My husband and I are trying to have a baby, so a positive test would be amazing.
this post was submitted on 22 Dec 2024
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I want a 2" diameter curling iron. I can't find them anywhere in store. They only go up to a 1 1/2" for some reason.
Also, I just killed my hair dryer last night so now I need a new one.
Unfortunately, there two items became needed over the past few days so it's too late to ask anyone for them. I'll just get them myself. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I already know what I'm getting because it was all disclosed via Amazon wishlist and (although I did have the "no spoilers" option or whatever is called enabled) my brother just blabbed it was empty.
I didn't have much on it tbf. But I guess I know what I'm getting. Except I've forgotten some of it by now, so it's kind of a surprise.
A particular orange turd to face the consequences of his actions or croak.
Well he'll never face criminal justice cuz he'll either pardon himself or have his final Big Mac Attack - and then he's replaced by Vance. My wish is for him to golf and tweet his way through another 4 years and hopefully the Dems get their shit more together.
This was all just a bad dream and I'm waking up to Mortal Kombat for the Sega Genesis under the tree in 1993.
No one mention any far right talking points
I want my council tax bill paid. They didn't take it for two years straight due to an administrative error - I even had a direct debit setup - but have only just now realised on their side and now they want all of it back at once. Paid off a big lump of it immediately but had to go on a payment plan where they take an extra £400 per month for the next quarter.
I HATE how errors like this favor the company. THEY fucked up, but can just dump it all on you.
yes they can argue that you shouldn't have spent the money and should have noticed, but if it were reversed, they'd fight to not pay you and delay it most likely. people that don't understand "shit happens" suck.
My wife to stop drinking.
man, similar boat. sometimes she can't even stand straight without teetering, and I'm tired of fighting over it. if anything, this will be the cause to our end.
I know how people here feel about reddit, but https://old.reddit.com/r/Alanon can help you get away or communicate better possibly.
Oooft hope my wife wouldn't write something like this about me. No actual drama but my routine of being a middle-class wine drinker sinking glasses in front of the tv in the evening could be considered problematic.
as long as you handle all your responsibilities, it is what it is. when I can't communicate with my partner or have to keep asking her to handle responsibilities or have the exact same conversation every day because she can't remember? that's a big problem. if I can't trust my partner, then why are we together.
New PC, new chain and sprocket for my moto, or pay down some debt would be nice, ain't gonna happen tho lol.
Wish I had friends to spend it with instead of a person who is abusive and swears at me every day.
Oh man that's so sad. Based on your posts & comments you seem like a lovely person. :( I'll be your friend!
Aww thank you. I appreciate your friendship.
More than three days off this month.
I want real freedom. It's basically impossible.
Freedom is free, comfort is what costs.
While I'm a huge fan of what you're saying, I'm more about going unimpeded. Barriers really suck.
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I want to have children, but cannot afford them for an undetermined amount of time. Fingers crossed that we'll have enough money someday!
Our experience is that basically the only really expensive thing is childcare. Are you eligible for subsidized, or free, care (or have trustworthy and willing relatives)?
As for gear, babies don't need much. But for what they do need, reach out to friends, neighbors, and family! We're fortunate that we could have afforded everything new, but we really only bought a few things because friends and randos alike gave us so much free kid stuff (we bought a nice stroller, a baby basket, and an IKEA crib
basically everything else was a hand-me-down). Join local "buy nothing" groups, or parent groups (sadly they're usually WhatsApp, but whatever). Most people hate throwing away stuff, and would rather it go to a good home.
Look at programs for subsidized/free necessities like diapers. There are lots of resources out there, especially in cities.
As everyone else said, no one feels ready. We certainly didn't!
3 kids here 12 and under. If you are mentally and emotionally ready for kids just do it. That's the big secret. You will never be ready financially. Kids adapt and will be happy so long as you are stable and can provide the most important necessities like love, a roof and food.
If I had serious financial stress I cannot imagine also having kid stress. What if one needs serious medical attention or has special education needs?
I dunno. This seems reckless.
Granted in America yes those are concerns we don't have to the same degree in Canada but all things considered having a kid is reckless anyways. You either adapt and make it work or you don't.
So, possible, but they probably won't. Anything can happen at any time and you could do everything right and it could all fail spontaneously and catastrophically through no fault of your own. Its not a likely outcome though.
It only seems reckless until you step back and think about it rationally. You can't expect to prepare for everything so spend your time on more legitimate worries.
Seconding other comments, you'll never ever be financially ready, there will always be new concerns, but that was true for most parents. People far less intelligent and less prepared than you have figured it out and done alright.
Happiness.
My mum to meet my daughter.
I have all that I can reasonably want that I could reasonably be given, so I'm making a gift instead, I'm off donating blood in half an hour, hopefully someone will appreciate it 😋
hopefully someone will appreciate it 😋
Not sure if wholesome, or wants there to be a car crash...
(I know what you mean, I just found it humorous.)
Ugh yes I worded that badly 🥲
A gift no one wants but will nonetheless appreciate?
A reversal of the cuts my health insurance is making and further to have all of my healthcare paid for by the insurance I pay a ton of money to have. Especially hurts since the insurance company is my employer, or at least I used to. Now they have the same parent company or whatever they call it these days.
Linux market share to grow more
B... But I thought 2025 would be the year of the Linux desktop!
To spend xmas with my grandparents that passed away!
Sex. Not gonna happen with the kids at home and houseguests.
What about your spouse/partner? Maybe they'd have sex with you instead?
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The motherboard in my computer is basically dead. Every morning I must perform voodoo to get just one more post.
But my computer is fairly old now and I can't justify just replacing the board for more money than upgrading the platform. 😔
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