As an enby I have no fucking idea how to be gay. By liking men and women??? But then liking enbies just can't be straight, can it? What a conundrum. Good thing I'm aroace so I can just opt out
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No matter who you pick, any relationship you're in would be at least a little bit gay. Alternatively, you can test hypothetical relationships for gayness using this model.
Being aroace makes it a lot easier - if you're never in a relationship, you are therefore never in a straight relationship, and therefore you are always gay. QED and all that.
Being gay is liking the same gender that you are, so liking other enbies would be gay in your case, I suppose.
I was trying to be funny but that'd probably be technically correct, yes
oh, fun! any fellas wanna pretend to smooch eachother in the comments? mwa mwa mwwa
don't pretend

Oh god oh fuck

I am whatever the fuck this is: "logistically difficult"
what do you mean "june", it's just june
Sadly, emphasis and quotation use a similar tone in speech so people misuse quotation marks a lot, especially if bold/italics isn't available
is fapping to Jordan Jensen gay?
If you're a woman
I'm safe!


Reject modernity embrace tradition: It ain't pride unless its a riot to remind the straights what liberty looks like
all terfs must be sacrificed to appease sappho
Glory to the roommate!
I (privately) consider myself to be bi, even though I'm functionally straight, because i leave room for the possibility.
But, what happens when you get reported? 😬
You will be judged by a jury of your queers
You get sent to the Owl House realm and experience what joy it is to live in a queer friendly area
That sounds great! I really like queer spaces, even if i don't really fit in.
Honey if it don't fit, then you must use spit.
I consider myself to be bi even though I'm functionally gay, so I feel kinship with you. You're in the clear!
You two average out each other's bi-ness

I’m functionally ace, but I have gay thoughts today, so I guess it’s my safe day. Sounds like the other days I just don’t have to follow the rule
Damn, discriminating against people with depression.
I feel like this post is pressuring me into concluding my depression is actually dysphoria so I can continue interacting with the lovely people here. I mean, that's one way to get a nerdy girlfailure in my life...
one cure for male loneliness is to turn it into female loneliness 🤔
Technically correct I suppose.
Does that help?
It did for me :3
I often think of myself as a lesbian. hits blunt
Is it gay to like women?
if you like them in a gay way yes
I do like to hold hands
Only if you have trouble acting lesbian.
I need more practice.
Any volunteers?
If you're a woman/nonbinary, yes!!
In German it’s „Juni“ (pronounced you-nii) as in „you need to not be straight“
Well damn. I'll be a good citizen and go self-report myself, do i get a good plea deal this way?
"do i get a good plea deal this way?"
Yeah, you can wiggle it down to a thorough spanking and being a house slave for a weekend.
sorry, you get to go to the gay gulags with the rest of your kind
...
even though this is a joke, it still feels wrong to say 😖
What is happening at the Gay gulags? Are we forced to mine Gaysapphium in the Homoerotic Mines?

Pretends to talk and walk like a gay, gets caught anyways and it's forced gay loool.
i remember seeing a version on R%ddit that claims H#ts will be shot on sight
Straights will be shot with HRT to make them gay.

This is the smartest conversion therapy