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People here don't know prudence and decorum, probably because they don't have normal relationships with their families or even people in general. And it's not social media, it's the people themselves. I was a (very horny) child when Facebook came out and even I wasn't doing all of that. 🤷
To know whether any act of prudence or decorum is a feather in one’s cap is first to answer to what end and on whose behalf.
Examples:
Both are often invoked in the context of potential loss to those who have the most to lose.
Self preservation is prudent. Prudence avoids loss of face …of social standing …of strategic advantage, and so forth.
Decorum avoids offending traditional sensibilities …protects what is sacred …retains political capital …maintains institutional legitimacy.
So both tend to be elevated as lofty virtues by those with power and authority to lose.
Anyway I used to think similarly. What disabused me of my regard for such ideals was living among those who prudence and decorum never served.
I agree with you definitions and reasoning, I disagree that prudence and decorum don't serve in some circles.
Prudence and decorum just change to fit the context of the circle. For those who have little to lose but their own life, prudence may take the form of kindness and charity. Decorum is just upholding a tradition within a circle, and traditions form at every level of society to keep what works moving forward.
I would argue that prudence and decorum are good tools to have no matter what circle you move in, you just have to adapt the tools for the job :/
Agreed, and these might be expressions of kindness, respect, and other genuine virtues.
For example, prudence can mean wisdom, care warranted and given, or simply an instance of thoughtful behavior.
Likewise decorum can refer to respectful behavior, honor deserved and given, even a gesture of good faith participation in what others value simply because you recognize it its important to them, part of them, and you want them to know they’re accepted.
But just speaking directly, I’m not sure OP was demonstrating a lack of any of the above simply by the mildly lewd joke. Even of her grandmother was scandalized (pretty sure she wasn’t) it’d only be indecorous/unthoughful/unseemly/unkind if that was her intent.
Given that perspective, and noting your authoritative grasp of normal family and interpersonal relationships, I figured you were lamenting that kids these days fail to accommodate the conservative mores of their elders with the level of dedication and precision that we achieved at their age. Forgive my misunderstanding.
Hot take, Google+ was onto something with their "circles" thing. Basically you could choose the visibility of every post and comment you made to be limited to a subset of your contacts
That was indeed a great idea wrapped in, well, Google
Corporate social media is always destined to enshittification and being a tool of surveillance capitalism, being Google's just speedran it.
The core issue with Google+ wasn't the platform, it was that Giogle started becoming a spyware comany and rewuired real IDs and forced thst shit on everyone.
Facebook also allows this to an extent. Or at least it did 5 years ago when I last used facebook. You did have to manually choose who could see the post everytime though. Not nearly as convenient.
Yeah It'd take forever to click "All like-minded hoes in the world EXCEPT family members"
i had a friend who accidentally got his posts set to only post to me. and i would reliably comment on everything because we were besties. apparently it really got to his mental health.
Facebook is like an MMO chatroom. I prefer the small servers.
Google+ started well enough, but when only google using nerds were the only ones using it using it( as it was designed by those people), they decided to make it worse and force it on everyone.
If you're doing bendy sex positions and your partner farts and you can't both have a laugh about it and continue with the bendy sex then your relationship needs an upgrade.
But if the fart smells like 10,000 rotten eggs from the swamps of dagobah and the stench persists for hours and will not go away then I think the mood is ruined.
I get that reference.
I don't see the issue. Her grandma is being loving and supportive, and it's not like grandma doesn't know what sex is.
GRANDPARENTS HAVE NOT AND DO NOT HAVE SEX THEY ARE PURE.
They had 12 immaculate conceptions to make the aunties and uncles as their parents before them
The issue here is that the screenshot cuts off grandma’s comment. Bet she had some great advice about farting during sex!
Grandma got freaky, it's probably why there is a granddaughter.
Everyone has sex, get over your puritanism
However, absolutely no one addresses their granddaughter by the name “granddaughter”
Everyone does? What is your source for a bold claim?
Your mom
ayyy!
can confirm
Yup, i was there too
Nah, granny agrees, she ain't hating
What is the point of this reply? Lol everyone takes shits too but I don't want my grandma to hear all about a nasty smelling pure liquid shit I took the day before yesterday or something... Just because everyone does something doesn't mean you want everyone to know all about it...
well, give me her contact and I'll send her pics of mine seeing your too lousy to share with her, and I'll ask her to rate my turd!
I take pictures to send weekly and she comments on how well it looks like I've been eating; it's really helped us stay in touch.
I don’t want my grandma to hear all about a nasty smelling pure liquid shit I took the day before yesterday or something
what is wrong with you gran is the first person i send the photo to
Ah damn maybe my nana has been having mad fomo over my shits for years and I didn't even know
Sure. But to an extent. I am definitely glad I didn't grow up in a single room house on the prairie falling asleep with my parents making my younger siblings on the bed next to me.
Gam gam can prolly relate.
Growing-up on a farm she'll know which vegetables blow the biggest beefers.
Doing it cuz I want you to fart.