Not my job to know what someone wants to be called...? The childish entitlement sheesh
this post was submitted on 11 Jun 2026
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Yeah. I don't mind calling you whatever you like if you tell me. Otherwise I just don't give a shit and I'll call you whatever I feel like.
I hate introducing myself. how is you not knowing my name a me problem. figure it out idiot.
i think the whole meme is a joke :)
Definitely :D
I know you're kidding, but I work in a corporate environment, wouldn't it be great if we could skip the introduction phase in meetings.
Introductions are fun, everyone is just nervously waiting for their turn and not listening to anyone else. No names or titles or whatever are remembered in big introductions. So either I just say "My name is and I work with at " and I know that it's already forgotten.
Is it really like that for everybody?
No, usually in meetings those intros help separate managers from technical staff, so I know who will actually be useful to talk to.
The crux of the problem, just tell the engineers where the other engineers are, don't even need to exchange names, we're happy just calling each other engineer until we need to. Kind of prefer it actually.
Maybe everyone could wear a nametag with name in large letters and we could just get the job done.
tattoo names on the forehead. (A not very good idea)
There are definetly people, who I’ve talked a lot with, whose names I don’t know.
Damn right, Steve.
wow how did you know?
heyy, it's ok if you do not know someones gender. it's really not that important. just treat it as the unknown that it is, and either refer to the person gender neutrally, or ask if you need to know. just please do not guess, because that just leads to you accidentally hurting people :)
Unfortunately, asking can also lead to accidentally hurting people.
call me whatever you want I genuinely don't care. you can call me he she they or it I genuinely don't care. the funniest thing a patient called me is a reference to one of my many obvious physical deformities. if you care what I'm called that's very genuinely a you problem. and honestly the more it bothers people to not know what to call me the funnier it gets.
the more it bothers people to not know what to call me the funnier it gets.
This is how imma describe my gender next time my therapist checks in on it
I love it when kids call me fat or shout "Why is that fat man so hairy?" and their parents look mortified and tell them not to be rude while I laugh and agree with the kid, or answer them. For example, that last kid I told I was actually way less hairy than when I was a kid: back then I looked just like a little ball of fur and all you could see was my feet!
I feel the same way about my pronouns. It truly doesn't matter to me. I'm glad people who feel strongly about it have the opportunity to make that choice, I just can't relate to giving a damn about it. I had to call some customer service line a few times over the course of several days about a year ago, and every time I did, the agent asked the pronoun question. After like the fourth call I was getting annoyed. You'd think they'd add it to your profile after the first time, but no, even though they clearly had all my other information on a screen in front of them, they still had to ask. I don't get that.
I must also confess to a slight paranoia about such things. I feel like my gender is information neither the government nor the company I buy pants from actually need. Why do they want to know? How is it going to change what they do for me?
the childish entitlement is probably because this is a joke, posted on a community where people post jokes
Guess I’ll use my mind reading powers?
that's what i though about my gender and then i always got mad at people guessing without asking me and guessing wrong and it got awkward and honestly i should have just told them cause honestly if the ignorant mountain doesn't come to you, you gotta be the bigger bitch and come to the mounten or something i don't fucking know
fuck this society and it's normativities but unfortunately it won't change on it's own :<
The secret is to just not care what people call you when you're not there. Even when I'm in the room and people are talking about me it's mostly just funny to listen to whatever they come up with.
i'm personally not there yet. it still hurts when people (mis)gender me. i hope to get to that point where i don't care anymore tho :3
my brain @ me
Haha I was thinking the same thing about me! I never know how to answer when someone (who I trust, can be honest with, don't have to pretend to be cis around for safety etc) asks what my gender is.
I'm like 
"I have no idea. Let me know if you figure it out!"
literally telling people to assume your gender :P
Stupid question, but is coming out a thing you have to do every time you meet a new person? I kinda thought it was just the name for when you tell people you're queer for like the first time, but I guess there isn't really a word for already being publicly out but mentioning it to someone who hasn't heard?
I think that it covers also the thing that happens whenever you specifically reveal your queer state to someone who doesn't know about it. I personally don't come out generally, I just happen to mention my wife every five minutes (because she's super great and I love her lots and lots).
I look queer enough that it pretty much doesn't need saying
Yeah that's coming out too afaik. The emphasis is just on the initial one because it tends to be the scariest and the most consequential. When I came out as aro/ace I was most nervous about the initial ones, close friends and family. Not that I necessarily expected trouble, but it would have the most impact on my life. Now my go-to strategy is to be very casual about it and act surprised that people didn't already know whenever I have to tell someone new. Pretending to be confident actually tends to work.
It's still coming out though, and with how the world works it always keeps being a bit scary
The solution to that is just using random pronouns. If they make an angry look, you used the wrong one
Hey, if that’s what shit wanted to call shitself, who am I to deny shim?
Careful, that last one sounded dangerously close to the actual pronoun "him" 🫢
the oblivion persuasion wheel of pronoun selection. just be sure not to pick the wrong one too many times or their opinion of you will be unrecoverable.
It's not a me problem either, it has absolutely nothing to do with me. Don't come out, come out, whatever.
Nope. I won't figure its gender out, I will apply it to every person.
*its