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[–] pocopene@lemmy.world 5 points 4 hours ago

Reading the answers to this questions, I'd say "Not understanding the meaning of most people".

[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 24 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Do NOT stop to talk in doorways.

[–] Blumpkinhead@lemmy.world 11 points 10 hours ago

Or at the bottom of escalators.

[–] RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world 20 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Elevator Etiquette: Let people exit before you enter. That way you have more room to enter. This applies to all things, not just elevators.

[–] Blumpkinhead@lemmy.world 8 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Trains, buses, gangbangs...

[–] DokPsy@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

But how else are you going to turn a gang bang into a train?

[–] wabafee@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

HUMAN Centipede

[–] PresidentCamacho@lemm.ee 15 points 17 hours ago

Since the majority of people in the world are idiots, and management tends to collect them at a higher rate than other roles, you will generally be rewarded more for how you make others feel than the amount or quality of your work. A person with a 10 in charisma and 4 int gets farther than the person with a 10 int and a 7 in charisma most of the time. Focus on learning better people skills. If you find a place where your work is recognized you should cherish it.

Also in the US the left lane is for passing the right lanes.

[–] hark@lemmy.world 1 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

One could write a book on unspoken rules for tipping in the US. Do you tip on takeout? Do you tip baristas? Does it depend on the beverage? Do you tip if you sit down but bus your own table? What's considered a good tip (and this is situation-dependent)? The only thing I can tell is if you're worried about something happening to you, then 20% of the price is generally a safe amount.

[–] Kekzkrieger@feddit.org 13 points 9 hours ago

Easy highly controversial fix : dont tip and start demanding that people are paid a living wage

[–] SergeantScar@lemmy.world 29 points 22 hours ago (4 children)

When driving, you should engage your turn signal before you start applying the brakes in preparation for your turn.

[–] meowMix2525@lemm.ee 4 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

The rearview mirror (the one that hangs off the windshield) is for seeing directly behind you. Your side mirrors are for seeing things to the right and left of you. If the driver directly behind you can see your face in your side mirrors, or you can see their front windshield, and your rearview mirror both exists and is unobstructed, then you are driving around unreasonably blind to vehicles overtaking you. This blind spot can be almost completely eliminated.

The side mirrors should be positioned thus that you have a clear view of the lanes next to you, with the door handle or body of the vehicle just slightly out of view. You can lean and tilt your head if for some reason you prefer a view of what's going on behind you that is half obstructed by the vehicle you are currently driving.

The goal is to maximize the area covered by the mirrors so you can see more things, not to have redundant views of the same thing.

[–] CrazyLikeGollum@lemmy.world 3 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

Also, related to proper use of turn signals, you should signal well in advance of your turn. The rule of thumb I learned was your signal should be on for three seconds of before you turn, assuming you're currently in motion. Additionally, you should actually use your turn signal. Far too many people seem to be scared of the blinken lights. There is no reason not to use your turn signal.

  • Changing lanes? Signal.
  • Turning from a turn-only lane? Signal.
  • Backing out of your drive-way? Signal.
  • Pulling out of a parking spot? Signal.
  • Moving the steering-wheel for any reason other than continuing to follow the curvature of your lane? Signal.
  • Driving in a post-apocalyptic wasteland where you are confirmed to be the sole living thing left on the planet and doing any of the above? Signal.

If you're turning and think you have a reason not to use your turn signal, you're wrong. Fucking Signal.

[–] Dashi@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

I nearly died the first time I turned the blinker on in the new car. I was changing lanes and I put the blinker on to signal I was heading over their. I saw the car next to me and was signaling to let everyone else know I was going to go over when it was clear. Then the car started making all these noise and scared the crap out of me. Come to find out the car warns you with a loud audible alarm if their is a car near your blind spot.

Anyway just wanted to share

[–] el_bhm@lemm.ee 1 points 9 hours ago

Cant you just fucking read the mind of the person in front? They are clearly thinking of turning way ahead. Sometimes before they enter the car.

[–] RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world 4 points 16 hours ago

When driving, if you plan on turning from the turn lane, switch lanes and THEN slow down to turn. Don't slow to a crawl before leaving the driving lane.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 5 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

This is my husband's "pet peeve", as he puts it. "Don't just throw on your brake in the middle of the road! Why are you slowing down? Signal!"

[–] SergeantScar@lemmy.world 2 points 19 hours ago

I originally got this one from an Actual Advice Mallard meme.

[–] SchwertImStein@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (2 children)

Even if you have a green light at the crossrowds you shouldn't drive if you can see that you have no way of exiting the crossroads and would block others e.g. there is a traffic jam on the road you want to drive into.

(at least in Poland)

[–] helpImTrappedOnline@lemmy.world 2 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

And then you get an angry person behind you honking their horn and the moment they can, they'll pass you, flip you off, almost cause 2 accidents and break check you.

[–] Zenith@lemm.ee 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

It’s called impeding traffic in the US and it’s illegal. Some places are super strict and even having your bumper in their intersection can get you in trouble. I wish more people took your advice or at least more places enforced the law

[–] SchwertImStein@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 7 hours ago

I wish more people were aware of it and not simply thought "green means go".

[–] SelfHigh5@lemmy.world 19 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

If you need to stop while walking on a path, inside or outside, step to the side. I can’t believe how many people just abruptly stop to look at their phone, have a conversation, point out something they find interesting… like my guy, would you do that in a car? Fucking GOOOOOO!!

[–] PresidentCamacho@lemm.ee 5 points 17 hours ago

Other people exist???

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago

Yes, those same people are likely to act the same way in a car

[–] ExtraordinaryJoe@lemmy.world 12 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

Do not start or continue a phone conversation when going to the bathroom - public or private restroom but especially in public bathrooms.

[–] Blumpkinhead@lemmy.world 3 points 10 hours ago

I've seen people facetiming in the men's room.

[–] MrsDoyle@sh.itjust.works 2 points 16 hours ago

About ten years ago I was talking to one of my sisters on the phone. She was in NZ, I'm in the UK, so it wasn't an everyday thing. Evening for me, morning for her. So we're chatting away and suddenly there's a weird noise, like interference on the line. I remarked on it - and it turned out it was her PEEING. She somehow thought I wouldn't hear? Bloody hell.

[–] jenny_ball@lemmy.world 7 points 20 hours ago

don't hold your phone while driving

[–] frog_brawler@lemmy.world 43 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Let the people out of the elevator that are trying to get out of the elevator before you attempt getting in.

[–] xiii@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Elevator, all public transport, buildings. There’s more space outside. Stop cramping.

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Ditto buses and subways

[–] fluxion@lemmy.world 10 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

"Do unto others..."

Even those who supposedly devote their lives to such teachings don't seem to know wtf that means

[–] desktop_user@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I don't think everyone agrees on what it's supposed to even mean. if you want no mercy to be given to you should that mean that you shouldn't give others mercy?

[–] thespcicifcocean@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Literally the opposite. If you want mercy, you should show mercy to others...

[–] desktop_user@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

yes, but what if you don't want mercy?

[–] fluxion@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

Fair point. Maybe it doesn't work out so well for that guy, but for the 999/1000 people who don't want to be murdered/tortured, "do unto others" probably ends up being a net positive versus "do whatever the fuck you want as long as you can get away with it", which seems to be the direction a lot of "leaders" are going and dragging humanity into Hell alongside them

[–] agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 69 points 1 day ago (5 children)

So many of these are "Don't create obstacles or bottlenecks".

Return your cart, zipper merge, wait for people to get off before you get on, don't block doorways.

Clearly, the truest unspoken rule is "Get out of the way!"

[–] MrsDoyle@sh.itjust.works 1 points 16 hours ago

Zipper merge done properly is amazingly efficient.

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[–] Furbag@lemmy.world 40 points 1 day ago

Be aware of your surroundings. This is not just a safety thing for yourself, but a courtesy thing for other people.

[–] AceFuzzLord@lemm.ee 5 points 23 hours ago

This is probably just a me thing, but if you have to use the restroom, just say that instead of saying what you specifically have to do. I don't need to know any details and you don't need to share them with anyone. The only details worth sharing is if something happens, like a pipe leak/burst or something else serious.

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