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[–] knobpolisher@feddit.nl 3 points 2 hours ago

The real question is how to incorporate factorio into kink...

[–] yogurtwrong@lemmy.world 14 points 12 hours ago

I am convinced that game is catnip for engineers

It has everything needed to scratch the itchy parts of the engineer brain, in extremely high concentrations.

Shit's worse than heroine

[–] endless_nameless@lemmy.world 107 points 1 day ago (11 children)

I once dated a goth girl who wanted me to tie her up. I took it seriously and started learning how to do it. Researched the correct type of rope to use, the dangers associated, etc. Went to the hardware store. Built a really simple practice rig so I could practice some knots safely. Learned about which knots were safe where on the body without causing nerve damage, and how to recognize the early signs of nerve damage before the damage becomes permanent. I even got special scissors for cutting rope in an emergency.

I informed her of my progress and that we would be able to indulge in her fantasy soon. (note: I was recently diagnosed with autism) She told me I was being to extra about it and that she didn't want to do it anymore. I asked her if she'd rather lose feeling in her fingers. Needless to say that was a huge waste of time and effort. Moral of the story is either a) don't put in energy to these things without knowing it will be matched, or b) when someone says they want to be tied up just buy a roll of sex tape and safety scissors.

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 hours ago

Ooh! Ooh! Competence is sexy, you should tie me up instead

[–] ashestoashes@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

in my experience ppl who wanna be tied up are also interested in the safety aspect, but that might just be because I attract autistic ppl, I feel bad you had a bad experience tho

[–] pringus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 18 hours ago

well, you came out of that with a lot more knowledge of rope bondage and safety at least

[–] cows_are_underrated@feddit.org 7 points 18 hours ago

Thats her loss for not wanting to be tied up correctly. I on the other hand.......

[–] bulwark@lemmy.world 29 points 1 day ago

Look on the bright side, you're probably really good at sailing now.

[–] atomicorange@lemmy.world 75 points 1 day ago

There are a lot of people with impossible fantasies. They want their partner to be spontaneous but only when it’s convenient, they want a sense of danger but no real danger (but they want to believe there is real danger). It leads people to do stupid stuff like under negotiating kink scenes in the interest of “realism”. People get hurt.

You did the right thing. Some goth girl will be lucky to have you tie her up someday.

[–] deviantfemboi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

noooo that's cute please continue and find a happier goth girl

[–] endless_nameless@lemmy.world 6 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I tried it with my next girlfriend after her. It was fun but I realized I'm not really into kink. I'm not even really that into sex. To me, learning all that was an act of love. I'm currently prioritizing other things now. I'm going to live life for myself now, going back to college in hopes of becoming an engineer. I'll probably forget relationships unless I'm lucky enough to meet someone very special.

[–] deviantfemboi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 hours ago

very nice, thanks for sharing! that's a lovely perspective.

[–] Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works 37 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Forget her, you did good and now know all the important stuff if someone else has a similar ask.

But fr sex tape is much easier, shibari's a skill that takes practice and knowledge to avoid injury, particularly if you want to start getting fancy.

[–] gnutrino@programming.dev 15 points 1 day ago

Did you enjoy learning that stuff? If nothing else you got an anecdote out of it so I'd say it wasn't a total waste.

[–] RamenJunkie@midwest.social 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Bro, just use like, a bathrobe belt, soft, easily removable.

[–] cows_are_underrated@feddit.org 3 points 18 hours ago

Since a bathrobe belt is usually only 1-1.5m long, the amount of bondage you can do with it is in fact quite limited.

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[–] WillStealYourUsername@piefed.blahaj.zone 56 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (30 children)
[–] katze@lemmy.4d2.org 20 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (1 children)

pedophile, racist, misogynist,

None of the screenshots show that though.

[–] HappyFrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 13 hours ago

How is defending female pedos not supporting pedofiles? He argued that it wasn't rape because the little boy likes it.

[–] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 13 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

This person has a really shallow understanding of consent. That doesn't mean that they can't learn or change their mind.

I'm also wondering why they think that communism inevitably leads to mass murder.

Yeah was reading through this and he's definitely a dumbass, but there's plenty of those types around. Using the expletives OP comment used is unjustified and would only reinforce his ideas that cancel culture comes from the left and not the right.

[–] Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 1 day ago

💔 This hurts to read

[–] call_me_xale@lemmy.zip 17 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

This. Play Satisfactory instead.

[–] AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

Dyson Sphere Program

[–] I_am_10_squirrels@beehaw.org 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Shapez 2

Shapez is good too, but Shapez 2 is much better

[–] Erusset@slrpnk.net 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] call_me_xale@lemmy.zip 6 points 20 hours ago

Open source ftw

[–] Mandarbmax@lemmy.world 29 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Oh damn, you got a source for that?

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[–] Dagnet@lemmy.world 46 points 1 day ago

When both of you want to play factorio but there is only one pc

[–] Gork@sopuli.xyz 19 points 1 day ago

The Factory must grow. At any cost.

[–] socsa@piefed.social 8 points 1 day ago

This is dumb, the whole point of factorio is to automate it enough that you can have sex for five minutes and not miss anything.

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 day ago

i would probably hugg----

and then spoonfeed applesauce.

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