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[–] Mac@mander.xyz 1 points 41 minutes ago

Physically: tummy :(
Mentally: gestures vaguely at the state of things
Emotionally: Loneliness
Temporally: Work is not over yet
Spiritually: Life feels meaningless without having somene to spend it with
Socially: I feel out of place where i live due to being surrounded by MAGA losers
Relationally: My friends secretly hate me
Financially: I cannae afford my hobbies
Intellectually: I can feel my cognition slowly fading
Creatively: The stresses of life leave little room for creative expression

[–] hexdream@lemmy.world 7 points 2 hours ago

Reality in general. Turns out bad guys win all the time, and there is no such thing as justice if noone in power gives a damn.

[–] Arts251@lemmy.ca 5 points 4 hours ago

benign prostatic hyperplaia. aside from having to get up to tinkle a few tablespoons every half hour or every time I stand up, without the meds I can't go at all then bladder backs up and causes terrible kidney pain and does damage. on the meds I can empty the bladder but then it's hard to hold it in plus it ruins orgasms, dry firing is just weird feeling and not satisfying. I'm only 50 and want to go until at least my 80s but decades to go looks intimidating. i can get the turp surgery but will never ejaculate again which makes me sad. i suppose peeing is more important.

[–] Adderbox76@lemmy.ca 10 points 6 hours ago

Finances.

I don't want to be rich. I don't care about money all that much.

My definition of success has always been that if I can let a payday come and go without having to look at my bank accounts and shifting money around to make sure everything is taken care of, that's all I want. I want to make enough that I don't have to check my bank account before every bill comes out. I can be assured that the money that is needed will be there.

Had that for a while. No longer do. And it really really sucks.

[–] jtrek@startrek.website 10 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Well, at the top of the hierarchy is probably capitalism. That's largely why the climate is changing, why I don't have a good job, why I need a good job to live a decent life, and so on.

More immediately, my water glass is empty but my cat is sleeping on my chest. I'm thirsty but Mr Meows is so content.

[–] CanIFishHere@lemmy.ca -2 points 3 hours ago

People in socialist countries are even worse off.

[–] artiman@quokk.au 16 points 9 hours ago (2 children)
[–] MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca 3 points 7 hours ago

You should have chosen a different starting location during character creation.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 5 points 9 hours ago
[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 4 points 6 hours ago

I feel like I'm watching the world burn down around me. So I guess I'd say pessimism.

[–] underThunder@thelemmy.club 4 points 7 hours ago

I'm trying to write a song I'm happy with.

[–] MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca 6 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I haven't taken a shit for days, so it's more of a number two problem.

[–] NegentropicBoy@lemmy.world 4 points 6 hours ago

There are medicines for that, start mild.

[–] RandomStickman@fedia.io 10 points 9 hours ago (1 children)
[–] underThunder@thelemmy.club 4 points 7 hours ago

Really sorry to hear that.

[–] bitjunkie@lemmy.world 7 points 8 hours ago

The man-sized hamster wheel known as debt.

[–] Yewb@lemmy.world 26 points 11 hours ago (3 children)

People keep supporting politicians that haven't actually done anything for them.

[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 19 points 11 hours ago

You mean actively worked against their best interests?

[–] x0x7@lemmy.world 4 points 9 hours ago

Sadly, a lot of people get tripped up because they are confused about one simple thing. We are not the government.

This really short book covers it well. https://cdn.mises.org/anatomy-of-the-state.pdf

In fact the first chapter argues that really pretty convincingly. So it only takes about 5 minutes to properly understand that we are not the government. Backing a politician's grab for power really doesn't benefit you, because, really, you are just giving social support to more power going to the uniparty, which doesn't work for you.

It's one of the shortest books written. It's basically Machievilli if you freeze dried it into a two hour read. And the critical parts are up front.

[–] InvalidName2@lemmy.zip 3 points 8 hours ago

And the corollary: People don't support local / grassroots candidates who have a desire to change that.

[–] benjirenji@slrpnk.net 21 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I write software but I radicalized myself with Solarpunk. Now I need to find a way I can put my talents towards a tech positive future while Big Tech is turning fascist and hate against LLMs becomes nondifferentiating.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 6 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

The great thing about living in non-centrally-planned economies is that if something is pissing you off, you can usually find other pissed off people, and then make some money by solving the problem that is pissing them off.

[–] benjirenji@slrpnk.net 4 points 9 hours ago

True that. The problem is probably my social and professional bubble that I need to get out of.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 6 points 8 hours ago
[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 16 points 10 hours ago

My wife’s mental state. She has a job that has a pay and compensation package that cannot be ignored or left. The work could be really amazing and really could be magical for her except..

SHE WORKS FOR A FUCKING ASSHOLE WHO LOVES TO MAKE THINGS MISERABLE!!

We have all worked for that guy. It is not about the work problems or the real effort of work. The guy makes her life hell and I see what it is doing to her.

I do everything I can to take every bit of weight off of her, but that only accomplishes so much.

You can shovel shit in a muggy swamp and be happy if you have a boss you gel with. If you have a terrible boss it just doesn’t matter what the work is.

Thing is she gets that pay.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 18 points 11 hours ago

Life is an endless grind of pointless suffering with no end.

[–] UNY0N@feddit.org 5 points 8 hours ago
[–] mikenurre@lemmy.world 11 points 10 hours ago

Social circle too small. Keeps shrinking instead of growing.

[–] atro_city@fedia.io 9 points 10 hours ago

The fucking ultra-wealthy not paying their taxes and their wealth not being taxed. It's the root of every single one of my problems.

[–] jakwithoutac@feddit.uk 4 points 8 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Mac@mander.xyz 1 points 36 minutes ago

Ferociously Anti-Totalitarianism?

Hell yeah 👌

[–] Astronut@lemmy.zip 8 points 10 hours ago

I don’t know what I want for lunch!

[–] Canconda@lemmy.ca 8 points 11 hours ago

Shit's too expensive. Don't have time to make everything from scratch to save a few bucks.

[–] EyIchFragDochNur@lemmy.world 6 points 10 hours ago
[–] Mickey7@lemmy.world 6 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

the constant struggle to live in the present. we will all be dead and forgotten soon, so why bother living in a constant pissed off state of mind when none of it matters anyway

[–] underThunder@thelemmy.club 4 points 6 hours ago

Having a great sense of humor helps a lot when everything is absurd.

[–] kibblebits@quokk.au 5 points 10 hours ago

Canadian Immigration medical job recruiters are proving to be very unreliable, and dare I say lazy. If they’re going to offer a fast track, they need to hire people who make it fast. It’s literally the last checkbox on the list. I could be in Canada by the end of the month! Ffs!

[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 5 points 10 hours ago

Multi decade pay increases never matching inflation

[–] dfyx@lemmy.helios42.de 3 points 9 hours ago

Median productivity goes up yet median quality of life goes down.

[–] d_o_o_m_g_u_y@lemmy.world 3 points 9 hours ago

image Life generally.

[–] Okokimup@lemmy.world 3 points 9 hours ago

Currently - need to find an apartment in another state. I will be visiting it next weekend, but none of the complexes in our price range will answer their phone or return Voicemail to set up an appointment.

My own brain. My depression is getting bad again, but I'll be restarting esketamine soon and I hope that'll help like it did last time.

[–] kbal@fedia.io 3 points 10 hours ago

The second law of thermodynamics.

[–] AstroLightz@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago

I want to code, but I don't know what to make that I would actually use.