Running Ubuntu 22.04:
I've tried searching for a solution to this, but there's way too many false positives. I know you can enable/disable using a single instance in two places, but that's not my issue. If I open a video the first time, VLC works fine. If I have both the "only use one instance" off, I can click on other videos and they run too. But if I have any combination of those boxes checked I can only play the first video, and to play a new video I have to manually close the VLC player.
What I want to happen is to have one player spawn, but any new video will run in that player, overriding the existing video. Is that just not possible? I don't want to have to close the window every time I run something new, and I don't want to have to go back and lose a whole bunch of separate VLC instances when I'm done.
Update: I found the solution, and I should have tried it first before posting. Oh well, at least I didn't leave anyone who might find this hanging like a DenverCoder9.
Being Ubuntu, VLC was installed via Snap (I can't recall if I did it or it's default). I suppose I should look into the de-Snap process I've seen mentioned before, as I've also had a few non-crash errors since running Ubuntu where snap was the source.
So the solution was to install the Debian version in terminal, not Snap. It works like I expect and wanted, and I can run video after video and it uses the same window.
Be interested, just a little bit, in what they're interested in. Like, you don't have to enjoy it, but show interest and they'll respond a lot more than if you make that a problem they have to choose over.
I mean I might put down the doc simply because I can come back to it anytime, while the moment won't. But what would spark things more is if she asks me something simple about what had my focus.
And this goes both ways. Paying attention to what your SO likes in any amount works so much better than making it something bad.