Im a dude which means if someones an adult im not likely to shy away. Realistically there is a point where someone younger than me is not going to be attracted to me or the commanality factor is not there or our lives simply would not mesh. Granted im married so this is all theoretical alternate univers where I was not. Similarly when it comes to older its likely to be more about looks. We all know some folks that keep themselves fit and if someone is hot they are hot. Now the limiting factor there is im not exactly fit and you have to be realistic in expectations. Anyway I don't think its about age when it comes to attraction. Its physicality and personality meshing.
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Give me a rich, generous, elderly, asexual sugar-mama or give me death.
I'm curious - why would you never go younger than yourself, but don't have an issue with the older person going decades younger for you?
EDIT - just found out your 17 which changes things. I'll get my coat.
where does this me being 17 thing come from?
i've been open about my age since i first got on here. even had an asklemmy post about birthday celebrations months ago
in reality, probably 30-40
Youngest: 22
Oldest: 36
I'm 34. Youngest would probably be 23, oldest would be late 40s. I'm getting to that age where I wouldn't feel comfortable dating a college student. Plus I kinda do prefer older women.
Half your age plus 7 is an okay rule for finding the floor. Don't aim for the floor. Plus 10 is less eyebrow raising.
10 is waaay too young bro
...what? Poor joke or failure at math?
Holy shit. You're 17. The hilarity of all the guys thristing after your content is disturbing. And all your bragging about everything you do seems incredibly creepy now.
i'm not 17
i'm a feb baby, hence the violet in my username
I used that formula to half-jokingly look for a partner on my blog. And it worked. I was 22 and she was 27. "So old!" I thought back then. Didn't help that she sent me a really ugly blurry photo. Still, I was desperate and liked our conversations.
Now we're married and laugh about that "huge age gap".
I'm 37. Oldest: maybe a 40? Youngest: maybe 25? Just by the looks, I could go far younger, but I don't want to have to go through the whole becoming an adult shenanigans again, and I wouldn't want to have to babysit an insecure person, whose insecurity stems from their lack of experience - important distinction, because some people have some insecure traits (myself included)!!!
Meme in question:
I'm 33.
Probably mid/late 20s, to somewhere in the 40s. 50 still feels a bit too old.
Youngest: A mayfly, born this morning and destined to die this evening, which landed on my nose.
Oldest: A mountain with ancient bones, eroded by the aeons to a mere hill with sides of crumbling rock.
Oh you mean humans? Well, anyone between the ages of 47 and 52 I guess.
My dad is 98 and he started dating an 82-year-old. It seems to be going really well. She can't drive and he still does so that probably increased his appeal.
Is he still mentally fit to drive at 98? Damn that's impressive. You've got some good genes.
Yeah. I've started taking care of myself know that this body might have to do me for a long time. He's also still doing woodworking. Makes amazing stuff.
That's awesome.
of course not. doesnt stop old people though
Generalizations like this are useless. Obviously there are exceptions. There certainly are people who retain a sharp mind into old age and even past age 100. It's not that uncommon. If he also kept his body in good shape, it's easy to believe he can still drive as well as anyone half his age.
I'm in my 40s, and have only ever dated within 1 month of my age.
As a 46 yo my preference would be from about 28 to 55. Any younger would probably be too exhausting for me, any older would probably not be attractive enough for me, although that hypothesis is completely untested. Since I am freshly divorced, i do not have any desire to start dating anytime soon.
Between Age/2+7 and Age*2-14
It's a surprisingly effective equation. It basically works for everyone 14+, with just a little "not so sure" zone when you're 20 and they're 17. After that, it gets back on track.
"oldest? ok!" scribbling sounds (...and carry the 1)... oh. :-(
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I don't really see what I've got in common with anyone outside of myage ±10 years. That being said I've got more important priorities than age.
I know someone who was 70 and married a 35 year old. she's the same age as his oldest daughter. they had kids and the and grand kids are the same age
another person I know with a similar age gap. his wife is leaving him now after some 25 years of marriage. she said he's too old for her
Dave Chappell iirc
The Muslims say that the right age for a couple is the wife is half the husband's age, plus seven years.
In Hollywood, it's half the husband's age, minus seven
In Hollywood, it's half the husband's age, minus seven
Except Leo.
What happens a year later when the wife's age no longer fits the formula because she doesn't age at half the rate that he does?
What are you asking me for??
Go find that Chappell guy!!
My wife is almost 9 years younger than me. We've been together for almost 20 years. 50 and 42.
when I was 39, I dated someone that was 23. Never again. If I were to date again, 10 years older or younger would probably be my limit. Ideally, 5 years would probably be the best dating pool.
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