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Stop talking.
Either you're being an arse or they are.
Stop talking.
Oh, so you're stonewalling me?
"I need to step back from this conversation as i'm getting disregulated. Please allow me some time"
Is this therapy talk for commanding a brigade of soldiers to resist an enemy advance during the First Battle of Bull Run?
Is this therapy talk
When everything you hear is "Therapy Talk"... :-/
I have a sister in law like this. She's really cool and we generally get along but God damn is she hard to deal with sometimes.
There was one instance where it was our niece's birthday and we had made this shitty balloon arch for pictures. When it came to the end of the party and we needed to break it all down, I knew that a bunch of the balloons had like confetti in them. She was helping with the breakdown, and I had dealt with these before so I was like "watch out for the confetti balloons, try to cut them open near the know and let the air out slow, and do it over a garbage can incase it pops. They will shoot confetti everywhere if they pop and it's a pain in the ass to clean up" and she just turned at me with tho most vitriol "ARE YOU REALLY GOING TO MANSPLAIN TO ME HOW TO POP BALLOONS?!" and I was like "Okay jeez, was just trying to help"
Not two minute later I see her with a pin just popping the balloons off of the arch. Fucking confetti everywhere. I turned to my wife, who saw the exchange and I was like "yeah I'm not helping clean that up"
This is the same woman who screams about body shaming etc, and when she expressed interest in one of my friends who is Japanese said "He's hot but it's too bad he probably has a small dick". Like... That's racist AND body shaming.
We agree on a lot of things socially and politically, and like I said generally we get along, but she also complains very loudly about how she can't keep relationships sustained and it's like... Yo, all you do is vocally complain about how men are the source of all problems. But you also want to be with one?
Like, look... I'm all in support of feminism, but it should be about rising women up, not chopping men down. I didn't choose to be born with a penis. Why am I automatically an enemy? I'm an ally.
Fuck.
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I feel like everyone here needs a reminder that love bombing is something that happens AFTER mistreatment to make the victim calm down and become compliant.
This isn't just being overly affectionate, it's a technique used to manipulate behavior and keep a victim loyal.
I thought it was a thing used at the beginning to get people to join cults.
lovebombing used to describe cult behavior where a large group would shower praise and validation on a prospective member as a recruitment tactic. it's no surprise that there's confusion about what it means when it's used to describe a wide variety of behaviors that are superficially connected.
Though it can be used during the initial parts of a relationship to make it progress at a very fast rate. Imo it's best to hit the brakes even if the other person isn't abusive. And hit the brakes as in don't rush to move in with them, get married, or have a kid, as I think ending a relationship because it's moving too fast is just as likely to end a good thing as avoid abuse.
IMO detecting abusive people is best done by seeing how they react when challenged, especially by someone they might consider a lesser.
With someone coming on too strong too fast you need to keep your eyes open and be aware of your boundaries. It may be someone who's awesome and sincere who's just on a different pace than you, it may be an intentional abuser being machiavellian, but it's also got a pretty good chance of being someone unstable and sincere and oh fucking boy will that cause problems if you don't have and maintain boundaries.
Also, despite the name, the relationship does NOT need to be romantic for this to apply. Literally anyone in your life can be a abuser with tactics like this. Usually, sadly, it's someone with some authority or ability to screw up your life. For example, like a workplace manager or a family member.
Stop getting relationship advice/expectations from 4chan, for starters.
But my relationship is going a little too well
It’s best to explain why what’s your doing is not mansplaining. That always works.
The real answer is to leave. I don’t think I’ve ever had a meaningful or productive conversation where any of these were used.
Though I can see stonewalling being used in earnest.
Stonewalling is probably the best only one on that list where a response would actually make anything better.
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Honestly if someone was using all these terms, I'd stop talking to them. I don't have time to be an avatar for your underlying mental issues to attack.
"I do tend to overexplain and I'm sorry, please shut me down if I do, but please believe me when I tell you that I overexplain everyone and it has nothing to do with your perceived gender, I just have the *tism." - this is my usually response because it's true.
I got accused of mansplaining because I was helping someone on a tech support call (they were taking the call to support a user, and I was assisting them) and I started with the basic information they'd need to understand the problem and how to fix it. After the call she turned around to the guy next to her and complained about it and he was just like, "oh, no, he's like that with everyone".
My philosophy was based on the fact that our managers hired people for people skills over technical background because they assumed the tech stuff could be trained and that if someone was asking me for help there was a gap in their knowledge somewhere and I had no way to know where it was other than to begin at the beginning and work through it. Most people appreciated it. But some were full of themselves and got pissed about it, those types typically didn't last very long on that job.
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Put in headphones, listen to a comedy laugh and ignore. Probably better turn on the body cam on too..... And create space from this person.
And stop trying to get everyone to like you.You don't even like everyone.
And stop trying to get everyone to like you.You don't even like everyone.
The first part has been my mantra for years now, luckily, but I like how the second part gives an obvious, concise reason and I'll add that to my stash of advice for other people. Thank you :)
Ty homie.
Ive been contemplating that and what Bruce Lee says, "we are all one family under the sun. Its just that people are born different."
That said, if you see a baby in a burning building, tons of people may yell at you not to go into the building. Maybe they dont see the baby, maybe they are idiots....but regardless, if you're doing something meaningful.. ignoring how others feels about you is easier.
Your thoughts r welcome!
That said, if you see a baby in a burning building, tons of people may yell at you not to go into the building.
I get your analogy, but allow me to go off on this tangent: I'm an actual volunteer firefighter and my experience is, that people in stressful, one-off-situations they were not trained for are absolute idiots and require clear directions in easy, short wording and segmentation of large todos into small, directly assigned tasks which you need to have them repeat to you, verbatim.
They will feel treated like imbeciles because that's what they are in that moment and there is no space, time or energy to work around that until whatever crisis is dealt with.
Having been the responsible person in these kinds of situations actually broke my desire to be liked by everyone and instead set targets and see to it that we reach them with with as good of an outcome as possible.
Ask "Why do you feel that's what I'm doing?" then reflect on the answer and how your behaviour was perceived this way. Finally, if after reflection you come to the conclusion that indeed you acted poorly, apologise and try to behave differently in the future.
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tell her to calm down, she is being hysterical
Respond with a strong assertive wave of the hand and a firm "silence women"
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I use all these techniques to get out of paying for prostitutes.
(Just kidding I can't afford prostitutes)
Why pay if you gave her pleasure too
Guys I'm not sure if this person is just kidding
"....this is a Wendy's."
Reflect upon how you are acting. Empathize with the other person's POV. Then discuss rationally from a point of mutual benefit.
It depends if the accusations come in good or bad faith.
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Anon you're an asshole and you know this since kindergarten. Stop gaslighting
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