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[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 3 points 1 hour ago

Hulk Hogan. Also, not really a hero, but his work had a log of influence on me- Orson Scott Card. The reasons I liked it so much are kind of cringe looking back as an adult anyway though.

[–] yesman@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

What about the anti-theist and leftist public intellectuals like Dawkins, Kraus, and Chomsky who turned out to be somewhere between anti-feminist and full-blown sex-offender? Even NDTyson has some pretty credible accusations for those who remember. Dennett seemed like the only one of the "Four Horseman" who could be considered a decent human being, but nope... he's flying the Lolita Express.

But nobody has fallen farther than Richard Dawkins. Fame did to Dawkins what the One Ring did to Smeagol.

[–] UniversalBasicJustice@quokk.au 12 points 8 hours ago (7 children)

I reserve 'cunt' and 'dumb bitch' as especially strong, disrespectful expletives to call a woman.

When I say "Fuck that dumb bitch TERF cunt JK Rowling" it carries the hurt and ire of a broken childhood love of Harry Potter. The series itself was incredibly important to me and provided a world I could escape to when the real world was overwhelming. The hate and bigotry that cunt has shown breaks my heart and sullies too many childhood memories to describe.

I was deeply inspired to pursue engineering after watching the first Falcon 9 boosters land themselves. I was enamored by the idea of using my little blip in humanity's timeline to assist our expansion to another planet. I wanted to contribute to something important, something that turned many brilliant minds towards an achievement that would eventually benefit the entirety of mankind.

I even hopped on the Tesla train; I recognized the existential threat that carbon emissions bore as well as the damaging, restrictive nature of building a society that scorns public transportation and promotes individual car ownership.

I didn't worship Elon so much as admired the causes he was advancing. That admiration withered over the years but my dream of contributing to the colonization of Mars helped me push through the ten years it took to earn my four year engineering degree. As details of his derangement came out, as he acquired twitter and more overtly spread his billionaire propaganda, that dream started to fade. The fascist salutes at Trump's inauguration crushed those dreams and ground them into a dust too fine to even attempt a rebuild.

My jaded ass still wants to benefit humanity so I've set my eyes on climate science, even as the country I was born in denies the havoc and damage our relentless consumption has wrought. Not just denial, but outright derision and contempt for the future of our world. Thus I hope to take my dreams elsewhere, hoping to find a culture with a clearer view of the consequences we must face and the changes we must make to preserve our planet.

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[–] btsax@reddthat.com 5 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I can't think of any artist more divorced from their work than Orson Scott Card

[–] BlameThePeacock@lemmy.ca 2 points 3 hours ago

He was such an amazing writer. Some of his books and themes in those books broaden lots of horizons around peace, acceptance, gender, and even race. It was clear, at least to me, that when ender used the n-word he was rebuking the other boy for his use of a Chinese slur. That was a positive message in my childhood.

And yet later he goes quite racist with that shit essay about the Obamas, and obviously homophobic in a bunch of his other activities and works.

That being said, In a way I almost don't blame him for it, he was raised as a member of the LDS Church. While some people break out of the Mormon church, it's not easily done. The only thing that made his standard Mormon views on these topics "important" or "special" was that he is more famous than most members of the church.

I disagree with him on most things, but he's been programmed to act that way well beyond anything I experienced in my childhood and had to overcome.

Disappointed is the better word for my views on him.

[–] RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 10 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

Nobody mentioned God?

I was raised Christian. Never deeply religious, but had all the bible study stuff, religious school, etc. Religion was comforting.

Then I got older and started seeing the fanboys for who they were. Hypocrites of the highest order. Assholes that armored themselves with being “Christians”. Trying to game the system or to buy their way into heaven, making it transactional. Heaven also seems like a shitty place; an existence locked into worshipping a deity while in a drugged out euphoria and never being able to learn, grow, and experience things again. A “Matrix”-like place. A God that is psychotic, manipulative, and a classic narcissistic abuser. Jesus would probably be a cool guy, but nobody actually gives a fuck about him. A book full of contradictions and other awful things that are constantly rationalized and massaged to mean whatever the needs of the individual might be. Just generally how awful any religion is, how it’s used to control people, do shitty things, and consolidate power and money.

Yeah, if you’re formerly religious, you get it. I’m an scientific atheist now.

Ironically, thanks to modern “christians”, I’ve found myself citing scripture to shitty people who claim to be religious to point out their hypocrisy, idolatry or whatever, and occasionally listening to religious people who point out how awful and un-christian these people are.

[–] fyrilsol@kbin.melroy.org 9 points 8 hours ago

Bill Cosby (Obvious) Scott Adams (Shitty perspectives) 2 The Ranting Gryphon (Shitty perspectives) David Draiman (Signing Bombs, Pro-Israel)

[–] P1nkman@lemmy.world 22 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

My mother. Turns out she's a narcissistic, fascist Trump-loving Norwegian, who's only been to the USA twice. Last time we spoke, she defended the killing of Good and Pretti, stating that innocent lives can be taken in order to get the Somali fraud.

I don't talk to her anymore.

[–] Lor@mander.xyz 4 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

That is not good. I am sad to hear MAGA is alive and well in Norway. :-(

[–] P1nkman@lemmy.world 3 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

I rarely spoke to her because of her views, but the statement that killing innocent people can be justified? Fuck that.

Oh, and she supports Putin to remove all the Nazis in Ukraine.

[–] nagaram@startrek.website 6 points 10 hours ago

Only ones who dissapointed me were Star Trek: Voyager actors. Its the only thing I got attached to as a kid.

Robert Beltran - Commander Chakotay

Roxann Dawson - B'Elanna Torres

Both transphobes and trump supporters who won't shut up about no one wanting to invite them to Star Trek stuff anymore.

I used to feel bad for Rob because he got such a shit treatment in ST:V in terms of writing and because his character fell victim to Jamake High water's grifting (look him up if you want to see why 90's native american characters kinda suck).

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 39 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I used to think Musk was ok.

I didn't know anything about him other than he was investing in EV's which I felt the world desperately needed, at a time when it felt like big oil was squashing the uptake.

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 14 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Same, I thought he was out to try and save the world from climate change. For me the illusion shattered when he tried to kill California HSR because he would make less in cars. It was never about the environment, it was about being "cool" and then cornering the market.

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 16 points 13 hours ago

Yeah for me it was the Thai kid submarine fiasco. He offered a dumb idea in a life threatening situation and when it was rejected by professional underwater cave diver rescue guy Musk accused the guy of being a pedo.

[–] IronpigsWizard@lemmy.world 6 points 11 hours ago

My parents, unfortunately.

[–] projektilski@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 12 hours ago
[–] BlameThePeacock@lemmy.ca 44 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

I wouldn't say horrible, but the shine definitely faded off Will Smith.

He's made some poor choices over the years.

[–] Psychadelic_Sheep@lemmy.today 4 points 2 hours ago

I think that trope "Hurt people hurt people" applies to him. I think he's desperately unhappy, and since he doesn't know how to fix himself he's lashing out at other people.

[–] yesman@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

To me, Smith will always be a rapper first. He was right: parents just don't understand.

[–] VivianRixia@piefed.social 98 points 23 hours ago (4 children)

I used to love Joss Whedon from everything he made. I grew up watching Buffy, and loved Firefly, then Marvel got him for Avengers and I was excited for him to be getting such a big break. He later Agents of Shield which I also loved. But then it came out that he was an abuser. His whole persona of championing strong women was merely a facade to hide this.

Learning that Michelle Trachtenberg (RIP) had a clause in her contract while working in Buffy (2000-3) at age 15 that she was not to ever be in the same room as Whedon alone opened my eyes to just how bad things are. Not just how bad he was, but how well it was known that he was an abuser and no one did anything about it. That's just how things were.

I have a hard time watching Buffy or any of his works anymore, just knowing now that he was behind these things.

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[–] MirrorGiraffe@piefed.social 5 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (3 children)

Emir kusturica was my nr 1 director since forever until I found it he works for Putin now.

Black Cat White Cat and Underground were my favorite movies.

[–] jaxxed@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago

Black cat, white cat was amazing

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[–] kescusay@lemmy.world 58 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (3 children)

Neil Gaiman. I fucking loved Sandman and damn near everything else he wrote. Finding out he's a total scumbag has basically ruined a lot of very dear memories.

[–] sartalon@lemmy.world 31 points 20 hours ago

Yeah, this one hurt.

Good Omens too. Can I pretend it was written entirely by Pratchett?

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[–] theywilleatthestars@lemmy.world 72 points 22 hours ago (1 children)
[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 31 points 20 hours ago (3 children)

I literally learned to read so I could read Harry Potter books so I didn't have to wait for bedtime for my dad to read them to me; even though I was a "boy" I badly wanted to be Hermione Granger when I grew up

it's really heart-breaking that she became so deranged and hateful, a lot of us loved her books growing up

[–] JTode@lemmy.world 6 points 12 hours ago

I started reading for the same reason, except it was he Narnia books and my gramma 🫡

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[–] master_of_unlocking@piefed.zip 63 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Hulk Hogan. I was such a huge Hulkamaniac as a kid, brother.

[–] besmtt@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago

Same. I remember thinking he was such a hero when I was like 8. What a douche canoe.

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