to get around safely and quickly, but I haven't found anywhere that ticks those two boxes yet.

It really seems like something that only makes sense if you're taking an internal transfer and will be keeping your higher salary after moving inland.

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[–] curbstickle@anarchist.nexus 91 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There are so many little things in that link that sends up a little red flag, but this section.... Oof.

Family planning:

  • We would like to have 3-4 kids.
  • We are considering having Melissa breed with Norman or Zaid, and/or Mackenzie with Douglas, as we believe these would be the genetically-optimal combinations. This would likely take place in the next 1-2 years.
  • As you would be a newer addition to the polycule, we would need to get to know you for 2-4 years (depending on good behavior) before considering adding you to the gene pool.
[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 67 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Genetically-optimal? How in the fuck do they determine that? What happens if their spawn is not genetically-optimal? Recycling bin?

Geezus fuck people are dumb sometimes.

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 20 points 1 day ago

Genetically-optimal? How in the fuck do they determine that?

Hot and hot = optimal, I'd assume. I haven't checked the website to see if they have photos of the people or anything.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Ugh it smells very american, who ever talks like that any more? Didn't you pay attention during WW2? 😬

[–] youcantreadthis@quokk.au 12 points 1 day ago

Nobody did and everyone who tried is long dead.

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[–] EpeeGnome@feddit.online 101 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (7 children)

I clicked the link and read the whole thing. I still am not sure if this is sincere or satire. It's so out there that I kind of hope it is real, and that they find what they are looking for.

[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 77 points 1 day ago (2 children)

My favorite part:

What is your “special move”? *

If you are under 25 & haven’t figured it out yet, you may skip this question.

[–] kieron115@startrek.website 2 points 18 hours ago

I liked the bit about having been involved in 5 or more orgies counting as experience.

[–] fireweed@lemmy.world 76 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was leaning real but intentionally humorous, but then they asked for the applicant's LinkedIn profile and now I have no idea

[–] mika_mika@lemmy.world 68 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I lost my shit at the exemption for outside hookups while on holiday at Burning Man. So specific. 😅

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[–] troybot@midwest.social 25 points 1 day ago (5 children)

I don't believe you because the fine print at the bottom specifically says you can't click the link

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[–] pennomi@lemmy.world 76 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Yeaaaah, that’s not being polyamorous. There’s no amour anywhere near this group. Just somebody (or somebodies) who wants to manipulate a vulnerable victim.

There are plenty of great poly people out there who won’t try to steal your money or control your body.

[–] Maven@piefed.zip 67 points 1 day ago (12 children)

Yeah 100%. As someone who is a "normal" poly person, the stuff listed in this is awful and terrible and shouldnt ever actually be considered polyamory.

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[–] Evil_Shrubbery@thelemmy.club 32 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Yeah, I know when a polycule is looking for a short member they can lift up to get the cookie jar & high shelf stuff.

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[–] spacesatan@leminal.space 18 points 1 day ago

If this was Portland I'd be sure it's a joke, but SF? who could say

[–] Mulligrubs@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

One person's heaven is another's hell.

This sounds like an unrelenting horror to me. Imagine all of the talking.... yap yap yap every second 'it's hot' 'i'm hungry' GET OUT GET OUT

[–] favoredponcho@lemmy.zip 26 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

My favorite part is that you can’t fuck anyone outside the polycule, except at burning man 🤣

[–] Supervisor194@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago

I'd need more information before I could say I wanted to be in their polycule, much less their breeding pool.

[–] Maven@piefed.zip 56 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I should note: this is NOT me.

[–] recentSlinky@lemmy.ca 100 points 1 day ago

Found the defector

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