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[–] Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca 1 points 48 minutes ago

None. Nor gals. Nor gender fluid. Nor non binary.

[–] RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 1 points 49 minutes ago

Context, as usual, is everything.

[–] FosterMolasses@leminal.space 1 points 1 hour ago

[laughs in pansexual]

[–] Dippy@beehaw.org 3 points 4 hours ago

7 guys. Two were women, the rest were non binary. 1 pener.

[–] BambiDiego@lemmy.zip 7 points 16 hours ago

Like, 4 women. I love those guys.

[–] Soulg@ani.social 43 points 1 day ago
  1. Context matters

  2. It doesn't matter if I think it's gender neutral, if someone asks me not to use it for them, I stop. Easy

[–] mrslt@lemmy.world 8 points 21 hours ago

OP, if you want to fuck, just say so.

[–] agent_nycto@lemmy.world 7 points 20 hours ago

You're right, we should double down and use guy more often for everyone, to make sure it's gender neutral. Same with dude.

[–] Draconic_NEO@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 19 hours ago

Zero, no matter how you define it.

[–] germanatlas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 21 hours ago
[–] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 64 points 1 day ago (1 children)

wouldn't you like to know :3

[–] Im_old@lemmy.world 24 points 1 day ago

Yeah, envy is a terrible thing. 😆

[–] AdrenochromeBandit@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (4 children)

This is where growing up in the west has an advantage. We just say y'all. Covers all bases

[–] Railcar8095@lemmy.world 6 points 23 hours ago

So, how many y'all have you had sex with?

[–] AltheaHunter@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 22 hours ago

I didn’t grow up saying y’all but I trained myself to use it when I realized some people were uncomfortable with guys. Unfortunately a lot of people would rather argue about it than make a simple change to their vocabulary.

[–] whoxtank28@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I like to tell my southern friends how much I like y'all beacause it is gender neutral and inclusive!

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

standard english needs second person plural

[–] SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 day ago

That’s none of my business! How many men I’ve slept with is a number that even I don’t know!

[–] Gladaed@feddit.org 46 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Words have different meanings depending on context.

If the context is "gender may matter functionally' guy is probably representing as men guy.

If your gender shouldn't matter it is gender neutral.

[–] Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I think you're reading a smidge too much into a shitpost I found on a forum

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 20 points 1 day ago

just like with "it's just a joke bro", shitposts still have meaning.

[–] rtxn@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Shitposts are the result, and consequently, a mirror, of the culture that produced them. Decoupled from both personal ownership and repercussions, they are the purest form of satire, and should be taken extremely seriously.

[–] Tenniswaffles@lemmy.blahaj.zone 55 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hey, if you're not reading too much into shit posts, are you really living?

[–] Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 day ago

Fair comment :)

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 32 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

The word "set" has 430 different definitions in the OED. I'm sure "guys" can manage 2.

Apparently it can

[–] SandmanXC@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Yeah? How many sets did you fuck??

[–] ignotum@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Just one, the universal set

[–] a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world 2 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Rookie game. Trying banging the set of all sets including itself.

[–] ignotum@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

What would you even call such a set? I guess it would be some kind of... universal set or something? 😁

Dang. Great name game.

[–] 0ops@piefed.zip 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Don't talk about my mother that way

[–] ignotum@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Don't talk to your new stepdad that way

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago

You wouldn’t know it, it subscribes to another theorem.

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Could a set of all sets fuck itself?

[–] bdonvr@thelemmy.club 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Could be one more, if you're asking.

[–] will_steal_your_username@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] bdonvr@thelemmy.club 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I suppose that depends on if you agree with the premise of the top caption.

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 30 points 1 day ago

My husband and I call each other “bro” (important: we both only have sisters, so there’s no mental comparison to an actual sibling), my sisters and I call each other “dude” and “guys,” and I feel very uncomfortable whenever anyone says the word “dudette,” but it’s still really easy to just not use group terms that others ask you not to.

[–] luciole@beehaw.org 14 points 1 day ago

Idk ive never had sex :3

[–] SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 18 hours ago

I lost count

[–] Rajtinka@lemmy.world 2 points 22 hours ago

I didn't know I was supposed to keep track, but a lot!!

[–] megopie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

I’ve never had sexual relations with a flammable manikin meant to be burnt in the town square to commemorate the failure of the gun powder plot.

[–] megopie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 18 hours ago

What you’ve never heard of the town guy? The traditional effigy burnt during celebrations on the 5th of November?

[–] ShaggySnacks@lemmy.myserv.one 2 points 22 hours ago

What an oddly specific thing to say.

[–] Sivecano@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 1 day ago

You wanna increase the count? ;)

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 21 hours ago

only two. I know, rookie numbers, but I don't like engaging in casual sex.

[–] Amputret@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 day ago

Not that many, about 6.

[–] kieron115@startrek.website 2 points 1 day ago

Simple, just use "dudes" instead of guys

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