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[–] TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 145 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

"I activate Pot of HRT, which allows me to draw two new pronouns from my deck."

[–] waigl@lemmy.world 92 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

But the pronouns I use for myself are I/me!

[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 29 points 2 weeks ago

i agree with me

[–] shweddy@lemmy.world 78 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

My pronouns are yoink'd/yours

[–] AzuraTheSpellkissed@lemmy.blahaj.zone 38 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Instructions are unclear, can I call you mine?

[–] fartographer@lemmy.world 10 points 2 weeks ago

What's yours is mine, and what's mine is ours

I hate you Alfalfa

Note: before the nostalgia hits, fuck Bug Hall

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[–] Sanctus@anarchist.nexus 49 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Dude just wait until I show you nested genders, or Gender View ViewGender models. Gene was right, though he was just trying to sell merch.

[–] Warl0k3@lemmy.world 25 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)
[–] riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)
[–] xquje@lemmy.zip 9 points 2 weeks ago

(/ she her)

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[–] Atherel@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 2 weeks ago

Is there such a thing like a pronouns-bomb? And would that be called "pronbombo"?

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 20 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

If I have to implement one more fucking abstract gender factory so help me god

[–] Sanctus@anarchist.nexus 12 points 2 weeks ago

Dont worry, I have permission to use this: wfziwYkKoYjY7Jy.jpg

Truly inspiring, if only it wasn't disabled in game.

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 2 weeks ago

Are your genders object oriented?

Can they be expressed in trinary?

Do they accept NULL or NaN inputs, or do they need to be safely initialized with a sentinel value?

[–] Tetragrade@leminal.space 42 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

My pronouns are

function getPronouns() {
    const dateNow = new Date();

    if(dateNow.getMonth()===3 && dateNow.getDate()===1) {
        return "clown/clownself";
    }
    else {
        const timeNow = dateNow.getTime();
        if(timeNow%3 === 0) {
            return "they/them";
        }
        else if(timeNow%5 === 0) {
            return "she/her";
        }
        else if(timeNow%7 === 0) {
            return "he/him";
        }
        else {
            return "void/voidself";
        }
    }
}

console.log(getPronouns());

Please run this code in your browser console before interacting with me to determine my pronouns at that point in time.

[–] yetAnotherUser@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

But why would I use third-person pronouns when interacting with you?

[–] Tetragrade@leminal.space 5 points 2 weeks ago

Void don't understand you.

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[–] froufox@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

unnecessary else after if with a return statement

[–] Tetragrade@leminal.space 7 points 2 weeks ago

Its a stylistic choice. In this house we turn off no-else-return.

[–] ayyy@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

This shitty attitude about saving characters to reduce clarity is how we get things like https://gotofail.com/

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[–] Malgas@beehaw.org 40 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

But I use I/me pronouns for myself. That'll get confusing real quick.

[–] riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] Malgas@beehaw.org 6 points 2 weeks ago

I have no idea who either of us is talking about.

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 4 points 1 week ago

No I'm Yuu, who's Mii?

[–] Peppycito@sh.itjust.works 30 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

All this talk about pronouns, I just want to know your adverbs. Mine are Lazily and Slowly.

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[–] stepan@lemmy.cafe 28 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

what if two people like that talk?

[–] Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 32 points 2 weeks ago

Ouroboros gender

[–] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 2 weeks ago

They call it gay and make out

It's a paradox, like time traveling to kill your parents.

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[–] atopi@piefed.blahaj.zone 22 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

i have yet to encounter pronouns as cool as recursive pronouns

The pronouns changing every time they are used comes close though

[–] cabillaud@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

Bookmarked!

[–] Atherel@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 2 weeks ago

Our pronouns, comrade

[–] cadekat@pawb.social 20 points 2 weeks ago

Order all pronoun sets by how frequently you think they are applied to me, then choose the second most frequent. That set is today's pronouns.

I get very angry if you are wrong.

[–] reallykindasorta@slrpnk.net 19 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I’ve heard ‘any pronoun stated respectfully’

[–] Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 23 points 2 weeks ago

I liked the way Leslie Feinberg put it:

I care which pronoun is used, but people have been respectful to me with the wrong pronoun and disrespectful with the right one. It matters whether someone is using the pronoun as a bigot, or if they are trying to demonstrate respect.

Lol mirror/your pronouns is a selection hexbear has

[–] joyjoy@lemmy.zip 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
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[–] craftrabbit@lemmy.zip 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Alright, what else do we need to make these Turing-complete?

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

i think you need at least a rule for how to infer new pronouns from the old pronouns, and you need a way to jump forward and back in the pronoun stack

[–] Rozauhtuno@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

This kind of people are really precious. If you can find some that synergize well with each other you can get a lot of mult.

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[–] FilthyShrooms@lemmy.world 9 points 2 weeks ago

My pronouns are the opposite of yours

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 2 weeks ago

I am pro anti-nouns.

Meaning that I may or may not like you, depending on how/what you parse that statement to mean.

[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago
[–] Jackcooper@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago
[–] Drekaridill@lemmy.wtf 7 points 2 weeks ago

The golden pronouns

[–] Batmancer@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I like to say my pronouns are whatever I look like to you.

I’m afraid it will be interpreted as mean though but I really don’t mind.

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 5 points 2 weeks ago

I'm doing My part! I use capitalised pronouns, like I, Me, You, They, She, and It.

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