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And why haven’t you said it?

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[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

I never hated you. I've just been disappointed in the choices you have made that led you to become the person you are today. you were always my hero, until you stopped caring.

to my older brother who has surrounded himself with white trash MAGA centric people and has become an unfathomable closet racist.

I haven't said it, because it would probably remove any possibilities of seeing each other again.

growing up I always kind of looked up to him. he had to deal with more fucked up shit from both my parents than I ever had to. I admired his spirit to never give up and to continue moving forward.

then one day, he just kind of settled. I think he just was afraid of being alone. thing is, he's surrounded himself with empty husks of human beings that use him. he's still alone, just alone with parasites.

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

"Burn my ebook reader in a consecrated fire, that it might follow me into the afterlife. Don't forget the charger cable."

[–] Rivermoonwolf@lemmy.world 10 points 15 hours ago

Mekka lekka hi, mekka heiny ho!

Whew! Glad I got that off me chest!

[–] CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world 9 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Tell my wife I said "Hello".

[–] Rivermoonwolf@lemmy.world 5 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

What could make a man go..... neutral?

[–] LORDSMEGMA@sh.itjust.works 5 points 8 hours ago

It's a beige alert!

[–] Iconoclast@feddit.uk 11 points 21 hours ago

I doubt I'd regret nothing as I would be dead.

[–] HuudaHarkiten@piefed.social 9 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

A bunch of fuck you's to a bunch of people.

I haven't said them because I'm not interested in the drama that would follow.

[–] JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 hour ago

But it would really good right at the end before you peace out

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 4 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Not much really, maybe not telling my partner how to maintain the tank for our axolotl.

[–] Dicska@lemmy.world 4 points 5 hours ago

What the hell does your axolotl run on?

[–] Deestan@lemmy.world 27 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

"I am recording this message as testimony in case I die tomorrow April 20th 2026. It is not an accident. Johan the noisy upstairs neighbor who throws cigarette butts onto my balcony and yelled at my kids for laughing too loud may have poisoned me. Do not let him get away with it."

[–] LemminNewbie@lemmy.today 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Sounds like you better get him before he gets you.

[–] Deestan@lemmy.world 5 points 12 hours ago

Nah, he's harmless. I just want to cause him problems post mortem.

[–] muxika@piefed.muxika.org 28 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I love you, Dad.

We're low-contact and he's had some health scares. It's a sensitive relationship, but I still love him.

[–] finallymadeanaccount@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Say it to him now. No time like the present.

[–] vrek@programming.dev 5 points 23 hours ago

Just for causing anarchy... Tell your mom "I love you dad".

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 7 points 21 hours ago

Apologies to some people. Haven't given them because sometimes it's not the right thing to just pop back into their life. Giving them no contact is the next best thing to telling them I was wrong and that's what they'd prefer.

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 17 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Telling my family the passwords for my bank account. Should be pretty obvious why I haven't said it yet

[–] expatriado@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

i don't think they're supposed to make transactions with your online account after your passing, may be seen as fraud, must go through probate court instead. if you got joint account owners, they can uses their passwords to make transactions

[–] FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 3 points 21 hours ago

Just make a will?

[–] Katana314@lemmy.world 1 points 17 hours ago

Maybe not bank accounts but I might like to share some of my online accounts; places where I stored brainstormed ideas and such.

[–] LodeMike@lemmy.today 8 points 1 day ago

That's something you'll never have to do. In fact you shouldn't do that. The money will be passed to next of kin like other property. Whereas if the family member transfered the money out it would be treated more like fraud.

[–] daggermoon@piefed.world 4 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (2 children)

I love you
I never said it because I never felt that way about anyone. My family doesn't count.

[–] Nomad@infosec.pub 1 points 16 hours ago

Maybe you are an avoidant type?

[–] CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world 0 points 17 hours ago

Curious. I love you and I never even met you.

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I've said enough. Sometimes too much. I'm more likely to regret what I said, but I've pretty much made peace with myself and my mistakes. What's done is done.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 day ago

This. I barely have a filter as it is!

[–] hperrin@lemmy.ca 5 points 22 hours ago

“And there we go. I’ve successfully stolen all of Elon Musk and JK Rowling’s wealth and used it specifically to donate to transgender youths charities.”

I haven’t said it because I have yet to accomplish it.

[–] sturmblast@lemmy.world 1 points 17 hours ago

None, I speak my mind

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 1 points 17 hours ago

Having said or having done?

[–] notsosure@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago

Can you put on a condom?

Actually, nothing, but perhaps I wish I had said some things more often?

[–] nis@feddit.dk 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"I won the big lottery?!"

I haven't.

[–] FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 1 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Lottery culture is insane now in my country, britain. I was raised to never engage in gambling but they now have lotteries you can enter for free and ones that your neighbours can enrol your neighbourhood in. In many ways, britain still tries to be capitalist HQ

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 1 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Is it insane? Never bought a lottery ticket and I don't think my parents ever did either. I don't think I know anyone who buys them on a regular basis, my partner sometimes gets a ticket when there is a big one? I don't really know how it works but that is the impression I get anyway.

[–] FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 1 points 16 hours ago

I don’t think I know anyone who buys them on a regular basis

Seems to be a lot of peope that do the postcode one, and the fact that ~~it's~~ traditional lotto is so pushed in shops, and the fact it manages to keep rewards so high, suggests that a lot of people buy-in to it. Plus almost every neighbourhood high-street where I live has a betting house - I guess that's an improvement though, because there used to be one for every neighbourhood.

[–] Ioughttamow@fedia.io -1 points 1 day ago

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